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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 2:58:25 AM

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Ive said it to a sub, but that was to someone into pretending to be a cat, so it sort of fitted.

i suspect it brings up bile to most women since it sounds rather condescending. but i like saying it at the right moments.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 3:13:57 AM

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it makes me shine from the inside out. Knowing he was happy with me or my actions.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 3:30:43 AM

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It's a split bag for me..when Sir says it, i get all warm and fuzzy inside..because it's said with genuine affection and i know He's pleased with me.

If, however, someone were to say it to me outside of Him, i think i'd have to seriously hurt them *smile*

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 3:42:53 AM

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Hello ya'll,

I consider myself a submissive in a world where Gor is considered a lifestyle, and as a submissive woman, aware of the power of men, yet not enslaved by men, I'm in a position that's a little like being in the middle of a sandwich. Most days, my lifemate will call me anything that pleases him. He can use patronizing words, sweetheart words, chastizing words, and so forth. Depending on tone and expression, I can tell how I should feel and react to him. It isn't just the words. He's known me for almost twenty years and by experience, knows exactly what to say and when to get his desired reaction.

When I share with other Goreans, it would truly offend me to be called "girl" in public because it has come to represent the slave girl and not all females on Gor. I've attended BDSM gatherings, however, and in such settings, the group dynamic might define what words are pleasant and what words are obnoxious. As with most things, a word or phrase might be used to convey a lot and also might invoke different reactions depending on how it is said, when it is said and who does the saying.

If I make time to build a relationship that is discreet and private, personal and special, then those rules evolve as well. While in public, I'd still wish to be shown the respect associated to my status in my lifestyle, in private, I have some patience and even desire to hear phrases and words I'd care not to hear spoken publicly. Some things will make me melt. Others will make my whole body feel like warm butter. It's all according to who is speaking and how well they know me. Obviously those who do not know me well would not know my triggers well, and button pushing wouldn't work, positive melty buttons or negative bristle buttons. If you don't have an inside line, in my inner circle, you can talk all day and I barely hear.

Great discussion topic!
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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 3:45:50 AM

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I'd hurt them too... unless, of course, they had My permission to call you that...

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It's a split bag for me..when Sir says it, i get all warm and fuzzy inside..because it's said with genuine affection and i know He's pleased with me.

If, however, someone were to say it to me outside of Him, i think i'd have to seriously hurt them *smile*

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 3:50:21 AM

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I believe that as in all things it ha a lot to do with the tone and moment of use. Call me good girl.. good sl*t good dog at the right moment and by the right person it is wonderful.. wrongly offered or with a tone that says you are nothing.... I probably will react with a sarcastic remark right back.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 3:52:35 AM

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I love it ... no matter who says it to me. But I love it best when my Dom says it to me ... which makes me wish even harder that I had a Dom!

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 4:39:02 AM

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I had a rather belligerant sub once who was always giving me sarcastic remarks at orders or what I caleld her, etc., which would inevitably lead to more brutal spankings, tighter bondage, etc.

The one day it hit Me out of the blue.. she was getting what she wanted..

After that, every sarcastic remark was met with a brutal tickling... which was actually close to a hard limit for her... she hated it, and it always made her wet herself.

The sarcasm stopped after that.. heh heh heh

Sorry this is OT, but I thought it was funny. :-)

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I probably will react with a sarcastic remark right back.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 5:24:25 AM

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"Good boy" is an expression Mistress uses sparingly and it means that i have done something that has pleased Her above the norm. i was in the supermarket last week talking to Her on the cell and She said "good boy" to me. The net result was a completely reflexive erection. Embarassing to say the least.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 5:40:42 AM

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Makes me absolutely purr when coming from someone whose opinions matters. When someone else says it, doesn't necessarily irritate me, but they do get that "what would make you think it's okay to say that to me" look.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 6:14:40 AM

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I am still a girl really ...though I have to live an adults life with house and job and taxes, when it comes down to it I am still a girl.

I adore hearing "good girl" ... am a total slut for approval .. if "good girl" is joined with a hair ruffle, a kiss to the temple, or a swat to the butt - well there will be all kinds of moist going on for me

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 6:15:28 AM

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in the D/s context, it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy....

in every day life, when someone calls me girl, i yell oh hell call me that again! i cant remember at what age it stopped offending me, but call me girl or kiddo any time and ill grin.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 6:54:36 AM

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Depends on who/why they are saying it.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:03:19 AM

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I agree with LA - it depends.

I do know, however, that for me a session isn't complete unless I know that I was pleasing or did a good job. Even if things didn't go as they were planned, I need to have positive reinforcement to support suggestions for improvement.
Make sense?

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:06:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Areflectionofyou
it makes me shine from the inside out. Knowing he was happy with me or my actions.

Exactly - kind of turns me into a puddle when Master says it

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:06:25 AM

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If it is Master saying it to me then it makes me feel good. If it is anyone else is just a little bit annoying.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:12:44 AM

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when master says it it makes me want to please him more try, harder . when sister said it it was like a tickle.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:24:01 AM

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The words "good girl" make me feel so warm and tingly inside. Sometimes it makes me feel a little moist too depending on how He says it. It's words that tell me i have done a good job or have pleased him and made Him happy.. that gives me a sense of satisfaction and peace within me. *sighing happily*

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:26:02 AM

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My Sir doesnt say "good girl."
"Who's my property?"
"Who's the best _____"
"You are wanted."
Those are the phrases that fill me with sunshine, esp if spoken in my ear.

On the phone He calls me "sweetheart" .... it's so endearing for me.

Sir's sweetheart.

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RE: How does hearing "good girl" make you feel? - 6/27/2007 7:34:18 AM

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I say good girl often, I know what is does to my property and how it makes me feel when I say it to her. Bottom's how does it make you feel when you hear it.
Also, from a top's perspective what makes you say it.

I dislike it a great deal; its a phrase that is used quite often for animals or very young children and to hear it used on me ( an adult ) is almost like a slap in the face.

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