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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 6/30/2007 5:35:47 AM

SeeksOnlyOne

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i didnt know what i was looking for, but i knew it when i found it..........im hoping that will happen again.........i may look at what i consider a handsome man twice, but hell i also will look at a great looking car twice.....

no matter what the shell looks like, you just dont know til they open their mouth, or in the case of the car, rev the engine.......

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 6/30/2007 9:00:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: DominantJim

I'm curious, how does physicality fit into the decision of a sub finding a master. If it does fit into the equation at all. I mean most relationships are based on emotional and physical attraction but do all subs feel this way to, or are you just looking for a man that can treat you the way you want to or feel you should be treated behind closed doors. Also does size matter? (Note: I'm not making any general statements about my physique or cock size with this question haha)

It all depends on what the submissive is looking for and what they like. For me it does matter, but that is because I am a very physical person. I'm not a small person and I am very strong. I work with my hands and my body. Physicality is part of how I live and express myself. Rock hard abbs or some such thing, doesn't matter to me at all, but I do want a D type to be stronger than me. I want them to be able to keep up with me physically. If there is a chance that they will be unable to physically pin me while wrestling and playing, then I'd probably turn them toward a smaller less agressive submissive that doesn't like physical contest. A D type has to be strong, physically aggressive and quick to rough house with me. It's no fun for me if I have to wuss out for a D type to win. I want to be able to full out go into play war mode and still lose, still end up pinned in some ridiculous position with both of us panting and laughing. Physicallity is part of how I feel and experience affection. Rough housing is affection for me.

For another submissive it might be all about the internal nature, or about how graceful someone is, or delicate and knowing in their touch.

It's all about matching tags when it comes to bdsm, donkey with donkey, ardvark with ardvark.

edit to comment on "size": I have some personal preferances, but I'm in no way a size queen. Most men in my somewhat limited experience, fall into a highly workable and good range, the too small/too large group are not that common. It is a lot more about how you use the darn thing, than some arbitrary number on a ruler. Personally, I'm far more excited about a man that is willing and capable of learning how to work and use my body than the particlarities of the actual size of their penis. The whole man has sex with me, not just the one isolated part. If he has the ability to make me squeak like a monkey, and come with consistancy, I will be one happy camper... period. If he is well endowned, but only focuses on his own parts and thinks the totallity of sex is pushing the dang thing in and out of places... well... that's not much fun, or very satisfying. (This is sometimes a private complaint amongst women about fellows who are larger, sometimes they don't take the time to learn a range of skills and are very limited as lovers. They think a big penis is enough to make any woman happy and content, and that just ain't so.)

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 6/30/2007 1:23:40 PM

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I'm pretty non-picky. Yes, I want them to be vaguely human, but I don't care if they are bald or not or if they are heavy or not or if they have great teeth or not. I figure we'll all be old and wrinkled and toothless one day anyway!

Yes, some people just DON'T attract me but it's not based on any one physical trait usually...usually a composite of their energy/looks/dress etc that just screams "not for me."

I will admit to having a preference for dark hair over light, for light eyes over dark and for big heavy men over short, thin ones...but it's just a general sort of preference and would in no way affect my decision to be with someone or not.

As a general rule, I am NOT attracted to slender or athletic men. I like mine to have some extra cushioning on them, and actually have a thing for men who are pretty big (in the 300lb range.) Once they get over about 325lbs, my attraction dies off....not because of looks so much as feeling like they couldn't keep up with my active lifestyle of going to the zoo, riding horses, etc.

However, if I met someone with a great personality, I wouldn't let his size (either skinny or obese) affect my decision to go out with him.

Oh and about penis size, yeah it does matter a little bit. I've been with some guys who had slender 4inchers and I just could NOT feel submissive around them. It just doesn't work for me if he can't hurt me a little with his penis...5-6inches is perfectly fine IF they have decent girth...Anything over 8 is way too much and needs to stay far away from me because that hurts TOO much. I really love 6-7in and thick :)

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 6/30/2007 7:45:45 PM

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Beeing submissive doesnt mean that physical attraction isnt importent to us.. it is a factor just like it is a factor in a vanilla relationship. I am not going to submit to any old Dom just because he is a Dom, I have to feel an attraction to them first. If Im not physicaly attracted then the relationship doesnt progress further.

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 6/30/2007 8:27:54 PM

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You made a generalization about what bdsm is. That generalization is false.

You may feel that YOUR relationship in a bdsm context is more trusting and emotional than you vanilla relationships.

But that does not mean that bdsm relationships ARE more trusting and emotional than vanilla relationships.

DITTO....... Throws cheerleader outfits on my girls... and cheers LA on....

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 2:29:17 AM

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I'm not that picky....I like a smart, intelligent, witty and physically beautiful woman....And I am the only judge that matters as to if a woman possesses what it takes when it comes to filling my needs in each one of these catagories.

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 12:27:52 PM

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Looks are not all that important to me. I met my Master in cm and we talked by e mail and mostly phone for about 1 and 1/2 months. I had not seen a pic of him he did not have one. He did not ask and i did not think to send him a pic of me until right before we met r/l i sent him one so he would know who to look for. When he walked up to me my first though was he is handsome. So he has it all looks, personallity and a wicked snese of humor . So i got lucky.

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 1:05:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: DominantJim

Well I was considering the fact that seeing as a S&M relationship is more based on trust and the emotional connection between a master/mistress and slave, I figured that maybe physique may not be a big player in the game of it all.

No.No.No. Thrice No.

BDSM relationships are not super dooper spectacularly based on trust or emotional connection more than a vanilla relationship. That is one of the biggest lies circulating. Masters, slaves, submissives, switches, pets, dominants, etcetcetc are PEOPLE. Not any different from your neighbour or the guy in your corner shop. Relationships that are healthy and productive are based on trust and communication and emotional connection - not just BDSM ones. (Not saying that you can't have a good relationship without those things, but that doesnt matter if you call it BDSM or not).

Your statement is a fantasy that some people try and project to make BDSM yummy and acceptable and seemingly better than any other relationship - instead of admitting that a BDSM relationship is just any other relationship.

Now - your question strikes to me that you mention physique. Now to me, that has nothing to do with attractiveness, but more with stamina and health. I would say that if you are physically fit and you actively participate and wish to be active within certain BDSM pursuits then a good physique is vital - but no differently if you were in a relationship where you enjoyed dancing or horse riding as a hobby or a 'life'.

Excuse me now - i gotta go see if KoM has a spare or at least the address of those cheerleader outfitters...

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 3:39:56 PM

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I was attracted to my Master before I ever saw what he looked like.

And my M/s relationship has a higher level of trust and emotional connection than any vanilla relationship I ever was, or likely will be in, but that is not the case for everyone.

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 7:16:29 PM

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i would venture and agree. the bigger the better and the stronger the more desireble. what's our purpose besides doing the hard stuff and getting stronger because of it?

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 7:30:08 PM

skaterboy

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I have a big? and know how to whip it out?
Anybody looking for that in a DOM?
Inquiring Doms want to know.

Smiles, Sir KC

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 9:22:57 PM

shyinini

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ORIGINAL: DominantJim
I'm curious, how does physicality fit into the decision of a sub finding a master.

I love curiosity questions, I ask them too.

I love men who are >6ft, have broad shoulders, slim waists, strong jaws, head hair, strong muscle ass's and are fully virile. If they ride Harleys, great !! Deep sexy voices are awesome. Bedroom eyes that wink fiercely are definitely wetting. Definately DOMINANT !!

LOL....sounds like Fabio on a Harley!!

My Sir is none of the above. If the "Harley man" who was vying for my attention had all that my Sir is in character and personality, I would have won the lottery !!

My Sir is all I need. I am happy. He has all my submission.

Sir's girl

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 9:39:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

I think there are many forms of attraction. I can see a guy out someplace and think he is very hot, but that doesn't hold much substance. I can get to know a guy that I might not look twice at in public and find he is my prince charming....leading to finding him physically attractive.

As far as cock size goes...it seems to be overrated. If you can turn my mind on..the rest of my body can adapt either way.

edited because it's too dang early to be up...and my fingers keep reminding me of it.

sleazy, its the opposite time of day for me now and i am tired...but dang you made me smile.

I "forgot" to add my cock size physicality into the picture.
All I said in a man, and then with an 8in awesome cock, not curved to the right or left, about 1 1/2 in diameter and soft subtle balls........ mmmmmm

I am such a cockwhorecumslut !!

I look at a pic of Sir's cock as I write....yes we are voyeurs (sp ?) and I love this pic, but my dream of 8in he aint. Will I trade him?

Not in anyone's life time !! And you are right !! It aint the size, its how they use it !!

I will suck on him on Tuesday, cant wait.

Sir'scumslutcockwhore

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/1/2007 9:47:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

my..... relationship has a higher level of trust and emotional connection than any vanilla relationship I ever was, or likely will be in, but that is not the case for everyone.

Well stated ... very well stated. I agree whole heartedly !!

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/4/2007 6:41:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Excuse me now - i gotta go see if KoM has a spare or at least the address of those cheerleader outfitters...

Here.. I have a spare outfit...

Take off all your clothes... and then put this on.... (hands dark a small set of floggers to double as Pom Poms)

now... jump up and down and cheer!

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/4/2007 11:05:32 PM

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Physical attraction is kind of a sticky subject for me...I don't have a type, so to speak, or certain features that I necessarily perfer or look for, but there are things that I notice and appreciate, physical things that influence my opinion of a persons character. I'm more likely to be attracted to a well groomed Dominant because I believe a person who takes care of their own body is a person fit take ownership of mine. Things like that.

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/5/2007 4:48:01 AM

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Physically fit, a matter or perspection.

I dont like thin/skinny men, its just not my thing, but many feel that thin equates fit. I dont.
Attraction is an over all, but I think it's normal for any of us to follow what our eye likes to be interested in it.
(think of all the fat or young threads)

For me it has to be the whole picture from a degree of fittness to grooming and personality. Without one of those three elements it wouldnt matter how talented he was when behind closed doors.

As for size? If your refering to penis size, no it doesnt matter.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DominantJim

I'm curious, how does physicality fit into the decision of a sub finding a master. If it does fit into the equation at all. I mean most relationships are based on emotional and physical attraction but do all subs feel this way to, or are you just looking for a man that can treat you the way you want to or feel you should be treated behind closed doors. Also does size matter? (Note: I'm not making any general statements about my physique or cock size with this question haha)

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/5/2007 5:47:04 AM

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Call my thinking shallow, or whatever you will, but for me if there is no spark that ignites passion interest and intrigue, there is no reason to further even a dialogue.

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/5/2007 6:11:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: Deboyce

Call my thinking shallow, or whatever you will, but for me if there is no spark that ignites passion interest and intrigue, there is no reason to further even a dialogue.

I understand what you mean, there has to be some kind of attraction there to begin with or else what are you pursuing?

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RE: What do you look for on a physical spin? - 7/5/2007 8:45:29 AM

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k8trix: Indeed.

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