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Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:15:49 AM   
jerbedo


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Status: offline 		I am a 63-year old, bisexual sub. Responses to my profile are few and far between.  Do you think it's age?  I am not naive, i.e., "younger" is more attractive than "older" to many.  But my very real and sincere need for domination has increased as I have become older.  I would appreciate suggestions about how I might increase my response.  Are there any "special" sites for older Domes/subs?
 
 
 
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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:22:42 AM   
skareamoos


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Status: offline 		Kid (I am 77) I have no idea how you can change your persona.  I suspect only tht may help.  At 77 I naturally do not get as many offers as I might have done, had this venue existed 40 years ago, but I still get more than I can handle. 

Why?  I suspect because I am willing and eager to give as much as I wish to get, and show it.  Try doing the same and I suspect (and for your sake,m hope) tht you will find the same.

And by the way, the older ladies who will respond are far more erotic than the neophytes among the young.  I love them all, but age DOTH conquer all.

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:25:33 AM   
KinkyFreak


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Status: offline 		Ahh do you have MSN?

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:54:51 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Pictures help.  I read your profile and seeing "forced" oral and "willing to pay for it" was a turnoff for me.  You don't really give a person an idea of who you are.
 
My own slave just turned 63 (we celebrated our 10th anniversary of his collar)-  so age isn't a huge factor.
 
Treat your profile like a resume.  Where have you been, what have you done sort of thing.

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:58:28 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I think for many women (and men too) the first factor in whether or not we contact someone is where they live. While some may be happy with long distance or online, many want meatlife interaction.

After that it's a matter of personal preference and for many people I bet this includes age.

I don't this does help but people who are older teens or in their earlier 20s complain about the exact same thing.

When I go to conventions, munches, and workshops I find that most people appear to be in their 40s and 50s. I think it's common for many people to want someone near their own age. So I'm not surprised that younger or older feel left out from time to time.

I know that getting involved in your local community can help a lot. I'm 37 now and yet I've been involved in come meatlife community since I was 22. Because I came to learn and then I shared from my experiences people soon forget how "young" I was.



< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 6/28/2007 8:59:29 AM >

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 9:57:46 AM   
DiannaVesta


Posts: 1087
Joined: 2/6/2006
From: Mid-Atlantic area
Status: offline 		I’m hoping by forced oral you mean that you are a cock sucking whore? You really need to be more clear. I read your profile and I’ve got your number but if you want women to be somewhat interested in you then you need to market yourself better.  Try posting a few pictures and outlining any training you have thus far.

I’m not as concerned with age as I am with health. I have met 70 year old men that were in better shape then some 40 year old. It really has more to do with health and what kind of person you are.

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 10:23:35 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Joined: 2/10/2005
From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
Status: offline 		If you're wanting to pay a woman to make you give her oral sex, wouldn't it be so much easier to just find a local escort?



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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 2:24:32 PM   
skareamoos


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Status: offline 		You ladies are awfully hard on the poor guy.  But I suspect he SOMEWHAT deserves it.  But tell him how to improve.  I tried but it did not fly.

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 7:14:48 PM   
liks2plzlf


Posts: 390
Joined: 7/21/2005
Status: offline 		From reading the posts on CM for quite awhile, it appears many of the dominant women do not view sub/slave profiles. Those that do might have there age limits, that you fly under the radar, or in this case over it. My search range is usually 50-99.(I'm 61). If you contact them, some who were not searching for someone in their 60's, might like your profile and be interested in what you offer.. Posting on the boards is a great way to learn and expose yourself. I mean get exposure. Pics do help immensely, and could help avoid some uncomfortable situations, after you get to know someone. Be patient, it takes time to meet someone compatible. Good lcuk! 

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 7:44:19 PM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		I have a regular play partner who is much older than you.  He's closer to skareamoos in age.  However I'm interested in  playing with him because he is intelligent, personable, and friendly.  When we were getting to know each other, he didn't immediately jump at me waving his dick and asking for fetish acts, he introduced himself like a normal human being and we got to be friends.  Your profile doesn't sound intelligent, friendly or personable.  There's no real human being there to get to know.  It makes you look like just another randomly horny guysub wanting this and that fetish act done to him, and there's absolutely nothing interesting about that.  

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 7:48:11 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: skareamoos

You ladies are awfully hard on the poor guy.  But I suspect he SOMEWHAT deserves it.  But tell him how to improve.  I tried but it did not fly.


I think it might come from those of Us who like topics on the forums, rather than personal ads.

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 7:54:38 PM   
MsOpal


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Joined: 8/31/2006
Status: offline 		I have 2 gentlemen currently that are my play partners. One is mid 50's; one is your age.  He is amazing, he is a witty, funny, intelligent man.  We enjoy a lunch together almost as much as a play session.  He is grounded and sincere.  The younger men who have written me have all flaked out and never once followed through on an off of a play session.  So, from my experience I'd rather find a mature gentleman who was confident, comfortable wiht what he wants, not afraid to express himself but with good manners and respect.   Show the ladies that you can be something more than a butt to beat.  I like have some normal conversations with my guys, and I like they are not afraid to show me they are having a good time.  I like they understand real life and don't want to have a scene out of a book.

Be yourself, but show that you can be an interesting person.  Give us a good idea of who you are and what you want and what your expeience level is.  Be honest.
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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:24:35 PM   
MstrssScarlet


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Joined: 6/3/2005
From: Indianapolis, Indiana
Status: offline 		I just took a look at your profile and it's not really that bad.  You show a deep desire to please and have many interests checked off.  Maybe you've already been working on it or maybe the people on here are being a bit harsher than I would be.  I would suggest putting up a picture.  You'd be suprised what a difference that makes.
My personal sub happens to be 61 and I enjoy him immensely.  I met him at a weekend event.  We had a very pleasant conversation over dinner the first night and spent a lot of time doing things together that weekend.  It just grew from there until I collared him.  It was much easier getting to know him by meeting him in person right off the bat.  He has a great sense of humor and can carry on an intelligent conversation.  Those two things will go a LONG way.  We were introduced by a mutual friend who was helping out setting up the event.  Perhaps you need to get out to the local activities a little more and make yourself known.  Just a suggestion.  I wish you luck.
Mistress Scarlet


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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:27:54 PM   
skaterboy


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Status: offline 		Old is a state of mind.  Experience is everything...so, promote the expertise you have and shy away from the age...I'm an old dog myself but I can not only learn new tricks.....I can teach them!
So, smile.
winks, KC

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:38:28 PM   
YesMistressIrish


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quote:

ORIGINAL: jerbedo

I am a 63-year old, bisexual sub. Responses to my profile are few and far between.  Do you think it's age?  I am not naive, i.e., "younger" is more attractive than "older" to many.  But my very real and sincere need for domination has increased as I have become older.  I would appreciate suggestions about how I might increase my response.  Are there any "special" sites for older Domes/subs?
 
 
 

Are you still         b r e a t h i n g ?

Then, you are not too old!

< Message edited by YesMistressIrish -- 6/28/2007 9:01:11 PM >

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:54:42 PM   
EarthGoddess52


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Status: offline 		The thing I like best about "older" submissives is that they are comfortable with their station in life.  It is no longer a struggle within themselves.  They are not trying to resist their true nature.  As one pointed out, they have had these feelings since they were very young and they have not waned.  I think that's how it is with true submissives.  It's not a passing fad; the current trend.  It's not an act.  Because of what mainstream society expects of males, this true nature often gets pushed into the background in favor of pursuing an education, building a career, raising a family, etc.  Those feelings are still there nonetheless.  When those pressres lessen and/or they find someone who encourages those innermost feelings to surface, the "older" submissive can flourish in his element!!  At least, that's what I've witnessed

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 8:56:12 PM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		Male submissives just don't seem to understand that every Domme gets dozens of emails weekly. They don't need to look at Profiles, they are far too busy weeding through the contents of their In boxes. If you want a Domme to take an interest in you, then you are going to have to attract her attention with a well worded email that conveys sincerity, honesty and hopefully, a sense of humour. I have a section in my Profile on How to Write A Winning Email - but only those who bother to read it properly will find it, which helps weed a few people out right from the start, grin. It's just like when you go to a party - if you stand around waiting for someone to ask you to dance, you'll likely be a wallflower all night. It's not about age, it's about making the effort, and being patient, and doing it right.
:))
LH
who is 55 and still going strong

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 9:00:52 PM   
skaterboy


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Joined: 6/27/2006
Status: offline 		defibulators are in every Dungeon...so relax and have fun!

And if they are not, we need to petition. Don't you kinksters agree?

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RE: Too Old? - 6/28/2007 10:18:29 PM   
LadyDominaX


Posts: 173
Joined: 5/17/2007
Status: offline 		From my perspective, I would like to see photos, and to know that you have no health concerns that could be problematic.
Just like any other submissive, if you write a good profile, include some good pics, and don't sound like you are bitter or just looking for what a pro-domme can provide, you will likely garner some interest.

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RE: Too Old? - 6/29/2007 2:18:52 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

From reading the posts on CM for quite awhile, it appears many of the dominant women do not view sub/slave profiles. Those that do might have there age limits, that you fly under the radar, or in this case over it. My search range is usually 50-99.(I'm 61). 


Waves to liks2plzlf!
Smiling at the "99" parameter!  As I am 99, since that is the oldest age I can put on this site!  I am really 100, on My last birthday!  *Wink*
I prefer an older boy, since he has a tendwency to be more settled and more self-aware.  At least some of the time!  *Smile*
And, yes, I am one who does not browse profiles.  So you should be a bit active and not wait for emails to come to you.  Start looking for what you want, and then write a thougthful letter and hope for the best.  It may not work out, and you may not even get a response, but you have to try!
Also, stay on these boards, and get yourself known, both here and in your local community.  Go to munches and other lifestyle events.  Make yourself useful.  You would be surprised how rare it is to see a good submissive boy who is consistent in showing up at events, and being respectful and helpful.  It will stand you in very good stead.
Good luck!, and I add My own "welcome to the boards".
 

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