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Craftsman -> RE: I need a hug (7/4/2007 2:02:22 PM)
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ORIGINAL: cjenny
My best friend. We met jeez, when we there 13. Her son comitted suicide this morning & I can't stop crying.
I keep seeing him 7 years old & playing on his real grown-up drum set to Stevie Ray Vaughn music.
Boy this hurts. Havent been able to reach my friend on the phone understandably. There is nothing I can do to make things better. Thats what Im supposed to do, I always make things better for people and I cant do anything to fix this. Im sorry I just.. had to put this somewhere.
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Just adding my hugs into the mix. At times like this, one cannot have too many, and cyber-hugs are just not as satisfying as the rl ones. Gather many of both kinds, especially the rl ones.
Suicide is such a terrible shock to those of us who are the survivors. It is so hard to avoid the feelings of inadequacy, of having failed the person who commits suicide somehow. At least that's how I have experienced it. My conclusion is that it is no one's fault. It just is. It hurts like hell. There is no Aspirin for that pain.
Don't feel you have to be strong. Cry when you need to, and let your friend cry with you and on your shoulder. That seems to be the best medicine for the pain. If your situation is any way similar to mine, you'll take turns being basket cases, and that's OK, because it lets you both recover, to heal to some extent, and to grow in compassion and understanding.
So much for my pompous soap-boxing.
Take good care of you.
C/
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