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The "why" word - 6/18/2005 2:25:23 PM   
feline


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Status: offline 		Is "why" a part of your vocabulary with your Master or Mistress?

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 3:09:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		sometimes, but usually followed quickly by a "because I told you so." i have learned not to ask "why" just to do.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 3:23:46 PM   
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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 3:53:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ditto to Fate, just like asking any question, I can ask why, but it should be asked at the right time and place.

As well, there's no obligation on his part to answer, or to answer in a way that I would prefer.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 3:59:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stormsfate

Depends on the circumstances and how it is used.



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Please explain "how it is used". Thank you.





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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 4:04:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Ditto to Fate, just like asking any question, I can ask why, but it should be asked at the right time and place.

As well, there's no obligation on his part to answer, or to answer in a way that I would prefer.


And what would be "the right time and place"? And I'm not meaning plain old common sense here. Let's hope the majority out there have some kind of common sense.






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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 4:46:06 PM   
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otherwise, most normal daily routines are never why'd.



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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 5:29:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Only after the fact. If Master tells me to do something, I do it. I may, later, ask why he wanted me to do it. He has no problem with my doing so. Occaisionally, when my mind is working overtime, I ask him the, "Why do you like x, y or z?" type questions. What I do not do, is ask "why?' when he's given me an order.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 5:37:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		YEAH BECAUSE LIKE WHY COMES AFTER EX AND BEFORE ZEE IF YOU DIDENT HAVE WHY YOU WOULDNET HAVE YOU OR YOURE'S OR YESTERDAY

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 5:48:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, it depends on the context, and what follows the 'why?'

If it's in the context of an order or request, and I want to know 'Why do you want me to do this..?' Then NO, I wouldn't ask why there and then. I'd just get on and do what was instructed/requested. Actually, to be honest... I can't think of a single time when it even occurred to me to ask Why in that situation.

Perhaps later on, if it mattered, or I didn't understand Why he had wanted something, and I wanted to know more... then I might ask Why then. Can't imagine asking it though ~ because it's not something I need to know, or want to know, really. His desires are his, and I quite like to keep it that way (I think).

If it's 'Why?' in just about any conversational situation, where we're just getting on with life, then yes.. Why happens as much as it would with any Vanilla couple, I would imagine.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 6:37:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

YEAH BECAUSE LIKE WHY COMES AFTER EX AND BEFORE ZEE IF YOU DIDENT HAVE WHY YOU WOULDNET HAVE YOU OR YOURE'S OR YESTERDAY


You know Dumass Dom, sometimes you DO make a lot of sense!

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RE: The "why" word - 6/18/2005 8:57:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		"Why" is a very large part of my vocabulary, but it always has been. I have always wanted to know reasons for things, how things work and where things go (roads, machine parts, and things like that). It's a part of me and something that my partner wouldn't change (I know because I asked him).

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RE: The "why" word - 6/19/2005 9:25:47 AM   
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Is "why" a part of your vocabulary with your Master or Mistress?


NEVER as a response to a direct order.

Sometimes during casual conversation, because this slave is curious!

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RE: The "why" word - 6/19/2005 10:26:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: feline

And what would be "the right time and place"? And I'm not meaning plain old common sense here. Let's hope the majority out there have some kind of common sense.

Well what's right and wrong for the Owner could be completely different than what is right and wrong for anyone else's.

It depends on the topic, it depends on what we're doing at the time, it depends on the type of discussion we're having, it depends on his mood that particular day. I really can't even list off clear "ok zones" because even they can vary depending on mood.

Yes this can become annoying and frustrating at times.

But there's no "no why zone" either. If I am curious about something, there will almost always present a good opportunity to discuss it, if I am smart and take care to do it appropriately.

For example I recently brought up the idea of promise rings or commitment symbol for the boyfriend and I with the Owner. At the time I brought it up he was casually talking with me but also distracted by other things, so we talked about it a bit but nothing really definitive.

The next time I brought it up I knew he had had some real time to think about it, and we had direct one on one time as we were doing other things and we had an in-depth discussion about it and my relationship with the boyfriend as a whole. If I had pushed for this type of discussion from the start, he would have gotten irritated and would have caused unnecessary annoyance, nor would I have had the benefit of time for him to gather his thoughts thoroughly.

By waiting, and taking the next good opportunity, I was able to receive a much more beneficial discussion.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/19/2005 11:31:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can really relate to what EmeraldSlave said, about waiting and taking the next good opportunity. Thats how i appraoch things with my Master. We talk briefly on something, then I jsut let it be for a few days, or whenever he feels like bringing it up. That way, I know hes thought about it, and we have a much better discussion of things

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RE: The "why" word - 6/19/2005 11:45:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, there isnt a "why" time here. though i do tend to be very curious, so usually i'll ask later, if curiousity is getting to me

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RE: The "why" word - 6/20/2005 1:39:37 AM   
MasterArn


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Status: offline 		dont forget, everyone, that as there may be a right time and place to ask the infamous "why"...there is also HOW to ask.

if you have a Brat putting thier hands on thier hips, asking why they should do something, SOMEONE's about to get flogged!


if "why" is presented in a logical, maturing communicative atmosphere, and the idea is for the GROWTH of one's self, then yes it is appropriate to ask "why"...as long as it's not exploited.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/20/2005 5:55:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		i agree, there is also HOW. Usually, i will follow orders and later if he seems relaxed and unbusy, i wll ask why. i usually strive for a way thats respectful and put in such a way that he knows i'm not questioning HIM, or the order, but that my curiousity was intrigued.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/20/2005 7:30:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: siamsa24

"Why" is a very large part of my vocabulary, but it always has been. I have always wanted to know reasons for things, how things work and where things go (roads, machine parts, and things like that). It's a part of me and something that my partner wouldn't change (I know because I asked him).






Same goes for me, the ever inquisitive mind. And Master is such a quiet man that if I don't ask why sometimes, I would end up doing something wrong. And we do have a more relaxed relationship than most Master/slaves do, and if I want to know what he is thinking or feeling and the reason behind it I ask. To me it has always been the way of figuring out people and how they tick. Don't know if this makes any sense, but to me it is a tool of learning, not disrespect. And while I was searching for that Dom/Master it was a tool that sent many back to their holes, letting me know they weren't for me if they couldn't or wouldn't share their ideas or feelings with me in the "getting to know you" stage.

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RE: The "why" word - 6/20/2005 7:39:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I totally undetrstand what you are saying.

For me, my asking "why" all the time is part of what makes me his little girl. This is just one of my childlike qualities (the others being chasing birds, pushing any button I can find, getting excited to "push the lock button" or pop the trunk on the car key ring, and many other things).

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