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Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:37:56 AM

nickymaz

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Hey everyone;

I'm a sub male who has been on this site for a while. My question involves a fetish I have developed. I am still a virgin, (I was raised in a religious household) and over the years I have grown to connect this with submission. So, the bottom line is that I find the idea of being kept a virgin by a dominant woman very arousing. I feel that my virginity is a gift that I want to give to my future Queen. I feel it is the ultimate way I can submitt, that if I am willing to sacrifice that it makes a very strong statement about Female Domination and supremacy.

Does anyone else share this desire, or am I alone hear? I welcome your questions and comments.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:52:41 AM

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Personally, it seems weird that there is 24 year old virgin in Arkansas??????

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 4:00:14 AM

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What does me living in arkansas have to do with anything? If it helps, I'm origionally from New York.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 5:07:31 AM

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You're not weird at all. I have played with a guy who is 29 and still a virgin. I always thought it was sweet that he was saving himself for marriage and I respected him for it. Some women are tired of being approached by guys that only think with their penis, Some Mistress is going to snatch you up quick.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 5:42:01 AM

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In my travels through life I have found that people I meet in the BDSM scene often lost their virginity 4 or 5 years later than their peers (or at least they told me so and thats not something you would lie about I suspect).

I can only speculate as to the reasons. Several of my former submissives mentioned that they knew from a young age they were "different" sexually and were afraid how that would be perceived by vanilla peers, male and female. That made early sexual experiences fearful and often unsatisfying

For example my last submissive dicovered self bondage and cross dressing while masturbating early in puberty. He figured out quickly this was not "normal" (when the other boys caught him wearing ladies pantyhose and laughed). He quickly absorbed the (very sad) belief that his sexuality was weird and shameful and needed to be hidden from other people.

Another submissive was not sexually attracted to vanilla girls and just could not figure out why. He wondered whether he was really gay (no) or sexually dysfunctional (NO!). One day a pushy slut in a French maid's outfit seduced him at a party. He had found the solution!

We people with fetishes and perversions are an eclectic lot. I think we are often more selective and cautious - and paradoxically (perhaps) much less sleazy - in choosing partners than vanillas.

We just know we are different and want to wait for someone who loves and accepts us the way we are. Its a long wait unfortunately, but its great to see you have found your way to an online BDSM community at such a young age.

No you are not weird. Just different from the run of the mill ordinary people. Thats a GOOD thing

And yes, I was a "late bloomer" myself. Being a sado-masochistic Domina isn't something that makes you the hottest chick in school!

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 8:20:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

In my travels through life I have found that people I meet in the BDSM scene often lost their virginity 4 or 5 years later than their peers (or at least they told me so and thats not something you would lie about I suspect).

I can only speculate as to the reasons. Several of my former submissives mentioned that they knew from a young age they were "different" sexually and were afraid how that would be perceived by vanilla peers, male and female. That made early sexual experiences fearful and often unsatisfying

For example my last submissive dicovered self bondage and cross dressing while masturbating early in puberty. He figured out quickly this was not "normal" (when the other boys caught him wearing ladies pantyhose and laughed). He quickly absorbed the (very sad) belief that his sexuality was weird and shameful and needed to be hidden from other people.

Another submissive was not sexually attracted to vanilla girls and just could not figure out why. He wondered whether he was really gay (no) or sexually dysfunctional (NO!). One day a pushy slut in a French maid's outfit seduced him at a party. He had found the solution!

We people with fetishes and perversions are an eclectic lot. I think we are often more selective and cautious - and paradoxically (perhaps) much less sleazy - in choosing partners than vanillas.

We just know we are different and want to wait for someone who loves and accepts us the way we are. Its a long wait unfortunately, but its great to see you have found your way to an online BDSM community at such a young age.

No you are not weird. Just different from the run of the mill ordinary people. Thats a GOOD thing

And yes, I was a "late bloomer" myself. Being a sado-masochistic Domina isn't something that makes you the hottest chick in school!

....such an insightful and accurate commentary re the early sexual lives of us lifestylers!

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 8:59:11 AM

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Fox is still a virgin if you only count vaginal-penile sex as no longer being a virgin. He has zero interest in having offspring and we all agree around my house that any risk no matter how tiny is too risky when it comes to creating another human life.

Sex is far more than traditional intercourse. I think absolutely nothing negative about Fox being a virgin because he is a damned good lover in all other ways you can have sex.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 9:37:43 AM

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Well, I was raised Catholic, and was a virgin until the age of 21 when I met my first girlfriend. We were in bed before I even knew what to do. She was such a bitch and said to me, "You're going to have to figure it out on your own!" I finally did, and WOW, what a marathon we had from that time on!

I think she was a closet lesbian, because I found girl-on-girl pocket books in her closet, and she often touched her cute little sister in a very sexual way.

I remember being on a beach in Santa Barbara with her one day. She was a typical California blonde, and she looked really hot in that red bikini and driving that red sports car of her's. We began to make out right there on the beach, but I ended up getting a third degree sunburn and had to stay home from school the next day. I was laying in bed with her and wanting to make out, even though I was hurting, and then I remember her saying, "Oh, so now you have a sunburn, but you still want to fuck me??? And then she proceeded to rake her finger nails across my sun burned chest, then said, "So, how did THAT feel?"

I had a girlfriend who was a Bitch Goddess and didn't even realize it. No wonder I am the way I am today!

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 11:25:59 AM

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If the turnon is that you are going to be kept a virgin by a dominant woman, how are you ever going to give this up as a gift to your Queen? (which by Queen I'm assuming you mean the same dominant woman?) In any case, I suspect it's not a dominant woman that's kept you from experiencing sex, but something about you or your personality. You mentioned you had grown up in a religious household, but does that keep you from dating? What have your experiences, if any, been with women? There are things that you learn about women from dating that apply to any relationship you would have with a woman, dominant or not. I'm not arguing that you need to be a total manwhore or anything, but sex with someone you have a positive relationship is a very rewarding and healthy experience for both of you.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 11:39:43 AM

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Well it'sone way to get laid I suppose.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 11:56:48 AM

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Forget what everyone else has said....Yes, my friend, in a nutshell....you are a wierdo.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 1:00:06 PM

nickymaz

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I wanted to thank everyone for their supportive messages. I guess I should explain a lttle more about myself. Like I said in my opening post, I was raised in a conservative, religious household. When I was a teenager I made a promise to save sex for marriage. I was a very shy kid, overwieght, and I think I used the committment to stay a virgin as an excuse to not pursue relationships with girls. As I got older to became more and more interested in BDSM. Along the way I developed this fetish for my virginity, to me it is a power my future mistress should have over me. Similarly to how many sub males like orgams denial, the idea of being denied sex is arousing to me. Also, my definition of virgin is no intercourse, I would like to be intimate with my future mistress but with me playing a submissive role, pleasing her. I hope this clear things up.

Again, thanks for the supportive messages, I really do appreciate it and it helps to be honest and open with people.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:19:03 PM

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As someone who is interested in chastity, i don't think there is anything wrong at all with you. I am sure there is an excitement to the idea, and when you finally decide to give this gift to a special Mistress, i just hope she is smart enough to cherish it for all that it is. In the meantime, serve as you are able and comfortable and enjoy the journey.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:22:26 PM

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Angel is the same way. He is mine, but he is saving himself for marraige. Whether that ois to me or not we havent figured out quite yet. But he is kept in chastity, and he is almost 23.
So, no, you arent wierd. You just have to hope you can find a Domme who can move past their sexual interests and allow you to wait until you are sure it is the right time for you to give that up. Some are, some arent.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:29:08 PM

MsCfromMelbourne

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That is one of the most brilliant examples of kink self-awareness I have seen in a long time :)

I wrote about a beautiful 23 year old virgin who thought he was weird elsewhere in this forum (The Good Ones - sorry I can't figure out how to post a link - I am a techno-bimbo!)

I have decided to keep him as a pet. He is a very happy boy. I know how much he wants to lose his virginity with a Domina, but it might be more fun to make him keep it.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:30:27 PM

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Of course you are weird. So am I. So are we all. That's why we are all here to be with likeminded weirdos

. If its your kink then be comfortable with it and rest assured that no matter what you want in this lifestyle there is someone, somewhere who wants the same thing. Keep searching and you will find them. Be blessed, be happy.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:37:15 PM

nickymaz

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MsC: thank you for the wonderful compliment. I really do want to find my "perfect mistress" but I am realistic, I will be happy just to get more experience which will enable me to become a better sub, even if its online. Anyway, I love what you wrote about your new pet, "it might be more fun to make him keep it"

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 3:46:28 PM

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Great post, as it totally resonates with me. i was wondering was something wrong with me
also as i wasn't attracted to girlie girls at all. Now if i thought they may be dominant well
that is a different story. I just hope to find that domme soon, as i am getting worried that
i may have to lead a life alone because of my kink, i am 28 now and not getting any younger.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 6:46:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Fox is still a virgin if you only count vaginal-penile sex as no longer being a virgin.

I hope the Vatican uses that method of rating if someone is still a virgin because if they do, then I am, which means I can now continue my life long dream of becoming the next pope….. O happy days!

I think it is lovely that the slave wants to save his virginity for his mistress, and I don’t think it is freaky in the slightest, although I also accept the fact that I might not be the best person to make a judgment on such things.

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RE: Am I wierd? - 7/6/2007 7:34:33 PM

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Dear nickymaz, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Humans are blessed with a 'will' -- a individual power to decide based on what internally drives a person as well as to maintain themselves within their own personal criteria of what is proper.

Anybody who does not conform to the normal within the Imperial, the military, the religious and or civilian is considered 'wierd.' Anybody who doesn't conform to people's individual feelings and standards of what normal is--based on persception, assumption and or any other reasoning--will consider anything and or anybody --wierd or a misfit.

Even in the BDSM community--there will always be judgments on others to which some will be seen as normal and or as wierd.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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