daddysprop247
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
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I begged for my collar, and then was sent off to think about some very serious questions he asked me with regard to being collared by him, before he granted it. A slave will always have to beg/petition him for his collar. This way both he and she are very clear about what it is she asking for, and about her desire and willingness to take that step with him. He does not want a slave who is not fully aware of what slavery to him requires, and who does not absolutely want to be there. This process makes both parties certain of that. I for one am grateful for that opportunity. If he had "asked" me to wear his collar, that would have put me (a) in the drivers seat as to what direction we were going in; and (b) in a position of possibly accepting it as an effort to give him what he wanted, even if I was uncertain. His process protected us from that.
this is interesting to me, because my Master firmly believes that a would-be slave should never beg a collar for the very reasons your Master feels a slave should beg a collar. Daddy feels that begging such a thing is highly presumptious of a girl, like she is assuming that she is desired by the Master. this is one reason he doesn't really care for begging in general, with the exception of very rare special circumstances...he feels it comes from a place of too much focus on self. but i can certainly understand the other perspective as well, it's all in how you view it really.
my collar (or rather my slavery, no physical collar was involved) was offered to me, after he explained in an overview way to me precisely what it meant to be his property. i accepted immediately, because it simply felt right to me. but to say that at that moment, at barely 19 yrs of age and no previous lifestyle relationship experience, i fully understood what it meant to be a slave and especially what it would mean to be HIS slave, would be a lie. i didn't fully understand, and i had more than my share of growing pains those first two years as understanding hit me upside the head like a brick, lol. i believe he knew this as well, and that he understood it was going to be a process, however he did not want to go through that process unless i had already committed to being his. others may have proceeded with a non-ownership D/s dynamic for that two years or so and then discussed ownership. however my Master is the sort of Dominant who can only tolerate being Master...anything else frustrates him ceaselessly. and i knew, even as a virgin to it all, that slavery was the only path for me, no matter how hard that road was.
so for us, my being offered his collar was what was natural and right for our dynamic, but it's very interesting to hear about the other side and the reasons why. above, owned mentioned that in being offered a collar there is the possibility that a slave may accept it not necessarily out of a true desire and need to do so, but out of a need and desire to please the Master, give him what he wants. this is true, and i have seen it happen before with others. there's a slave in our circle who accepted her Master's collar when he offered it to her for only 2 reasons: she did not want to shame him by refusing him (our M/s community is tightly knit, others would know within hours), and she wanted to please him. but in truth she did not wish to be owned by this man, and she has been quite miserable about it since. she tried begging release, he would not grant it. so she is basically stuck in an unfilling relationship because of being offered a collar and not knowing the proper way to handle it.
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