HypnoticDan
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There's a couple different parts to talking dirty.
Firstly there's the improvisation/spontenaity. Like planning a scene, you should have some vague idea of where you're going to but be prepared to be inspired by your audience and take it in a new direction.
Second, it feels like you're being put on the spot, like public speaking. I think most people believe that they are being looked at with critical eyes when they are talking to a group. I believe that people want to hear what I have to say because it is well thought out and sounds good. Even if it is the filthiest fucking thing ever whispered through those little ears and into that dark, perverted, slutty little whore mind of yours.
Third, there's saying words that are considered "wrong", like the seven words you can't say on television. Here you have choices.
1) Say things that could sound dirty but don't use any dirty words. "I want you inside of me, you stallion" is pretty hot but doesn't use a bad word. Also consider listening to the Frantic's "Dirty Word Sketch", which demonstrates that a perfectly innocent word can be filthy, it's all about context.
2) Get comfortable saying them. Consider that thought is shaped by language. How do you express something if you don't have words for it? What if there is a word but you refuse to use it because it has a bad connotation? Consider how most of society places negative connotations on your favorite kinks and that you probably spent a long time getting comfortable with expressing yourself in these areas and that part of the time was spent getting comfortable just thinking or saying the words. I can point you to any number of people on here who are "closet" kinksters because they are not yet comfortable with the very ideas made from those words. Consider that these so called dirty words are dirty because of the exact same people who made your kink sound like a bad thing. You had to struggle to accept your kink. You will have to struggle again to go the rest of the way and be freed from people's limitations on language.
3) Your Dom(me) didn't give you permission to hem and haw. Spit it out, already.
Fourth, practice, practice, practice. (shameless plug) I use my CM journal to spin little dirty fantasies that I hope give a broader impression of me and what I like while still entertaining. I saw one girl in this thread say that she has trouble looking herself in the mirror. To that girl I'd say start there. Look in that mirror and look at each of the different parts of the face before you. Look at the hair; The eyebrows; The forehead; The nose; The chin; The cheeks; The jawline; the neck; the left eye; the right eye; the ears; the shoulders. Open your mouth and look at the teeth, the tongue waving around in there, the uvula at the back, and the inside of the cheek. Make silly faces. Poke it. Stretch it. Pinch it. Recreate the scene from The Truman Show. Recreate the scene from Taxi Driver. Mimic the Godfather. Mimic Norma Desmond. Realize that it's just a face, just another face in a world of 6 billion faces. Then realize how special this face is because you know every kinky, dirty, naughty secret (big and small) rattling around deep down inside behind that face, so brilliantly hidden by that particular and unique combination of features.
Now close your eyes. If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there, does it make a sound? If you close your eyes, can you prove the world is still really there? Imagine for a moment that it isn't. It's gone. There's just your thoughts. Your thoughts become real when you manifest them into the world, either through action or speech. Think to yourself "I'm the dirtiest sub ever." Now say it out loud. Notice the difference. Now do it again except use the phrase "I'm the fucking dirtiest sub ever and I love hot, kinky sex." Notice the difference between thinking and saying, between this phrase and the last. "I'm your hot little fuck-slut and all I want is to worship every part of your sex." Again. "I'm so horny I can't sit still. Please, can I touch myself for you?" Your turn. Make something up. Make it good. .... Nice. Now you're getting the hang of it! Wow. I can't believe you went there. I like it. Interesting. We'll have to explore that later. Open your eyes. See? Nothing has really changed but for a moment there you felt different, didn't you? Make up another one. Ooh, I like that one, too. Now give yourself the most smoking hot look you can and put that deep, throaty quality into your voice. Say that last one again. SSsssss.... that is fucking hot.
Repeat this exercise as often as you need to until you can't look at your reflection without a wicked little smile growing on your face because you know that you've taken that raw kink and honed your words and your body language into a finely honed tool for sexual stimulation. You can be one bad, bad sub when you want to be and it feels oh so good.
In the words of Fatboy Slim, "Don't be scared by the tone of my voice. Check out my new weapon, weapon of choice."
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