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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 9:05:52 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		I call my husband by his first name, he has this total anymosity towards being called "sir" that came about from being inthe military, and he really doesnt see himself as Master. Now, when im being facetious I often call him Boss...as in, yea Boss, be right there Boss, no problem Boss....

My previous Sir, I called by his name when I first met him, Sir after we had begun a realtionship, and Master after I was collared, oh and Daddy sometimes, but I think thats for a different thread.....*grin*

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 9:30:15 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		MJ said once things get deeper into our relationship He wants to be called 'Sir,' I use 'MJ' for other reasons; yet I call Him 'Master Type' on some blogs when refearing to our relationship.
 
In vanilla situations 'Sir' is a bit more understandable and accepted by vanillas verses 'Master.' Its all up to preferance. Most of the time, I just call MJ by his first name, as He calls me by mine. Now in front of my best friend, lol, THAT will be interesting what He wants to be called.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 9:36:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy told me to call him Daddy, not Master, not Sir,.....just Daddy.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 9:58:51 AM   
subsfaith


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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Good afternoon.
   Just wondering how many of us calls our Dom either Sir or Master and is there a difference between the two?


Sometimes he is called Andrew, or Sir, or Master, or Arse (please note the capitalisation)... all depends on where we are, who we are with, or how we feel.

:: smiles ::

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 1:31:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		All the ones I've been with preferred Daddy  :)

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 1:40:16 PM   
velvetears


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Status: offline 		When i was collared i had to call him Master in private and Sir in public. In font of family i was allowed to use his real name which was hard i almost slipped up once and in the last minute turned Master into a Mister XXXXX kinda like i was making a joke.  No one batted an eye but my heart was beating a mile a minute over my almost blunder. 

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 2:35:21 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		i should have done more research and now thank you LA for providing other useful threads on this topic. i'm definitely going to look at them. And to answer my own question on this particular thread, it's always been his first name. Since i don't have an actual name for him, and for me it's his "Good Girl" for the most part

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 6:12:18 PM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		Personally i feel it's all personal preference.

i'm collared but have only addressed my Owner as Master on rare occassions it has been in circumstances where i'm just in a very deep sense of submission, or sub space as some would call it, it comes out natural and even though i know it's not the preference at those times sometimes it just cant be helped. 

i've used Sir more often than not and on other occasions have used the combination of Master Sir, which is really in it's own way unique.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/29/2007 6:17:36 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I call him Daddy or Sir interchangeably. I call him Master when we are in bed and being passionate! I call him Joe when speaking about him to others, and I only call him Joe in public if for some reason Sir won't work. That doesn't happen much and I get lots of pleasure by calling him Daddy while shopping at Wal-Mart.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/30/2007 3:13:11 AM   
dasein42


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Status: offline 		Both my slaves call me either, my 2nd slave finds "Sir" easier as she was raised in the south and "sir" or "ma'am" comes to her lips quite readily.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/30/2007 2:38:40 PM   
sleazybutterfly


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Status: offline 		I call him, Master, Sir, (insert his real name here), hun, baby, Daddy, and once in a while my pussy whipped slave boy.  The last one gets me beat, but that's just fine by me.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/30/2007 2:53:32 PM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		I agree with most of the posters here.

In a private relationship, there is really no difference. Sir, Master, Captain, Daddy, Mommy, Seargeant...its merely a superficial protocol and says nothing in regards to the dynamic that defines the relationship.

The only exception is when you venture into the public scene, particulary people who identify as Leather. In that conxtent, these titles can have some degree of reverance and social status. For example, it could be viewed as very socially unacceptable for a new face to self appoint himself as Master Robert or Master Jim to people outside of his own relationship. The title is awarded and given by peers and not self claimed.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 6/30/2007 10:44:23 PM   
MzMia


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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Good afternoon.
  Just wondering how many of us calls our Dom either Sir or Master and is there a difference between the two?


I personally see no reason why you can't use both terms on a daily basis.
You can call him Master and say "yes sir" when addressing him.
I happen to love southern manners and many still say "Yes sir and yes ma'am".
I try to use these titles as often as I can as a sign of respect, so if a Dominant woman can say "yes sir" and "yes ma'am" to
those in the vanilla world on occassion.
Then, I see no reason a submissive can not "learn" to say "yes sir" or "yes ma'am" as I sign of respect.
Peace

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RE: Sir vs Master - 7/1/2007 5:56:28 AM   
michelleryder


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Status: offline 		I always call him Master. Thats how i see him and how he sees himself.

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RE: Sir vs Master - 7/1/2007 6:09:39 AM   
GhitaAmati


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quote:

I agree with most of the posters here.

In a private relationship, there is really no difference. Sir, Master, Captain, Daddy, Mommy, Seargeant...its merely a superficial protocol and says nothing in regards to the dynamic that defines the relationship.

The only exception is when you venture into the public scene, particulary people who identify as Leather. In that conxtent, these titles can have some degree of reverance and social status. For example, it could be viewed as very socially unacceptable for a new face to self appoint himself as Master Robert or Master Jim to people outside of his own relationship. The title is awarded and given by peers and not self claimed.



I wont talk to anyone who self-titles themselves. (other than in a personal relationship but in that instance im gonna assume they wouldnt be with the person if they hadnt already earned their respect). All titles are earned: new dom shows up in town...announces you all must call me Master xxx. Yea right....whatever dude.: new dom in town, hi myname is xxx. wonderful, welcome to the community, after years of proving himself, he will probably work his way up from xxx to sir/master/daddy whatever he and the community feel comfortable with. respect is earned, not given.....i will probably get flamed for this but...who cares.

im polite to everyone....but southern women learn how to politly cut your heart out and feed it to you when they are very young....

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RE: Sir vs Master - 7/1/2007 8:30:53 AM   
Rapture


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ORIGINAL: jmslilbytch
I agree that it depends on the Dom or Master. It can also depend on the situation, or "what's in the air", as HeavensKeeper put it. He has told me to call Him Sir, sometimes I will say Master though. To some, the difference may be that Master signifies ownership, whereas Sir is an address of respect. Other than that, it's just preference.


I find this thread of some interest.

I was at a bdsm party once upon a moonlit night, and a girl was asking around who was a Dom and a Master. One fellow said Dom, then one said Master. She then asked what is the difference between the two.  The Mastery fellow said basically I'm a Master because things are to my rules contrary to a Dom or Sir where typically the relationship is negotiated.

As for the everything is relevant debate/agrument or "it is whatever you think it is"- this is farthest from the truth.

I enjoy when the Master comes naturally from the girls lips which was not demanded. Yet, the latter is fun as well. Notwithstanding the above, would tend to denote to a difference between just a Dom or Sir and that of a Master.

Rapture

P.S. (added)
..and after such denotations, utterances, and naturally occuring 'choice' tends to stay after such things naturally occur.

< Message edited by Rapture -- 7/1/2007 8:49:02 AM >

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RE: Sir vs Master - 7/1/2007 8:41:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rapture

As for the everything is relevant debate/agrument or "it is whatever you think it is"- this is farthest from the truth.



In this case, however, we're not defining it or talking about definitions, but rather what one choses to be called in a relationship. In that context, it really doesnt matter as it is simply a personal preference. I can have my slave call me "Captain Clown" and it would have zero bearing on how our relationship works.



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RE: Sir vs Master - 7/1/2007 8:53:58 AM   
Rapture


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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit
quote:

ORIGINAL: Rapture
As for the everything is relevant debate/agrument or "it is whatever you think it is"- this is farthest from the truth.

In this case, however, we're not defining it or talking about definitions, but rather what one choses to be called in a relationship. In that context, it really doesnt matter as it is simply a personal preference. I can have my slave call me "Captain Clown" and it would have zero bearing on how our relationship works.


Greetings Rabbit:

The original question for your reference:
quote:


grlneedstolearn said:
Good afternoon.
   Just wondering how many of us calls our Dom either Sir or Master and is there a difference between the two?


Would seem my post and comments are on point as to the question posed, just not the side issues. However, sometimes these threads tend to go off track a bit from the original opening comment, question, or contention. I addressed the original question, not the side conversations.

Enjoy your day.

Rapture

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RE: Sir vs Master - 7/1/2007 12:36:13 PM   
BlindUnknown


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it's all preference, i myself like to call my partner by their first name/spirit name, and just add -sama at the end, due to my cultural values, once i explain it im lucky to have been with people who think that's cool =P

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