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How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 12:37:00 AM   
simpleprop


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Status: offline 		my Master (and husband) has given me a task (it's a long distance marriage) to do that i am very uncomfortable with (it's nothing horrible but for me it is extremely difficult). i know that i can do it i would just rather not. i know i keep saying i a lot. sorry. i am just having a hard time getting in the mindset to just do it. Does anyone have any ideas on what may help me get over this feeling?

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 4:18:41 AM   
fencerpet19


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Status: offline 		It's difficult giving much advice not knowing what you're specifically having trouble with, but when I'm in that situation I usually focus on just how much I love my Master. I try to put myself in his mindset and understand why he wants me to do whatever it is he's asked of me. There have been times when I can't find a reason, or he doesn't really have a reason for a specific task, but I know that just by doing it I'm submitting to him and showing my love and trust for him. I suggest just looking in a mirror and reflecting on how your body and soul is his. It's rather calming. Hope that helps

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 5:46:42 AM   
fourpeas


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Status: offline 		Hey, when I have to do something that I really don't want to do, I just think of my LIFE!! ha ha ha...

But I mean seriously, how often do we have to do things in our real lives, every day, for work, whatever, that we just DO NOT want to do... I mean, for crying out loud, most of my days are filled up with things that I "don't want" to do. Even sometimes uncomfortable things, like having to take the train and feeling unsafe, or dealing with other uncomfortable situations.

I'm not trying to make it sound like your discomfort level is trivial, but what has helped me is thinking of how many things I already do that I don't want to. And I also just look back on my life and think of the absolute most uncomfortable, painful, whatever, situation that I've been in and I know that I am cared for.

You are cared for too, and you can take comfort in that. I don't think that anyone who truly loves you will lead you astray into anything harmful... (we all make mistakes, but you know what I'm saying.)

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 6:33:23 AM   
stormsfate


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Status: offline 		I focus on just doing it without letting myself go down the path of the reasons I don't want to. Thinking about it or dragging my feet won't change anything, so better to get it over and done with. The end result will be the same anyway whether I balk or whether I just do it, so why make things hard on myself?


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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 8:02:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		My response is similar to stormsfate's:

Try not to think about it. Just DO it and don't question.

If you are going to think about anything, think about the fact that whatever it is is likely to change you, or you'll learn something about yourself for having done it. That holds true (I think), even if it's something really tiny and 'insignificant'... you get past some resistance, and out the other side.

~ Elektra

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 8:20:33 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with the other's just suck it up and get it over with. The next time the same task comes along you'll be able to do it easier.

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 8:41:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		This reminds me -- I've got to mow the lawn and do some other chores. But instead I'm wasting time on the computer hoping that the chores will do themselves . . . it isn't working yet.

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 8:48:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: happypervert

This reminds me -- I've got to mow the lawn and do some other chores. But instead I'm wasting time on the computer hoping that the chores will do themselves . . . it isn't working yet.


I have the same problem here. I keep hoping that the chores will do themselves, but it never happens!!

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 9:08:36 AM   
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I have the same problem here. I keep hoping that the chores will do themselves, but it never happens!!


yeah i'm still waiting!! One of these days, they'll learn to do themselves!

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 10:20:23 AM   
Davesgirl


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If any of you figure out how to make the laundry do itself..PLEASE tell me!

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 10:30:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes it helps me to fantacize that Master is behind me with a whip, then i get the chore done much faster LOL.

< Message edited by proudsub -- 6/11/2005 7:31:19 PM >

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 10:38:45 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I agree wtht the others also what may help is thinking how much it will please you Master when you do it. I hope this helps

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 10:54:20 AM   
simpleprop


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Status: offline 		Thank you everyone for your replies and suggestions. The task is one that most people wouldn't have a problem with but i am an introvert (extremely introverted) and the task requires me to be extremely extroverted, in public. Worse is that He has given me a week to think about it (which makes it harder) because i do not have to do it until next Saturday. I will try some of the suggestions. Thank you everyone.

simple

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 12:23:44 PM   
RiotGirl


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Sometimes it helps me to fantacise that Master is behind me with a whip, then i get the chore done mush faster LOL.


LOLOLOLOL Yeah i can see how that'd work. Maybe i should try it. "Chores, Get to work!" <wields whip> Heh, the bookshelf has not been moved into the hallway! Maybe i need to do some telepathic powers with the chores. <imagines laundry folding itself>

(sigh) i suppose Proud, that your fantasy only works with humans?

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 3:58:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: simplepropmy Master (and husband) has given me a task (it's a long distance marriage) to do that i am very uncomfortable with (it's nothing horrible but for me it is extremely difficult). i know that i can do it i would just rather not. i know i keep saying i a lot. sorry. i am just having a hard time getting in the mindset to just do it. Does anyone have any ideas on what may help me get over this feeling?simple
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HELLO
You REMEMBER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THIS MAN,Then You Put the Trust into it.(Ex:One Time My Master Who I deeply Love and adore ask me to do something that was difficult to do,I knew it wasn't in me to do it and I thought how could I be honest and tell this man I love I can't do it..We been together for years and for me not to do a request was hurtfull to me ,I cried a little then a took a deep sigh I came out the bathroom and ask permission to talk,I explain to him that it wasn't in me to do what was order and he was a bit disappointed I saw in his face but he was ok that I was honest with him.Just be open and Honest and tell him why you can't do the task. you are one of the Lucky ones he is your Master and Hubsand, Trust is a major part of the realtionship,you should have trust to tell him

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 4:56:48 PM   
stormsfate


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ORIGINAL: HisAngel

Just be open and Honest and tell him why you can't do the task.


There is a huge difference between can't and won't.



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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 7:26:59 PM   
RiotGirl


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There is a huge difference between can't and won't
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i completely agree!

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 7:33:39 PM   
proudsub


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(sigh) i suppose Proud, that your fantasy only works with humans?


You're probably right. Sorry for the typos, fixed them.

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/11/2005 11:55:29 PM   
jennel


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ORIGINAL: Davesgirl

LOL!

If any of you figure out how to make the laundry do itself..PLEASE tell me!


Um, you tap your foot and whistle a tune.

The laundry perks up and starts dancing out of the hamper, sorts itself (like a marching band), and twirls into the washer.

Ha ha. Yeah. Laundry. Bleh ...

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RE: How do you get through something you don't want to do? - 6/12/2005 1:58:41 AM   
HisAngel


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yes there is a Big differences in "Can't" and "Won't"..One is a Refuse and the Other is trying but still can't get it right.But at least you try.

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