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grlneedstolearn -> Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 8:34:39 PM)

Good evening,
  i was reading a post on older Doms/Dommes and it got me thinking as to why people would prefer older Doms/Dommes to younger closer to age Doms/Dommes. i have nothing against older Doms since mine is older. i wanted to know other opinions on this topic.
   Thank to all




countrygirl69 -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 8:37:37 PM)

I personally think it is because people think older equals more experience.




bandit25 -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 8:40:18 PM)

I think you're correct; however, I don't know why we equate experience with compatibility.




sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 8:51:34 PM)

for me, it's not about experience and compatiblity ...it's about having similar interests and goals. personally, i would have nothing in common with a younger Dom however i relate better with someone who's older or close to my age.




grlneedstolearn -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 8:55:28 PM)

The responses do make sense yes, does this also apply if the Dom looks much older than he really is?




spanklette -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 9:07:34 PM)

My Daddy is 15 years my senior, but it really wasn't ever about preference...it was about our compatibility. We get along, He's got a strong work ethic (which I tend to find lacking in some of my peers), He's had a variety of experiences, although, I've been in the lifestyle longer. Mostly, He's my mate.
 
Really, it was never my plan to have a Dominant that was older, but it was probably inevitable.
 
And, as to why others have a preference for older Dominants, well, I have no real evidence, but I would imagine that life experience and financial stability have a lot going for them.




DiurnalVampire -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 9:16:21 PM)

I am older than both my pets.  Angel has a fetish for a Mommy figure, which would be dificult to get from someone younger than him (at 22).  Kitten is way too mature for his ge, and has always tended to be too inteligent for the othes he knew of his own age (hes 21) and so he prefers  older women romantically.
It had nothing to do with experience, since they were both novices when I got them.  Kitten didnt even come to me with the intention nor desire to be my pet. Its just a matter of preference.
ACcoring to my vanilla coworkers who know I am dating Kitten.. I am a "stud"
DV




LadyHeart -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 9:17:38 PM)

I'm not sure that it's about experience so much as confidence. Many older Dominants project more self confidence, and therefore we tend to think of them as being more trustworthy (although that's not necessarily the case). It also depends upon whether the submissive is looking for 24/7 or casual play. For casual play, subs often pick older Dominants, where those looking for 24/7 often look for those nearer to their own age. (Some see the age difference as a protection against inappropriate emotional involvement)
:))
LH




ownedgirlie -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 9:35:21 PM)

For me it kind of went like this -

This man came into my life and saw right into me, and immediately I could not help but begin to feel something inside, from our very first conversation.  I did not know what he looked like.  I did not know his age.  By the second conversation I was feeling affected by him already and when he told me his age (17 years older than me) I said OK, and when I told him my age he said "Hmm, OK."  He was concerned about the age difference.  I didn't care either way.

So for me it wasn't a preference.  It just occurred that way.




subitodolce -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 9:45:00 PM)

My Dom is 3 years my younger. :-) Granted, all but one of my vanilla relationships have been with men younger than me. I guess it's not really the age that has ever struck me with a partner, it's been maturity and intelligence. It's always been the brain that I fall for, not the body that holds it.




chiaThePet -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 10:05:08 PM)

i originally posted this to another thread, but thought it apropos for this one too.

The advantages of the Older Domme, or, why i LOVE older Women!

A boy can get away from Her much easier, even
while wearing chains, ankle and hand cuffs.
 
Slipping out of those granny knots rekindles
fond memories of childhood Houdini play.
 
During stomping, a one inch orthopedic heel 
causes far less damage than a six inch pump.
 
Trips to the drug store begin to outnumber
trips to the dungeon and whipping post.
 
Bengay and tiger balm become too precious
a commodity to waste on a boy.
 
Clip on earrings do much less damage than do
pierced when applied to a boy's tender flesh.

Golden showers become golden moments, more
than a trickle, less than a splash, it "depends".

Canes often come included, allowing for the
purchase of that premium leather lined walker.

A boy can use Her old Lady panties as a white
flag of surrender when he finally gives up.

Her dresses will fit the average male in a much
more fashion forward way during Feminization.

Rocking chairs make for the greatest strap-on
aids, "just squat boy, it'll do the rest".

No feminine napkins laying around the house
for a boy to mistakenly set the table with.

Safe words like Bingo and Yahtzee bring an
immediate celebration and a quick end to the pain.
 
Shaken not stirred refers to Her martini preference, 
not the state of Her boy's head.

BDSM is now defined as Bedtime Does
Sound Marvelous.

Branding is the hot names like Wang
and Dior on Her outfit labels.

She forgets to lock the cage, allowing for
those late night trips to the fridge.

Electric play is limited to finding the light
switch in the middle of the night.
 
Celebrating Her birth everyday with candles,
keeps those heating bills to a bare minimum.

AND......... ......... ......... ......... ......

She knows where She has been, where She 
is going, and exactly how to get there.

When She looks in the mirror, determination,
wisdom and experience smile back.

Each softly creased line a story of a battle
won, each a path of strength that overcame.

She has tasted of Her desires and has perfected
the delectable recipe of Her wishes.

Her hands move with grace and swiftness, exacting
their intentions on weakened flesh.

Within Her heart exists the power of compassion,
expectation, clear and absolute rule.

Knowledge is Her steady companion, the keen
awareness on a road of foolish souls.

Her patience is a sweet bouquet of roses, it's
thorns digging deep when limits are tested.

She has no place or time for hesitation, as it
wastes away at Her precious days.

Her requirements are gifts to those whom find
genuine obedience in their purpose.

She can look deep into the eyes of another,
break their resistance and melt their resolve.

It is Her right to demand loyalty, devotion
and surrender, She owns that which is Hers.

She knows how to turn a boy inside out, then
will command him to clean up the mess.
 
She doesn't own a toybox, She possesses
an arsenal of Weapons of Mass Domination.

She can tie a knot around a boy's mind without
ever lifting a finger to tighten the rope.

Her life is not one of play, She lives each
moment in the truth of Her Dominant heart.

Respectfully, chia* (the pet)

(And an Older Domme has the greatest
sense of humor a boy could hope for)





aidan -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/22/2007 11:42:58 PM)

I can defintely relate to Diurnal Vampire's Angel and Kitten. I too have the attraction to a maternal figure, and I've always been awkward around most folks in my age bracket. That usually ends with an attraction to mature Dominants.

Now, I'm not opposed to, and would actually like, a relationship with a Dominant my age. I just don't know many, and they're all involved or live across the country.




jauntyone -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 1:40:31 AM)

Greetings
 
For myself, age is not a factor at all. Nor is experience. What did matter was my feelings for the man I now call not only Master, but aslo my husband, best friend, lover, cofident, companion...
 
When I first met him, I had nothing in my mind about how much experience he had, how old he was, etc. The only thing that kept him in my thoughts was 'wow, he's gorgeous, I like him, he's nice, he's kind, and he LIKES ME'
 
Master could have been totally different and I still would have fallen in love with him because of the kind of person he was; not because of his age or experience.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa




nellyyas -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 2:22:52 AM)

hi there my name is faustina from ghana 22yrs.i am new here and i would like to make friends from any where well i am a female.i am fair in complexion 5ft,8inch.slim black hair with white eyes and pointed nose.




becca333 -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 3:22:03 AM)

chia - you're glorious.




salilus -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 4:42:21 AM)

I tried dating people closer to my age and it just never worked.
Of course, I didn't consciously go looking for someone 11 years older than me, but his maturity is comforting.

I've also always been a Daddy's girl and it's rather hard to see someone as 'Daddy' who's younger or close to one's own age.




macy -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 5:09:06 AM)

Personally, age has nothing to do with whether or not I am interested in someone or not. They could be ten years younger ( well, not really considering that it would make it wrong ) or ten years older. If he is interesting and the attraction is there; that's all that matters to me. The rest comes with time together.




chiaThePet -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 6:37:26 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: becca333

chia - you're glorious.


Dear becca333,

And humbled dear one, such a wonderful compliment, Thank You so much! 

Respectfully, chia* (the pet)




sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 6:53:48 AM)

Older does not equate more experience. We all have preferences on things we want in a Dominant. I prefer older men and women. It is just something I like about someone older. I am 34 and Master is 55. Older men and women in the ones I have been with seem to know what it is they want and what works.




grlneedstolearn -> RE: Older Doms/Dommes? (6/23/2007 8:04:19 AM)

Good morning,
  i am sorry Chia for hijacking your thread, i just didn't look in the right threads :(.




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