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RE: All you smart Ladies - 7/3/2007 3:05:16 PM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: DominantJim

Lockit while I appreciate your crass honesty...its becoming a little bit of a rubber cock in the ass now. At what point after my explanation have I continued to be this man who is only looking to use women. And why do you say you're not looking for an arguement when clearly NOW you're looking to start something. If you don't like me thats fine, don't talk to me and don't answer my posts unless you have something constructive to say. I'm not pointing the finger at anyone and I have not been putting down the subs at all. I clearly explained my motives and my reasons for writing what I did to begin with. I even respected your opinion and took it with a grain. Now you're just trying to piss me off and its working, so back off. I'm not here to get into arguements either just to meet people and ask questions. If you feel the need to pick at someones wording and statements go somewhere else because I think everyone will agree its not welcome here. We're supposed to be a community of people supporting each other and our fetishes and feelings that are different from the regular world.

I missed the memo that collarme was a support group now. I really don't want to be an ass, but if you want a support group you would be much better off finding a local group of real people or joining an online community that actually tries to be a safe space. This isn't one, which has both good and bad points.

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We're supposed to help each other not hurt one another or keep a suspicious vigilante eye on someone that you think is 'not one of you'. This entire thing rotates around one desire, sex. Sex is the main drive here, and everything even regular vanilla healthy relationships revolve around it.

You are entirely mistaken. There are plenty of d/s relationships that involve no sex at all.

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My point is don't make me out to be the bad guy because you need someone to point a finger at. I'm here for a good time and to have some fun and chats with people who feel the same as me about this small community. Please respect me as I respect you, thank you.

I respect you as a person who is new and has a lot to learn. You will do a lot better when you stop making blanket statements though. BDSM as a lifestyle is not all about sex. BDSM as kinky fun in the bedroom is all about sex. And there is nothing in the world wrong with wanting kinky sex and not making it the way you live your life with a power exchange. But if you want to get along here, you are going to have to realize that for many of us this isn't just about sex.

And, in fact, that there is a decent percentage of people in the BDSM lifestyle who never have sex with their owners or their pets. If you want this to be all about sex for you, great. Go for it! My d/s relationship has a lot to do with sex. But you can not speak for everyone when you say that this revolves around sex.

Edited for many evil typos. I blame my aching back from steam vacuuming...

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 7/3/2007 3:16:42 PM >

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RE: All you smart Ladies - 7/3/2007 3:14:04 PM

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RE: All you smart Ladies - 7/3/2007 3:22:39 PM

Lockit

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DominantJim,

Sex is a very important aspect of the lifestyle I am sure, but only one aspect of it. Please try to understand what I am saying. People can no longer see your first profile and how it said you were looking for one or two women to use. Hey… there are some that wish to be used… no problem. The problem I had with you is that you came in looking like a troll and then got mad at those who were offended.

Now… if you read the threads, you will see how many people view a troll. What classifies a troll? In my opinion… Someone who disrespects the lifestyle or uses it to get sex. Someone who isn’t interested in any other aspects of the lifestyle and what knowledge they have of the lifestyle is abused to seek personal gain without consideration for those they prey upon. Someone who calls attention to themselves in some way… email or postings to manipulate for personal gain. Someone who uses sexual desire as an excuse for bad behavior. Someone who often insults those he/she has offended when they cannot be manipulated or call them on their actions. And someone who expects respect with a self appointed title with little or no room for earning that respect.

I am not trying to protect anyone as no one here needs protection. That would imply that they didn’t know themselves or were in some way needing protection. I just called you on your behavior. You can modify it… you can learn and grow and you could be real… it matters not to me. You pissed me off… trolls do that… but hey… if you are not a troll… then in the days to come all will be well. I have no need to follow you and watch you or respond to you. Go forth… have fun… good luck… If I was wrong about you… then I will apologize and own up to my incorrectness.

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