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Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 12:30:00 PM

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Have any of you subs ever experienced this form of play or domination??

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 12:32:58 PM

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Scary? No, just somewhat... shady. "Tribute" is one thing, but having domination take the form of simply taking money to someone seems like borderline fraud.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 1:59:49 PM

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Master can financialy Dominate me all he wants... its real easy to Dominate nothing LOL

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 2:36:52 PM

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Yeah, I don't think the word "scary" is the one I would choose.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 2:48:24 PM

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*tossing my own personal bloodless turnip up and down in my hand*

No problem!!...they're welcome to whatever they can squeeze out.... lol

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 2:53:31 PM

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If I was in a 24/7, married relationship, then it would go into the same account to take care of whatever needs the family had, since I am single and MJ an I are not living together, I don't see any issues; I have been off assignment for a while, so the only money that I have coming in is child support; and that can't be touched.

I think that males are more apt to be financially dominated, as so many dommes want to be taken care of and to use their males as an ATM.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 3:06:27 PM

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*tossing my own personal bloodless turnip up and down in my hand*

No problem!!...they're welcome to whatever they can squeeze out.... lol

juliet

LOL my point exactly!!

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 3:20:01 PM

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Yeah the government already does a pretty good job of dominating me in that area. After taxes and student loan payments there isn't much left lol

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 3:27:01 PM

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I don't think financial domination necessarily means one person taking money from another person. I control almost all of the finances in my relationship, but I would never take his money away from him to spend it on things for myself. Rather, I force him to save a good part of his income, and I may veto purchases that I consider unnecessary or frivolous. Financial control is one thing, abuse of that power is another.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 3:38:09 PM

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I agree with Misstress...and while I concede there are some who probably perpetrate fraud, controlling the finances of one's submissive partner doesn't necessary imply milking them. In my case, it would simply mean that she is given allowances for certain things - and anything else that comes up is discussed.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 3:50:30 PM

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Financial domination is something that requires thought and consideration.

I wonder just how far this can be taken, certainly many Dominant/Master types would not be able to enjoy such as they themselves believe it their responsibility to support their submissives/ slaves. It takes a strong force of will I believe to be on both ends of true financial domination, and it is much easier in a polyamorous relationship. I don’t think it’s just domes that wish to use their submissives as an ATM; many subs use their service as justification for the same of their dominants.

Like in all things, it is a choice of the individuals involved. I think it would be very difficult to be fully supported by a slave (or two). In our society it is all too often the male who HAS to be the bread winner; from both male and female points of view. There are many women on this sight that wouldn’t ever consider serving a Dominant/ Master, while they worked and he did not. (Some even ask for annual income reports?)

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 3:51:06 PM

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i think it's a factor that keeps a number of finacially successful subs at bay . tribute and generosity is one thing and it's done with pleasure because you care for your Domme, but if their intent is to financially strip someone, then that's not somebody who deserves your body, mind and soul, imo. it's easy to give yourself up completely if you have little to begin with. i would guess that if a sub man was willing to be taken financially, then he's in way over his head with someone who normally wouldn't give you the time of day and if they're both fine with that, more power to them! in my case, being a switch, i think i could only trust my soul with another switch who was also willing to lay their soul on the line. i haven't been living in the lifestyle, so it's all hypothetical for me.as i learn more about it, there's more than enough subs to go around in relation to Dommes, so if you want to play, you're gonna pay! my thinking lately is not to embrace my submissive desires, rather hone my Dom skills. but, hey tomorrow i may think something else! (that's the problem with a switch)

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 4:07:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeFemme415

Have any of you subs ever experienced this form of play or domination??

Nope, never experienced it, and never had a desire to. Not sure why anyone would be afraid of it though?

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 4:14:42 PM

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The only thing scary about financial domination are the fools that fall for it. People that are that dumb; scare me.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 4:22:40 PM

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The only thing scary about financial domination are the fools that fall for it. People that are that dumb; scare me.

Why does financial domination have to be any different than any other kind of domination? To allow someone to dominate any aspect of your life, you have to trust them to take your best interests into account when making the decisions that you have allowed them control over. If you don't trust them, i.e. you think they are going to cut you up into little pieces and bury you in the backyard, then you shouldn't be submitting to them in any mannor, financial or otherwise. Likewise, if you think they will just take all your money and spend it on shoes, you probably shouldn't be submitting to them (unless you really like shoes). But, if the right trust does exist between partners, then I think control over someone's finances is exactly the same as control over any other aspect of his or her life.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 5:10:43 PM

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Transfering authority over all financial decisions was expected of me when I became his slave. Anyone who enters his house to be owned by him will transfer all authority over financial matters.

I did not find it scary at all; I did have trouble doing it because this was one area where I maintained my indepence for a long time. I just didn't like anyone knowing about my finances. Now, I don't even think twice about it; he makes all the decisions and I don't spend any money without his approval. I am significantly more financially secure since I transferred the authority to him.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 5:14:26 PM

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The only thing scary about financial domination are the fools that fall for it. People that are that dumb; scare me.

Dumb huh? Don't think anyone who knows me would consider me dumb.

I trust him with my body, my heart, my soul, my well-being. I trust him not to damage or harm me. Trusting him with money was easy after all that.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 5:15:15 PM

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quote:

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The only thing scary about financial domination are the fools that fall for it. People that are that dumb; scare me.

Why does financial domination have to be any different than any other kind of domination? To allow someone to dominate any aspect of your life, you have to trust them to take your best interests into account when making the decisions that you have allowed them control over. If you don't trust them, i.e. you think they are going to cut you up into little pieces and bury you in the backyard, then you shouldn't be submitting to them in any mannor, financial or otherwise. Likewise, if you think they will just take all your money and spend it on shoes, you probably shouldn't be submitting to them (unless you really like shoes). But, if the right trust does exist between partners, then I think control over someone's finances is exactly the same as control over any other aspect of his or her life.

if they were taking your best interests at heart, that's one thing. but, still i couldn't ever see going for that unless you were legally married. my exwife handled all the money and did a reasonably good job with it. but, now after years of being single and spoiled, it would be hard to go back!

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 5:30:28 PM

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In my mind, there is a distinction between financial Domination and financial control. Someone who is essentially taking control of your finances has motivations that I would be very wary of. Someone who is Dominating you - exercising some sort of influence on aspects of the ways you spend your money - is doing something quite different. They are extending their care for you into yet another area of your life. I would see Domination taking place in areas of discretionary spending - they limit your spending money so you can't buy yourself junk food at lunchtime, for example. They insist that you save. They require you to discuss major purchases so they can influence you if you are a bit of a spend thrift. But taking over all of your money? Unless it's a 24/7 relationship, I wouldn't even consider it. I would be looking at the motivation behind the act - is it essentially in your best interests, or is all about them taking control for reasons of their own?
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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 6/25/2007 5:46:54 PM

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LadyHeart, I like your distinction between financial control and financial domination. That makes a lot of sense, and I see there is a big difference.

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