SDFemDom4cuck
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ORIGINAL: DSwriter I've been communicating with a Domme here for the past 2 weeks. We've never spoken on the phone. But she is dangling the possibility of me becoming her "boy" in front of me like a carrot on a stick. She is a good writer, with a good imagination, so she's captured my attention. She is also rather demanding for someone i have not even chatted with on the phone. For instance, she has asked me to go out and buy certain items of clothing that she wants to see me wear - and then take pictures and send them to her. She also has insisted that i remain in chastity for the past 7 days. She said it would only be for 3 days ... but she keeps upping the ante every day ... finding some excuse for me to keep it on. Too, she never speaks about anything on a personal level. She asks me 1000's of questions about my sexuality, my past experience, etc... but says very little about herself. Am i being jerked around by some sicko guy pretending to be a Domme, that is just getting his laughs out of jerking my chain? I'm beginning to wonder if it's a guy, simply because women generally do not seem to communicate this way. In fact, that's one of the things i love about women in general. They tend to communicate on a friends basis first - wanting to know if there is any basis for relationship on a personal level - before getting into all the sexual stuff. Anyone that just issues edicts like this woman does - speaking entirely on a sexual level - makes me wonder if this is really some charlatan wondering how far he can take me. Anyone have any thoughts on this or suggestions for trying to figure out if a person is a fraud? I know there are plenty of them here ... and it iritates me to no end if this is just a case of someone playing head games. Then again, as i said, she writes well, so i am afraid to accuse her of anything, lest she might actually be the real deal. Have you actually asked her any personal questions? If so, does she avoid them, answer them in vague terms or does she simply answer them briefly and then turn the subject back to her intended purpose? Personally, if I'm interested in someone I like to speak with them via phone rather quickly. It gives an idea of vocal inflections and personality that can't quite be captured via written communication. For example...I can write the word bitch. It can have a variety of meanings and intentions. However the way I vocalized it will make it quite clear as to which meaning and intent I've used it in. (I also have this odd little quirk when it comes to voices, but that's just Me.) That being said, hearing a feminine voice is still no real proof that they are actually female. There are unfortunately devices available that can give male voices a female quality and sound. Photo's sent via a computer are also no real proof of gender. The only true proof is a face to face meeting. Personally, I have a rather deep voice for a woman. A whiskey voice someone once called it. Some find it soothing or sexy. Others aren't all that infatuated with it. Regardless, it's quite obvious I'm female when a meeting occurs no matter what my voice actually sounds like. The key here is communication. Have you raised your concerns to her for discussion? How has she reacted to your doing so? Personally, I find that the reaction therein is what will give you an ideal of how she will handle further communication and resolution in future. Only you can decide if her way of handling such situations is compatible with yours. As for whether it's a male playing Domme (or even an insincere Female simply seeing how far you'll go for that matter) that isn't something I can even attempt to answer. Via online pretty much anyone can say and give the appearance of being anything they wish to quite convincingly. The proof of those words is in the actions they put forth in person on a one to one basis. The best you can do is to simply ask to speak with her regarding your concerns via the phone and go from there. There is a difference between voicing a ligitimate concern and accusing someone falsely. I wouldn't suggest going with "I think you're a man and I wan't you to prove to me that you aren't". Personally, I find that rather insulting and distasteful. Asking politely to speak with her regarding your concerns is quite different. Best of luck to you.
< Message edited by SDFemDom4cuck -- 7/8/2007 1:00:48 PM >
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