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velvetears -> RE: BBW? (6/21/2007 3:06:08 PM)
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If a peron has small breasts, freckles, too tall, too short she bears no responsibility in the aquirement as they are simply part of her genetics. She is not looked at with disdain and assumed that she's lazy, weak, gluttonous etc. This doesn't apply if you are fat. People blame you for it. They assume you can change it, would want to change it, need to change it, etc... but more importantly they assume should change it to be accepted. Sort of like - well you bring on the riducule yourself because it's your fault you are fat. i think adopting a term which turns around all those assumptions and turns around the image of fat into a positive image, these women are basically flipping off those who hold those assumptions, without actually using their middle finger.
We all identify with labels, whatever they may be - doctors call themselves Dr. Soandso, alcoholics define themselves as recovering or active alcoholics, athletes by the sport they play, musicians by the instrument they play etc... the list is endless, but most don't go, "Hi i am an alcoholic and my name is Lisa" unless they are at an AA meeting. i have never heard a fat woman say, "Hi i am a fat woman named Lisa". Online you might just as others have said, to let others know as a weeding process because most prefer HWP women, just makes life easier and finding a match simpler.
The term BBW, for the most part as i see it, is less a label and more of a social movement towards making fat acceptable and giving those who are affected negatively by the judgments of others a safe, accepting place to identify.
Fat, tall, thin, short, freckled, pale, dark, skinny are all adjectives, the word itself holds no malice, the person speaking it might though. If i were speaking to someone and needed to describe a person i might say they were short or tall, blond, brunette, short or long hair but i probably would not say fat only because i know, to people in general, it is seen as a deragotary term, so i might say - heavy set. The term is only derogatory because of attitudes we carry about this adjective. i have no problem at all using the word fat to describe me - it's just a word, there are many others i would use as well. i probably would not say it in public because others would probably feel uncomfortable and be offended and my intention isn't to make others uncomfortable when i am in a social situation, so i follow the accepted social norms, for others sake. If someone calls me fat, what of it? i am. If they say it to demean me they fail and only make themselves look bad.
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