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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife

I would let someone run a check on me. I would sit smiling while they let me know how they had found no more than a speeding ticket from 22 years ago. Then I would explain to them how I just couldn't bear the thought of being with a paranoid control freak, and promptly take my leave.

Owner of slave L

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ORIGINAL: themischievous1


Owner of slave L:

You obviously must not have children. If you do/did, you would be far more concerned about this issue than you evidently are. Those who do have children who could be exposed to a potential D/s aquaintance, play partner, etc. need to be running criminal history checks and at the very least, checking out said individual in the sex offender data base. Anything less is criminal, in my humble opinion of course.

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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife

But regardless of that, I would not tolerate being subjected to a criminal background check if meeting for coffee with a vanilla, and I would not stand for it with someone in the BDSM community either. If they are that paranoid, I would feel that subjecting myself to such a degree of mental instability would be detrimental to my own psyche.

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Besides this, it is faulty reasoning. Do you subject your physician to a criminal background check before making an appointment? Do you subject a taxi driver to a check before getting in the cab? Do you dial the police and check the credentials of the postman before opening the door and signing for a package? Do you have the kindergarten teacher screened before dropping your child off the first day of school? What? You don't? What a negligent mother you are to subject your children to such terrible danger!

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So please, don't give me this self righteous appeal to the safety of children crap. You are applying a double standard that ignores potential danger in virtually every aspect of your life, but suddenly go holier than thou when it comes to BDSM. What a crock of grade A fertilizer.

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ORIGINAL: themischievous1

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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife

But regardless of that, I would not tolerate being subjected to a criminal background check if meeting for coffee with a vanilla, and I would not stand for it with someone in the BDSM community either. If they are that paranoid, I would feel that subjecting myself to such a degree of mental instability would be detrimental to my own psyche.

Actually, in my opinion, it's mentally unstable not to do appropriate due dilligence on that perfect stranger one is letting into their life, accepting everything they say as factual. Yes, that's definitely my definition of insanity these days. And whether or not they're involved in BDSM hasn't got a damn thing to do with it. I would do the same check on any vanilla stranger out there if we were going to be physically intimate and they were going to be anywhere near my child. You wouldn't. I'm glad you have no intention of having children. Faulty judgment doesn't make for good parenting skills.

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Besides this, it is faulty reasoning. Do you subject your physician to a criminal background check before making an appointment? Do you subject a taxi driver to a check before getting in the cab? Do you dial the police and check the credentials of the postman before opening the door and signing for a package? Do you have the kindergarten teacher screened before dropping your child off the first day of school? What? You don't? What a negligent mother you are to subject your children to such terrible danger!

The examples you offer here are absurd and are not applicable to me, however the kindergarden teacher example is applicable. I assure you that I would have the kindergarden teacher checked out if he were male. There are far more male pedophiles out there than female. That is a fact.

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So please, don't give me this self righteous appeal to the safety of children crap. You are applying a double standard that ignores potential danger in virtually every aspect of your life, but suddenly go holier than thou when it comes to BDSM. What a crock of grade A fertilizer.

You assume direct knowledge of my personal actions in regard to my child that you have absolutely no way of knowing anything about. You are generalizing, stereotyping and again assuming that I "go all holier than thou when it comes to BDSM." Again, I do not. I apply the same standard to any vanilla stranger I might interact with in an intimate manner as I would someone into BDSM. I attempt to be cautious and excercise good judgment when it comes to one whom I present as trustworthy to my child. Pedophiles count on attitudes such as yours when they seek out naive single mothers to score with. Your position on this does our community of single mothers no favor and it reeks of haphazard, shoddy, unsafe practice in regard to practicing risk aware consensual kink.

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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife

Get back to me after researching how many teachers and doctors have been brought up on charges for molesting their students and patients. There is nothing absurd about it.

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Now please excuse me while I shovel this manure. It is beginning to reek with the sharp odor of hypocrisy.

Owner of slave L

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ORIGINAL: themischievous1

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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife

Get back to me after researching how many teachers and doctors have been brought up on charges for molesting their students and patients. There is nothing absurd about it.

Which entirely proves my point about why criminal background checks upon one's prospective intimate partner should be a given. I already said that I would check out the teacher. Get over yourself. And my child isn't ever alone with the pediatrician. I'm always present during any examination or interaction there.

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Now please excuse me while I shovel this manure. It is beginning to reek with the sharp odor of hypocrisy.

Owner of slave L

I think your nose is hypersensitive to the bullshit you've been spewing earlier, but never mind that, I'll excuse you. Your position is inconsistent, weak, and has no adequate defense. I'm sure you'll desire the last word though...heh. And you may have it if you so desire. Goodnight.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Using fast reply here.....

Just as an aside.........anyone that applies for a position in a school (at least here in Iowa ) is subject to a much more thorough background check by the school system than ANY individual could possibly do. IF someone got by that intense scrutiny they would already have no criminal record for a parent to check. I only know this because a former employee of mine applied to be a janitor at a school and even I was surprised at their thoroughness.

Another thing to consider when talking about male teachers, which I think is rediculous btw, do you also check the other men that work in the school that will have contact with your children? As example....the janitors, principle, bus drivers, etc. And yes, what about the medical professionals?

Or the paperboy, or mailman, or any other number of people that your children are exposed to on a daily basis. From what I understand the person that hurts a child in this way is quite often the last person we expect it to be. A relative, cubscout leader, church personel, etc. The best protection a parent can give a child is education and power, without making them paranoid freaks.