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Chase27 -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 1:39:15 AM)

I have been called Chase by my Master for over 3 years, he has never told me why but he chose it so thats enough for me and i like it.
He never uses my real name and i dont mind, i love my Sub name and when we get married in October i am changing my name to Chase




wildthingLR -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 9:42:29 AM)

Hello A/ll,

my Master did give me a new name, and it is rhiannon, or rhia for short.  When W/we are in public, He will use my given name, but if i happen to do something He does not like, or if i am getting out of control, He will just say "rhia" and it will get my FULL, UNDIVIDED attention, no matter what i am doing.  Using "rhia" will bring me up out of a dead sleep. 

It reminds me of my place.

It keeps me sane.

It keeps me from spinning out of control.

There is also another side to it.  It is a name that MASTER has given me, something that He put thought into, and is pleasing to Him.  It is rather erotic to be given a name by your Master/Mistress, for only He/She know it, unless you or They tell O/others.

With Respect to A/all

rhia



DawnFire -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 10:43:59 AM)

I've always liked the name Mia.  Means mine in some language or other.  Anyway, I'll have to name my submissive when I find her.  Any subbies have an opinion on the name?



shyinini -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 12:30:59 PM)

I have to teach everyone how to pronounce my birth name.  I have heard use it only several times.  He will use the abbreviated version of my given name when speaking to others in regards to me as his submissive. 
He was going to give me that "special" name when sexually serving...like "cunt." But very early on he learned that some words like cunt were used abusively toward me in the other/last relationship.  After about 2 months, he told me I would name myself.  But I would always preface it with "SIR'S."   When we had a thrid party for play one time, he prepared me for it and told me I was "Sir's alpha cumslutcockwhore" for the day.

My instructions early on were, every day, once a day, I am to "touch" a part of me, physically or mentally and know it belonged to him.  So when I sign my name at posts here and on the other sites, I sign it as I feel it / think it that day.
 
He calls me sweetheart  in person and on the phone and has this wonderful "what's up baby?" when he wants to know what's up  [sm=tongue.gif]     [:D]
 
Today I "feel" like  Sir's sweetheart



hardbodysub -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 2:48:37 PM)

I was given a name by a domme who informed me that it was "customary" for masters and mistresses to choose names for their subs. I hated the name. It didn't fit me at all, and I couldn't identify with it. The very act of her giving it to me because it was "customary" was one more straw in the bundle that eventually broke the back of that relationship. It was just another piece of evidence that she was doing what she had learned dominants were supposed to do, rather than thinking and acting for herself, of her own volition.

I wouldn't have minded if it was a name that I could have identified with, if I felt that it fit me in some way, but instead I thought it sucked, and every time she used it, it just pissed me off. Rather than make me feel more submissive, it made me feel more rebellious.



shyinini -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 3:21:34 PM)

darn hardbody....now ya gotta spill the beans so we can say it was awful too [:D]
 
Sir's sweetheart



elderrook -> RE: Sub names? (7/16/2007 6:41:59 PM)

I'm called rook. Needless to say, this is not my given name. In my case, it was sort of a control thing. She has the ability to change my name if she so chooses. We settled on rook, as it has some significance to us, and it was a name she liked.

For me, with some of the odd folk in this world, I like the safety of a different name to go with this lifestyle.



hannahmay -> RE: Sub names? (7/17/2007 12:49:09 AM)

Not sure is the safety thing for me but when i go to events sometimes when introduced i struggle knowing if to say real name or this o/l name as sometimes people will say oh i know you are hannahmay ive seen you online, then i get in a tizzy thinking do i say well my real name is blah blah or is it just easier say oh yeah im hannah.... most who i know well know my name anyways but still call me hannah anyways, think it must confuse some people to find out your real name.



NovelApproach -> RE: Sub names? (7/17/2007 5:35:15 AM)

I call my sub "Kitty" during scenes.  I'm not sure which of us first referred to him that way, but it stuck, and I couldn't hope for a better pet.  I also call him "my pet," and "dear, sweet boy" on occasion, and if we're being intimate in a more vanilla way, I alternate between his real name and his pet name.  For a short while, I had a female sub I liked to call "Cheesecake," partially because her nickname sounds like a kind of cheese, and partially because she has a chest suitable for topless calendars.  [;)]

Slightly more original, I know a Dom who referrs to his girl as "Mi Bella Stradivarius."



MastersMaiden -> RE: Sub names? (7/17/2007 2:49:22 PM)

*sigh* i wish i could have a sub name :) i hate my real name AND my middle name lol



farmlandsub -> RE: Sub names? (7/19/2007 6:26:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hina00

This is a pretty easy question. I've heard sub's ( or slaves? ) were given "names" different from their own. I'm not referring to namecalling, like "bitch" or "slut", but a name that your dom gives you. So I was wondering, is this true? You can be given a name? And if so,...Why would you do that? ( Or what's your name? )

Thanks ^_^


TexasMaam has given me a nic name "manthing" i love it.



EmpassionedRogue -> RE: Sub names? (7/19/2007 9:30:51 PM)

not dom, but domme & Angel - the reason is a personal term of endearment between you & your dominant. nobody but the two of you will know why it is, or the meaning behind it.  unless you care to enlighten them, wich is rare, and not something ild do for anything less then a best friend personally



Obsidiansnamaste -> RE: Sub names? (7/20/2007 4:38:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hina00

This is a pretty easy question. I've heard sub's ( or slaves? ) were given "names" different from their own. I'm not referring to namecalling, like "bitch" or "slut", but a name that your dom gives you. So I was wondering, is this true? You can be given a name? And if so,...Why would you do that? ( Or what's your name? )

Thanks ^_^


Greetings,

While i had a name prior to becoming His, when He permanently collared me He changed my name to namaste.  Why He did so is because the name expresses how He sees me and traits He desires and sees in me.  i was quite honored and humbled at being named by Him. It is also an expression of His Ownership of me and my belonging to Him entirely.  In many cultures a name is a symbol of coming under the authority of the one whose name you take. (Women taking the last name of the man they marry for instance).  At my renaming i relinquished my identification with being my own and full embraced being His entirely, down to how i am identified.  For me it was a profound expereince.



MordSithLover -> RE: Sub names? (7/20/2007 4:42:59 AM)

I give all my slaves (males) female names, such as lindsay nathalie sally paula etc
gives the added bonus of humiliation even if they are not sissies I just like to have little handmaidens and this seems to work effectively in their breaking to Me aswell
it is affectionate, in that its a sign of how muc I care that I have renamed them in their new life with Me, their old ones are of no concern to Me and of no importance. They even speak to each other using these names. Helps them feel completely 'owned' I suppose. I didnt think about doing it, when I started, it just felt right and natural that I would do so.
Mistress Cara x



MordSithLover -> RE: Sub names? (7/20/2007 4:45:59 AM)

PS Cara isnt My real name either but a name I identify with from the writing of Terry Goodkind and seems to fit more with My Domme identity. Should prolly post this all in the Dom/Domme section but seems to be relevant here.



subitodolce -> RE: Sub names? (7/20/2007 5:54:58 AM)

My Sir is rather fond of my given name (translates as "Beloved", so it fits), so the only name I've been given is "Miss". It sends shivers up my spine when he uses it, especially if it has a bit of a stern tone behind it. Sets me in my place in a hurry. :-)



substance78 -> RE: Sub names? (7/21/2007 2:15:09 PM)

Mistress named me toy boy
in her eyes i am a toy, her toy to be exact, an object to be played with, cared for, and tossed around when needed
not many others call me that, so it is something special between us



wildthingLR -> RE: Sub names? (10/17/2007 12:24:45 PM)

Have you asked asked your Master for a name???



RRafe -> RE: Sub names? (10/17/2007 12:56:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

I was given a name by a domme who informed me that it was "customary" for masters and mistresses to choose names for their subs. I hated the name. It didn't fit me at all, and I couldn't identify with it. The very act of her giving it to me because it was "customary" was one more straw in the bundle that eventually broke the back of that relationship. It was just another piece of evidence that she was doing what she had learned dominants were supposed to do, rather than thinking and acting for herself, of her own volition.

I wouldn't have minded if it was a name that I could have identified with, if I felt that it fit me in some way, but instead I thought it sucked, and every time she used it, it just pissed me off. Rather than make me feel more submissive, it made me feel more rebellious.


I keep saying this, over and over. Pat use of other people's rituals and protocols are a lazy way to Dom. It's stupid, and cop out, and won't gain you any respect. Subs are individuals-they enjoy and appreciate individual attention. They are not bits of play dough that one can slap around, stuff into a "mold" and have come out any old way you desire. They need to be treated as something of value-even if that value happens to be being used as an object.

Think seriously on that, when you think of granting a "name"..It has to mean something to BOTH of you-not just unilaterally.



Michaelsangel -> RE: Sub names? (10/17/2007 2:32:57 PM)

When my Dom and i first started dating 5 years ago, He nicknamed me "angel" so when i gave myself to Him as a submissive, we kept that name, even though He calls me by my given name in front of vanillas 



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