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RE: Am I just kidding myself? - 6/24/2007 8:03:03 PM

Neeka

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that is hilarious....Im told that what I had was shit...I get people literally pointing and laughing at me and your repsonse is that Im immature?....Im nasty? and their comments are simply their opinions?

Others are able to give a comment...express a feeling but I am not?

Interesting double standard you have....based as you said having been cheated on.

This was actually the one place I thought I could come and at least find some small bit of compassion and/or understanding.
While several of you have been very kind and very helpful, I think I am pretty much done here. I cant imagine spending any time with a group of people so intent on ridiculing others. I must have slipped into the humiliation room by mistake.
It wont happen again.

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RE: Am I just kidding myself? - 6/24/2007 8:19:19 PM

maybemaybenot

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Neeka :

Let me suggest something to you. You are still hurt, you haven't had time to fully process what you have gone thru and found a little place to put each of your emotions. The fact that what many of us said was accurate is not a good feeling for you, understandably so. No one told you what you had was shit, more that it wasn't real. Not that your feelings weren't/aren't real, but that the relationship wasn't real.

Try moving away from this thread and engage in some others. This one is probably like a hair shirt for you and it isn't in your best interest any longer, to beat yourself up about it. My first thread here was met with some thoughts that I didn't like and I felt some were being unkind to me. After I hung around a while, I realized it is just different peoples style. If I had left I would have missed out on meeting some great people and learning a whole lot more than I knew when I came here.

Of course you are free to leave, I am just offering a different perspective.

mbmbn

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RE: Am I just kidding myself? - 6/25/2007 2:54:10 AM

becca333

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ORIGINAL: Neeka

Im so glad that my stumbling beginings were of such entertainment to some of you.

I guess we all get our jollies in different ways...for some of you its kicking someone while they are down.

How very courageous and ultra special of you.

You posted when you were really raw and wanting sympathy. And you did get that, from some of the posters. A lot of people tried to give you some good advice, for which you probably weren't ready. But just because they're telling you things you don't want to hear, don't accuse them of kicking you while you're down.

What did you expect us to say? I'm sorry you were hurt, and we should all probably have been more aware of that. But the fact remains, you chose to form a relationship with a man you knew was married. Then you complained that he was playing with others too - and seemed surprised by that. Did you think he'd be faithful to you? You already knew he was a liar and a cheat. And that's pretty much what most posters said.

Btw, you weren't ridiculed and kicked around for our entertainment, as you seem to think. Have a look at a few other threads - people were actually pretty kind to you. They just didn't say what you wanted to hear.

I'm sorry you're hurting, it's lousy and it'll take time to heal. Don't give up, find someone better. But don't expect a cheat to change his spots.

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RE: Am I just kidding myself? - 6/25/2007 6:03:37 AM

slaveish

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Neeka

that is hilarious....Im told that what I had was shit...I get people literally pointing and laughing at me and your repsonse is that Im immature?....Im nasty? and their comments are simply their opinions?

Others are able to give a comment...express a feeling but I am not?

Interesting double standard you have....based as you said having been cheated on.

This was actually the one place I thought I could come and at least find some small bit of compassion and/or understanding.
While several of you have been very kind and very helpful, I think I am pretty much done here. I cant imagine spending any time with a group of people so intent on ridiculing others. I must have slipped into the humiliation room by mistake.
It wont happen again.

~arched brow~

Your profile indicates that you are 45. You are not behaving as a woman with this number of years behind her. You can call me nasty all you wish - it does not change my replies to you.

This is a forum of real women, with real experiences, with real opinions, and real wisdom. Do not squander this opportunity on stabbed ego and hurt feelings. If you wanted compassion you should have said so instead of posting a story, asking for opinion and then acting out when you get it. Very manipulative.

I have reached my hand out to you. If you slap it again, so be it, but understand that I will not continue. Such vehement resistance in the face of reality is detrimental to personal growth. I wish you well in your journey.

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If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. ~~Mother Teresa

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RE: Am I just kidding myself? - 6/25/2007 7:32:38 AM

bladedom

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IM, email, and chat are tools, realtionships happen in person. Whatever issues you are dealing with they can only be resolved by talking with, interacting with, and serving a Master or Mistress up close and personal.

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