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Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 2:48:21 AM   
phoenixsub


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Status: offline 		What could I do to reinforce to my Dom, hopefully Master one day, that I would do anything to please him? For another month or so, he is going to be living with his ex of 8 yrs, so he wants to take this time to know IF i am willing to be a slave or if I am a submissive.

Could some share what they did to really impress? Or for the Masters, what was done for them, that knocked them off their boots?

Thanks
Phoenix
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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 5:50:32 AM   
RandBcouple


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Status: offline 		actions speak louder than words....there is truth to that!

It took me quite a bit of effort and time to convince my loving Master that i was indeed "the one" for Him.... He had been with so many who had proven time and time again not to be what they said that by the time we met He was very skeptical, to say the least lol. i was just as skeptical but i quickly realized He was the one for me, so i made it my priority to prove myself worth His time and training.

Best of luck to you!

~hugs~

Ruffneck's babygirl

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 10:32:05 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Just be yourself. Your true character is shown through time and shared experiences. Anything else will build false expectations.

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 3:24:05 PM   
perfection20005


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Status: offline 		Just being yourself is the best advice for you. Don't pretend to be something you're not.

perfection

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 3:26:14 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I agree with what everyone else is saying--just be yourself etc.--but I have to say I don't understand what the purpose is. Having you wait an extra month before he leaves his ex isn't going to determine whether you're a sub or a slave. Frankly, it sounds like bullshit.

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ORIGINAL: phoenixsub

For another month or so, he is going to be living with his ex of 8 yrs, so he wants to take this time to know IF i am willing to be a slave or if I am a submissive.


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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 4:32:49 PM   
kc692


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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 10:29:40 PM   
Estring


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he is going to be living with his ex of 8 yrs,


If he is living with her, how is she his ex? Something seems fishy here.

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/12/2005 10:32:05 PM   
proudsub


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If he is living with her, how is she his ex? Something seems fishy here.


My first Dom lived with his ex for economical reasons, and he hated it but had no other option.

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/13/2005 12:02:05 AM   
phoenixsub


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Status: offline 		I appreciate and understand everyone's concerns; however, this is a Domme that he took in and for one reason or another, she ended up totally dependant on him for everything. Finally he has helped her to obtain her Social Security Disability. I have known him for over 6 yrs and totally believe and know he is telling me the absolute truth. So please do not think that something is b/s or fishy. She knows we are seeing each other even. After 8 years and having her child live with him, it takes time to find what you are seeking in home and adjusting to life. He is a very kind hearted man that would never turn his back on her, and for that, I respect him even more.....

For the advise of just being me....Geeze, you sound just like him. LOL I just want to WOW him. and I know I need to be me, I am so enticed by him. After being single nearly 6 yrs and really looking for what I truly desired and knowing......THIS FAR...he is it, I want to please him. He is what I need/want/desire/crave. All I was asking for was something to WOW him with. I know I have already with my willingness and cravings to please....

Thank you everyone for the advise and concerns. This is my first posting board that I have ever sought advise from. (from texas) Ya'll are Cool as chit.... LOL

take care & God bless

phoenix....

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/13/2005 9:23:59 AM   
cutedandle


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Emerald slave said it well Phoenixsub;

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Just be yourself. Your true character is shown through time and shared experiences. Anything else will build false expectations.

Trust is a very important part of the foundation of a healthy relationship.
It cannot be rushed, as it is baised on the experiences that occur over time...

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Deleted text, as it is a hopeless cause.


< Message edited by cutedandle -- 6/13/2005 7:20:04 PM >

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/13/2005 12:07:39 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

I appreciate and understand everyone's concerns; however, this is a Domme that he took in and for one reason or another, she ended up totally dependant on him for everything. Finally he has helped her to obtain her Social Security Disability. I have known him for over 6 yrs and totally believe and know he is telling me the absolute truth.


If it were the absolute truth and she was his ex, there would be no reason in the world to have a waiting period. Why not flaunt you in front of the ex? See what I have? Especially since she is lifestyle as well.

If the man doesn't already know you are the one for him chances are you are not the one for him.

So, i would'nt play games I'd be open and honest. If he doesn't want you he doesn't there is no game in the world you can do to change that.


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RE: Pre-Training - 6/13/2005 3:17:16 PM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		i think the post before this one, says it very well.

But you want tips on how to wow him? like cook book tips on stuff that is hot for him? choose anything you think would pull his chain from below.

1. get something really slutty on put a chair and a beer by his dirty car, ask if he'd mind sitting in it, whilst you wash his car, getting soap sudded up.

2. crawl toward him, head real low, pushing a glass in front of you, careful not to spill the bloody thing before you get there.

3. write to him, of your need. Be explicit, sexual, sensual, emotional, honest, so that it shows all that you are offerring. Be prepared for his response, not the one your fantasising over, it may well be no thankyou. But its best to know.

4. turn up at his, dressed in a submissive manner that he enjoys, hopefully when the dependant ex Domme friend of his is their. And go to town with your submission.

5. Put a dogs choke chain that you can buy at the pet store, once cleaned, insert it till just one end is dangling out by about 3 inches, (looks very story of O) and hand him a lead to clip onto it. Or place the ring on his finger.

6. bathe him, pamper him, massage him, feed him, then curl up and sleep beside him.

7. go look at a old checklist youve completed with his knowledge, ask him to try one of the things, he'd highlighted as a need, but you'd put a limit on for yourself. Show him how much you trust him.

A month is a good amount of time. If he's indicated that he wishes for this time, to put his affairs in order, use this time to do likewise yourself. At the end of the month, it would seem to be decision time for you two. I hope that you gain what it is you need, not necessarily what you want. If he does not commit to you after his imposed time frame, then sadly, you will move on, but have learned from this. Take what you have learned, concentrate on the good things you can take with you forward.

i wish you luck
pandora

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/16/2005 10:03:18 PM   
phoenixsub


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Status: offline 		Pandoravampire....
You are aswesome, Thank you so much for the tips. I will try a few and see how that goes. You really helped me alot. I know I have to just be me, but I wanted a litttle extra boost.... Just something to make him KNOW that I am his and willing to go the extra mile.... THank you darlin.... SMOOCHES and Love you lots...
phoenix....

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RE: Pre-Training - 6/17/2005 11:23:08 AM   
asissyforher


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From: iowa now..maybe move soon.
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quote:

ORIGINAL: phoenixsub

What could I do to reinforce to my Dom, hopefully Master one day, that I would do anything to please him? For another month or so, he is going to be living with his ex of 8 yrs, so he wants to take this time to know IF i am willing to be a slave or if I am a submissive.

Could some share what they did to really impress? Or for the Masters, what was done for them, that knocked them off their boots?

Thanks
Phoenix

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What could I do to reinforce to my Dom, hopefully Master one day, that I would do anything to please him?




communication communication!!


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