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PairOfDimes -> RE: Where to start? (A starting dom seeking advice) (6/24/2007 6:56:11 AM)
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You could google "Huntsville BDSM resources" and come up with similar keywords. "Munch" is another good one.
As for general tips: read voraciously, and analyze critically. Learn all the different ways people do BDSM, and think hard about how *you* want to do BDSM--not what seems most glamorous or most revered by the community, but what seems most satisfying to you.
I've had better success meeting compatible submissives (female and male alike) at in-person group meetings than online. I'm happy to see that you're entertaining the idea of participating in a community--I think this should make it much easier.
Self-confidence is attractive, and should you have confidence, it's good to know how to communicate it. Think of interview advice--sit up straight, look people in the eye, speak clearly and in complete sentences. Observe social graces, and err on the side of formality, as a rule. If it needs to be said, all submissives are not your submissive, all dominants are not your dominant. As a fairly new person, you may often find yourself in the position of the most ignorant person in the room, thus, it's particularly important for you to develop an attractive way of saying, "I don't know," that doesn't wholly destroy either your inner sense of security or your outward projection of confidence.
Finally, your current writing is okay, in that I can figure out what you mean, but it could be improved to make it more pleasant to read. Most likely, much of your congress with other BDSMers will occur via email, even when you first meet people at face-to-face functions, and so it's important to pay attention to your written words. Try to make short, complete sentences, expressing only one idea each. Remember to take care with capitalization, punctuation, and spelling. And proofread!
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