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ORIGINAL: AlphaGeek

Each and every one of us is responsible for what we've been, what we are, and most important of all, what we shall be.

Anyone telling you different is either seeking to place blame elsewhere or looking for money from some source or another.

Solely my opinion, your mileage may vary.

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ORIGINAL: cheekybottom



What of a person’s memories, the very things that grab at you even in the face of something new. When you let go, do you do you let go completely?

~d~

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ORIGINAL: cheekybottom

Please forgive the flowery speech smiles. While I might seem romanticized over BDSM I’m no more so romanticized in that area than in any other area of my life, it is who I am.

A Dominant accepts certain responsibilities in the training of a submissive or property as it were, that is not to say that the submissive does not have any responsibilities within the dynamics of each particular relationship, but when this submissive asks to be released or released by the Dominant the Dominant is still in part responsible for which they created, just as the submissive is now held responsible for the care and keeping of herself once alone until the next Dominant claims her. Even though she now becomes someone else’s responsibility I wonder does the Dominant not still feel responsible in some way.

I am not a Dominant, and so this is a curiosity of mine. When you let go, do you let go completely? As in your responsibility ends even though you helped shape, does it stop for you when someone picks up where you left off? Or does it continue on even though you no longer wish for the responsibility and care of her?

~d~

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ORIGINAL: cheekybottom

Please forgive the flowery speech smiles.

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A Dominant accepts certain responsibilities in the training of a submissive or property as it were, that is not to say that the submissive does not have any responsibilities within the dynamics of each particular relationship, but when this submissive asks to be released or released by the Dominant the Dominant is still in part responsible for which they created, just as the submissive is now held responsible for the care and keeping of herself once alone until the next Dominant claims her. Even though she now becomes someone else’s responsibility I wonder does the Dominant not still feel responsible in some way.

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I am not a Dominant, and so this is a curiosity of mine. When you let go, do you let go completely?

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As in your responsibility ends even though you helped shape, does it stop for you when someone picks up where you left off? Or does it continue on even though you no longer wish for the responsibility and care of her?

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ORIGINAL: cheekybottom

"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it. You remain responsible forever, for what you have tamed." -Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince


Displayed before you, an admirable work of art graceful in presence, she is as the mirror you’re property resting effortlessly against the wall, a shiny piece of silver, calm and divinely accepting, appreciating the care your labors bring her, you’ve polished her until she shown pristine, the image reflected back stands proud and pleased.

There comes a day when the reflection changes, if what you see is dust, do you miss what is lost? And if there is a new image before you, can you look past it, and see the echo it left behind?

Tell me Sir, everything you’ve ever acquired, and tamed, do you not wake in the night and remember? Do you wonder what’s become of such Mastery?

When the fabric of time ripples across your dreams, tell me Sir does this responsibility twist, and bunch in your sleep? Perhaps it cocoons you or still yet does it instead slip off your body without a care, all crumpled and used upon the dawns floor?

Left responsible…

Dominant: name with held

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Sometimes I stand in front of the window wondering about the world -- wondering about the scarlet women I've known and owned and opened. Somewhere beyond my window, their lives go on without me. The sorrows of an occasional phone call serve to fill in the blanks.

Maybe two years ago I ran into a former slave at the Guggenheim. Ten years earlier we had listened to each other's skin as if it were made of music, but when we saw each other again, we couldn't actually bring ourselves to touch. Old electricity would have moved through us.

Responsibility? Well, as Dominique Aury said to Jean Paulhan, "You should never have agreed to be a god for me if you were afraid to assume the duties of a god." When I was younger I used to worry about damaging something beautiful, but I don't think that way any longer. We don't need to protect a fragile innocence; the universe will always provide new beauty.

I made room in my heart for them once, for the girls who were mine, for the girls who learned to open and obey. They are beautiful bruises in the universe, scarlet women in a world that is so black-and-white. Once we knew each other so well that our intimacy bordered on telepathy, and now we are vibrant strangers in the museum. Once they served me so deeply that they could almost anticipate my desires, and now I stand at the window, wondering.

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You’ve answered my musings, and yet I’m still left wanting. These Scarlet women in which you speak, I now speculate about them as well, and can’t help but to know that I am one of them, not yours, but someone else’s. I am one of these Scarlet wraiths left scratching at His mind.

Left responsible…

Sir, do you feel responsible?

The Dominants who polished you, and help make who you are today:

1. Are there parts of you that you don’t care for because of Their polishing?
2. Do you hold Them responsible?
3. And remember it stands to reason that if you hold another responsible for the negative, then you must also hold them responsible for the positive.

Left responsible, these scarlet women who bleed your mind…

~d~

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ORIGINAL: happypervert

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You are responsible for which you helped create and I am responsible for agreeing with such creating.

Not me. This may apply to guys with what LadyAngelika calls a Pygmalion complex where they try to mold their partner into "something". However the ladies I'm attracted to tend to have enough going for them that I wouldn't want to change them, and I can't even see any reason to be involved with someone that I would want to train to be something else or who would be so malleable. Even this notion of "training" is alien to me -- I think it is just a fancy way of saying a partner learns another's preferences as in any normal relationship.

I feel some responsibility for the influence I've had over the years on my friend's son, but none at all for any influence I've had on adults.

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Not me. This may apply to guys with what LadyAngelika calls a Pygmalion complex where they try to mold their partner into "something". However the ladies I'm attracted to tend to have enough going for them that I wouldn't want to change them, and I can't even see any reason to be involved with someone that I would want to train to be something else or who would be so malleable. Even this notion of "training" is alien to me -- I think it is just a fancy way of saying a partner learns another's preferences as in any normal relationship.
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alien? "any reason to be involved with someone that i would want to train to be something else or someone whom would be so malleable"

*******okay, let me please analyze this. since i am, male, and you are discussing dommes. i am a rough edged coin. not yet polished. more vanilla kid than 20 year veteran slave. for a domme to take me under Her wing, and mold me to a better slave, to be mallebale enough, TO mold, is what it takes for me to be a good student of Her teaching. how do you figure any dominant is going to polish any sub/slave if they are not, malleable?
you can stand there all day trying to polish concrete but it is not going to happen.
but pick out a rough stone out of a stream and put it on a polishing wheel, and soon you have something of rare beauty.
i apologize but i find your answer illogical, irrational, and most disheartening.
thank you, for my time here.
a hopeful male slave, waiting to become polished and be malleable, to be so.

the lone wolf

(in reply to happypervert)