pixelslave
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
On many other threads, We have talked about BDSM labels, definitions of Self, and how We fit into the same. Though I am not especially a fan of this practice, My question is this.....
What if, there are times We find Ourselves perfectly content within those definitions? The times We would hope to find a submissive who is easily described by the contexts of labels and boxes? Has the net, along with all of it's conotations, allowed us to expect something less, than Our persuit of a genuine submissive heart?
There are, in truth, beautiful submissive minds to be found here upon the boards. I mentioned, on another thread, those names which I consider the cream of the crop. They are so few and far between that they make the others look like a pool of second class. A few precious gems amongst the coal mine. Am I wrong to think this? Or have I become, in some aspects, jaded as to the sincerety of the heart and soul?
Lady Pact,
First, as you're not a fan of labels, you recognize we're all individuals and need to be thought of as such. Going to the EZ Label solution really limits the possibilities for relationships. Here's just one example, Mistress "labels" herself as "Bi". I'd have never thought I'd be with a woman who was Bi, but as our relationship is monogamous, that label doesn't matter or even apply. There are experiences I had with Bi women as a young man that normally would have me avoiding them like the plague (no offense to anyone intended) if it was something they felt the need to continue to act on. Thus, the conclusion that labels can also be very misleading! 
As to those you mentioned in your other post on the boards (and thank you for the kind words), not everyone who is a submissive is also going to be inclined to share their thoughts with others via the boards here. They may not have the writing skills to do it in a manner that effectively conveys their thoughts, or they may not feel it's their place to do so if they did. There are also those who simply are here to learn who may have the submissive heart, but not the experience, who may not feel as though they have a lot to contribute for that reason. The point being there may be many "submissive gems" out there who for one reason or another don't post on the boards, thus aren't readily visible to others. There are likely many who have the desire to become polished gems, but simply need a wise Mistress to guide them on their journey into submission and self improvement. 
Gems aren't made overnight, and neigther are polished ones. There's lots of raw material or material that's "in the rough" out there to work with. I'd think that part of the fun for a woman would be recognizing a "gem in the rough" and the other half would be watching that gem begin to shine as it's rough edges disappear while they're being polished away under her direction and guidance. 
Perhaps Mistress & I need to open two franchise operations, one called "Build a sub", and the other called "Build a Domme"; the latter for all the men to send their vanilla spouses and girlfriends to try and convert them into Bedroom Tops, errr Dommes that is. 
- pixel
Collared to Majik on 6-23-07
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