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RE: Newbie Ettiquette Question... - 7/12/2007 2:24:49 PM

Celeste43

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I've always viewed under consideration to be the high school equivalent of going steady, while collars are like engagement rings.

As far as pleasing him; pay attention to his preferences. Really that's all. If he tells you he hates melted cheese, then don't make a dish that includes it. The Man showed up the first time with a tea bag of this mint tea he favors, the second time I had a box in the house already and he absolutely loved the fact that I hadn't said anything, just kept the tag and went to the store and got some. He had met and played with other women but none of them bothered to do this for him, even after multiple meets.

He hates peas so I don't serve him any. If I have a hankering I make some and eat them myself but I don't mix them into dishes. (Pity as pasta primavera really requires it, so does risi e bisi).

Pat attention to what he says and does. That's all anyone really has to do to please someone else.

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RE: Newbie Ettiquette Question... - 7/12/2007 2:38:45 PM

ECF

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I think the under consideration thing is a combination of other peoples' statements. It is basically someone laying claim to you but not really being with you. For a Dom, it seems like having your cake and eating it too. The only benefit I see for subs is those that are so insecure in themselves that they want to be claimed at all times, this gives them a sense of security in the meantime while a Dom decides if that sub is right for him/her.

My biggest beef with it is that just because someone is a sub doesn't mean they aren't still a human being, even if some of their rights are suspended for play and/or LTR w/ a Dom.

At the same time, there is very little to these sorts of relationships that is accepted by everyone everywhere everytime. If you are comfortable with it, then I guess that is your perogative. If not, then make it known that you're not, because being a Dom doesn't mean you're a mind reader.

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RE: Newbie Ettiquette Question... - 7/12/2007 6:47:28 PM

cumulus

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"Under Consideration":

- Cockamamie bullshit invented by one-handed typist HNGs.

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RE: Newbie Ettiquette Question... - 7/12/2007 6:52:51 PM

PairOfDimes

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Being under consideration is rather like dating. Sometimes it's exclusive, sometimes it's not, and it's generally awkward if one party thinks it's exclusive and the other doesn't. You might also liken it to being short-listed for a job, or taking a temp position that might turn into a permanent one. And as many have invariably written, these definitions vary somewhat from person to person--ask your dominant/prospective dominant/whatever what he or she means, and if that sounds good to you--even if it sounds entirely unlike what we've all said it means--then all is grand.

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