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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 6:28:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

IF you think your Dominant is going to steal your money perhaps you shouldn't be with Him/Her.  Trust issues????


Being dominant doesn't automatically make you good with money. I'm sure there are plenty of relationships where the submissive is the one who manages the money.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 6:39:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

IF you think your Dominant is going to steal your money perhaps you shouldn't be with Him/Her.  Trust issues????


Being dominant doesn't automatically make you good with money. I'm sure there are plenty of relationships where the submissive is the one who manages the money.


Financial domination and managing aren't quite the same thing.  My financial advisor manages My money (she's a Goddess)  but I am still in control of it.  I can stop paying her and put My money elsewhere.  Just as I may assume that the sub manages money but the Dominant is in Financial control of it.  But that is neither here no there as it relates to the thread is it? I think the OP's view is clear, the Dominant controlling money and is there fear in that regard.  We can have another thread debating the money management skills of Dominants. 

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 6:44:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

Financial domination and managing aren't quite the same thing.  My financial advisor manages My money (she's a Goddess)  but I am still in control of it.  I can stop paying her and put My money elsewhere.  Just as I may assume that the sub manages money but the Dominant is in Financial control of it.  But that is neither here no there as it relates to the thread is it? I think the OP's view is clear, the Dominant controlling money and is there fear in that regard.  We can have another thread debating the money management skills of Dominants. 


Just trying to make the point that it's a reasonable thing to be concerned about. Being dominant doesn't make someone a good person and there are people who I know wouldn't kill me so I would trust them to scene with me. But I won't lend them money. Just my point of view of course.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 7:29:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Then imagine the 70 year old man that is taken by one of these so called money Dommes. Furnace broke, no money to fix it. Oh, the house, gone with her too. I have seen this happen by greedy Dommes. Anyone that takes money to satisfy anothers fetish is a whore; plain and simple. Be man or woman...a whore.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 8:10:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh good lord. A few greedy money doms don't condemn the whole bunch. Otherwise every male dom is just out to kill and rape, every female sub has been molested and doesn't know how to take care of herself, every fem dom is just a bitch with man issues, and every male sub is just a pansy who needs a mother figure.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 10:36:36 PM   
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Financial domination and managing aren't quite the same thing.  My financial advisor manages My money (she's a Goddess)  but I am still in control of it.  I can stop paying her and put My money elsewhere.  Just as I may assume that the sub manages money but the Dominant is in Financial control of it.  But that is neither here no there as it relates to the thread is it? I think the OP's view is clear, the Dominant controlling money and is there fear in that regard.  We can have another thread debating the money management skills of Dominants. 


Just trying to make the point that it's a reasonable thing to be concerned about. Being dominant doesn't make someone a good person and there are people who I know wouldn't kill me so I would trust them to scene with me. But I won't lend them money. Just my point of view of course.


The OP is referring not to Tops i.e. someone you scene with but don't live with or who has no personal day to day responsibility for you but to Dominants i.e. Master/Mistress or whatever flavour of title is in use in One's household.  I safely assume (the OP being in the right mind) that the referral is to an owned sub/slave.  A bottom on the other hand IMHO should have no desire to lend money to a Top unless that's a kink but then again who am I to judge someone's kink.  Now if you're going to quibble I'll let you quibble on your own. There's a point where it all becomes lunacy.  And while I carry a lunacy membership card, I prefer to be a not so frequent visitor. 

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 10:44:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		FInancial Domination is not scary to Me. But it must be to the slave- I mean a Domme is going to rape his wallet- buy strap-ons and rape him with them.


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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 10:49:26 PM   
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FInancial Domination is not scary to Me. But it must be to the slave- I mean a Domme is going to rape his wallet- buy strap-ons and rape him with them.


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LOL or She could take his money and match his company's 401k dollar for dollar to the limit...open a RothIRA, purchase a few mutual funds, in short set both of them up for a lifetime of security later on....and if She happens to buy a strap on or two or three (the more the better in My estimation)...well life is just grand.  The cup can be seen just as easily half full.  I tend to err on the side of the positive...it's that darn Pollyana virus. 

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 11:07:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

Financial domination and managing aren't quite the same thing.  My financial advisor manages My money (she's a Goddess)  but I am still in control of it.  I can stop paying her and put My money elsewhere.  Just as I may assume that the sub manages money but the Dominant is in Financial control of it.  But that is neither here no there as it relates to the thread is it? I think the OP's view is clear, the Dominant controlling money and is there fear in that regard.  We can have another thread debating the money management skills of Dominants. 


Just trying to make the point that it's a reasonable thing to be concerned about. Being dominant doesn't make someone a good person and there are people who I know wouldn't kill me so I would trust them to scene with me. But I won't lend them money. Just my point of view of course.


The OP is referring not to Tops i.e. someone you scene with but don't live with or who has no personal day to day responsibility for you but to Dominants i.e. Master/Mistress or whatever flavour of title is in use in One's household.  I safely assume (the OP being in the right mind) that the referral is to an owned sub/slave.  A bottom on the other hand IMHO should have no desire to lend money to a Top unless that's a kink but then again who am I to judge someone's kink.  Now if you're going to quibble I'll let you quibble on your own. There's a point where it all becomes lunacy.  And while I carry a lunacy membership card, I prefer to be a not so frequent visitor. 


Lunacy? Hardly. Simply making a point that being fearful of turning over one's money does not automatically equal trust issues but that can it can be a very reasonable emotion. However, since you don't see my point of view, we will have to agree to disagree.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/22/2007 11:15:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been in domme situations where a sub has handed me their paycheck then crawled into their cage.  The point is total control.  I own them=I own theirs.  I would never encourage anyone to do this, but the trust is erotic.  It's just my opinion.  I think some subs feel safe with zero responsibilities. 

If I caught my husband doing this for another domme, I can't even say what I'd do.  It would be far worse than a secret sexual affair.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 5:47:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Financial control is one thing I would want my Dom to have in a long term relationship of shared domestics. I'm great managing time aned activities, I hate managing money, I'd rather just do my work, and ask for what I might want here and there. By the same token, I would never LOOK for financial enslavement, it's merely a realm I would rather give over control of to a fair and even handed partner.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 6:05:52 AM   
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Have any of you subs ever experienced this form of play or domination??

I think that if you were asking this sane question on a pro site or were in a forum of predominantly clients or guys who are willing to pay for domination, you'd be getting a totally different reply.  For the most part, lifestyle people roll their eyes at anyone who pairs the words 'financial' and 'domination' together.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 6:39:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		i agree, i trust this man with my life.  he is my everything, i see no reason why he shouldn't control the money.  not like there is enough to keep him busy lol

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 8:58:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am not working at the moment so i don't have much money and even if i did Master would not want to control it.  As a matter of fact he hates me buying things for him.  The other day i bought him a Starbucks and he insisted on paying me back for it.  I was not really that much but that is how he is.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 12:48:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

My husband works, and I do not...for us, it is not so much about slavery as it is that I would pay more in daycare for three kids than I would make in a week. Therefore, all cash that comes into our house is controlled by him. If I need something for the kids, I ask him for it...most of the time he gets aggravated because I try very hard to not ask for money for things for myself and its not till he notices that something Im wearing is held together with a safety pin that I go replace anything.  I do run an internet business where we sell native american artifacts, kind of a hobby of ours. Whenever I make a sale, I hand him the money, sometimes he says I can use it myself (normally I use it on the boys anyway!) and sometimes he takes it. I don't question that.

ghita amati



That's exactly how our family is set up, as well. =) I have absolutely no control over the money, and no access to it without permission. Last year, when I was working, my paychecks were handed straight to him. It's not so much scary as is it frustrating, sometimes. But having total control of the finances was an issue he brought up specifically as something he wanted.

It considered part of my duties, though, to actively search for ways to cut costs and save money. but everything financial is to be run by him first.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 12:53:00 PM   
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Then imagine the 70 year old man that is taken by one of these so called money Dommes. Furnace broke, no money to fix it. Oh, the house, gone with her too. I have seen this happen by greedy Dommes. Anyone that takes money to satisfy anothers fetish is a whore; plain and simple. Be man or woman...a whore.


So what?

I never understood the whole stigma with ProDommes and prostitution. It's a service, isn't it?

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 12:57:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

IF you think your Dominant is going to steal your money perhaps you shouldn't be with Him/Her.  Trust issues????


Being dominant doesn't automatically make you good with money. I'm sure there are plenty of relationships where the submissive is the one who manages the money.



Right.  A good dominant knows their strengths; for me, managing money is NOT one of them.  I have complete financial control in our household, but I don't manage the money.  He handles everything, including paying bills and investing.  He doesn't buy anything without asking me for permission, but I spend freely, and buy whatever I want.  I do, however, ask for his opinion MOST of the time, because he always has valuable input.

Money = control to me, and I have always had a very skewed way of dealing with money and relationships. If I was courting a man, I wanted to pay for most things and have control that way - I was very much into the perception of the older, sophisticated corporate diva with the cute boytoy on her arm.  I went through a sickeningly expensive phase in my late 20s shuttling boytoys all over the US on business trips with me, buying their clothes so I could "dress" them, etc.  Luckily I grew out of that (but it was fun while it lasted).  Having the money meant having control to me.

Still, I do prefer to be the one working and my husband not working, because earning the money =  having the choices.  I make the money so it's my money at the end of the day.  I also like having him free to devote his time and energy to taking care of my needs, not working for a living. 

Sometimes I do think life would be much more luxurious if he worked and I did not - but deep down, I am a career woman and a workaholic.

Akasha



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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 1:01:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unless it is someone actually trained in estate law, financial planning, stocks/bonds etc absolutely no way am I handing over my finances. That is quite literally my future & well being.
Advice? Sure and it is always welcome. I was taught from a very early age the value of maintaining ones own assets and who to trust concerning them. The line of those trusted is much shorter than the line of those not to trust. Anyone who uses the 1040EZ falls into the non-trust category for me simply because it would be out of their baliwick unless they trained in the knowledge necessary.

I know it wouldn't happen but it would be interesting to see if those happy within financial domination have a multitude of assets? It can get terribly complicated and honestly if the person you hand it all over to is not fully versed in handling money then there is a chance it can be ruined.

Hard limit for me.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/23/2007 4:53:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would love for my owner to help me in this way. I have had the bad habit of buying makeup and clothing and using the "you want a sexy slave, don't you?" defense.
We're stepping into the stage where I'm letting go of these habits altogether hopefully, as my place at home will involve handling all the money management/bills/groceries. But maybe this is because we are 24/7 with plans for marriage and reproduction in the next few years.
I'm not sure how things would go if we weren't 24/7.

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ORIGINAL: MisstressNboytoy

I don't think financial domination necessarily means one person taking money from another person. I control almost all of the finances in my relationship, but I would never take his money away from him to spend it on things for myself. Rather, I force him to save a good part of his income, and I may veto purchases that I consider unnecessary or frivolous. Financial control is one thing, abuse of that power is another.

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RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? - 7/28/2007 6:20:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		you know there are all ways of finacial domination just like dating at times well i am not one who will pay for a session but i will take a Mistress out to dinner then go home not exspect to play but maybe if play is there then that is cool
when you think about it say one pays for the date then you go home get some
basicly you are paying for it arnt you ;)

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