Treasure3
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MadRabbit, to answer your question... If there were some reason such as work, family, even just a night out with the boys, I wouldn't be in this frame of mind. I can be the most patient person ever, and I do have my own activities and responsibilities, so it isn't that I need or even want days upon days of his time. There simply isn't a reason other than he doesn't seem to want to. He calls all hours of the day, often while watching TV, or cooking, or just lounging. He doesn't work and doesn't have people he is responsible to or for on a daily basis.
I guess maybe a little of my frustration is that I DO have responsibilities and, though I am fortunate to have a very flexible schedule, I still have to make time to see him, and I do so gladly. The more people that comment the more I realize it hurts that he seems to not want to take advantage of the opportunities we have to spend time together.
As to fault, I am not trying to place fault anywhere. I would love to come to a compromise, and that may well be simply saying, for example, "Instead of waiting until a few days before I want to see you, we will just say you will visit the third weekend of each month." I would know when I am going to see him again and would feel much more comfortable and relaxed. Yes, I may give up a visit or two when he might otherwise decide he wants to see me, but I would gladly give that up for the security of knowing it is always going to be x-number of weeks in between visits. An impromptu invitation here and there for an extra weekend would be a wonderful treat, but I wouldn't be hoping for it, if that makes sense.
< Message edited by Treasure3 -- 6/20/2007 4:17:35 PM >
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RE: Compromising on time together - 
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