chiaThePet
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Will loving
one so deeply affect how one approaches Their need to exert authority.
And will the submissive at some point use this knowledge to change the
dynamic, being aware of the care and love which is felt for them?
Respectfully, chia* (the pet)
Good morning Chia....Flip the above statement on its head. Being as love and submissiveness are two powerful emotions, would one try twice as hard, since there is twice as much to lose ?
i think at some level, if you see someone on a regular basis, there is always an attachment of sorts, for if not, why would you return ? And i dont mean love in this instance, just simply looking forward to seeing someone who undertsands how ones mind works ?
The first Domme who understands how mine works wins a free bar of chocolate. 
Hi PS,
i do agree that one will return even if just a fetish or need is met in the physical
sense, and sometimes just an exchange of thoughts within simple communication
can be cherished as glorious, as you point out, looking forward to sharing with
someone whom understands how you feel within.
i suppose what i wrote there, was my questioning that with the addition of love,
the love most associated within vanilla relationships, the dynamic may change
in that a Dominant may hesitate in Their requirements, perhaps easing up on
Their own needs, and a submissive might recognize such hesitation, either
finding weakness in the dynamic, or using said hesitation to their own advantage.
For example, if a Dominant finds great pleasure in flogging Their submissive to
the point of tears, will Their deep love for Their submissive give pause to causing
such pain, thereby interrupting the dynamic in it's purity? Will the submissive
recognize this pause and use such to control the intensity of the flogging, realizing
that their tears now not only hold pleasure for their Dominant, but also become
a controlling factor to the intensity of the flogging, because they sense also that
the love their Dominant feels for them may in fact now cause pain to the Dominant
Themselves during the application of said desires? Does love change the dynamic?
i am admittedly a boy with many questions in my head and heart concerning those
things which i find along the way in my exploration. The seeds of my submissive
nature were planted long ago, taking strong root that i would always feel such as
i grew older. The long interruption which found me shoulder to shoulder with
the vanilla world and it's incorrect correctness is suddenly gone, but yet i find
strong traces of such even here, though i am not really sure exactly what my
expectations are, or should be, or if i should expect anything of it at all. i know
what i am, why i have come, and have tried to keep my perspective on a page
of reality. i have not ventured to many places, my own fault i know, but i also
found endless images and ideology which did not fit my own sense of self, thus
i tended to back off on the whole exploration journey. i have found both the
existence of vanilla flavoring, and the denial of such depending on destination.
Another example is the posting of littlesarbonn on another thread in the forums.
A beautifully written and guiding inspiration for submissives to consider. In
retrospect, i found myself realizing that "i" was "that boy" in my studies at
MystressWorld. It is expected, plain and simple, rules are rules, to be obeyed,
anything less can and will lead to dismissal. Then i ventured here, and not to say
that protocol goes out the window in the forums, but i did take notice of a more
relaxed, less strict, "vanilla added" type of exchange. Hey, give a boy some
candy and "bam", sugar overload has him bouncing off the walls. Perhaps it was
just pent up need to vent meets opportunity of eased restrictions, allowing that
badboy in me to kick up a little dust. Yeah, it felt good, but the coming down
from a sugar high isn't so great i must say. i tasted vanilla and i liiiiiiked it, never
considering the aftermath of over-indulging.
Sorry if i'm rambling here, don't mean to. All this said, i simply wonder what
effect the merging of vanilla into D/s relationships ultimately has. Forgive me
my inexperience in dealing with such, i learn as i go, hopefully more enlightened
of those whom generously share of their knowledge. Yes Ladies and germs,
someone is always looking and listening, eyes wide open, as the teachers teach.
Have a great day politesub, thanks for coming on aboard and stirring thoughts.
Respectfully, chia* (the pet)
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Love is a many splendid sting.
You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.
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