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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 1:59:29 PM

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People can SAY whatever they want. It's their actions that count.

I have had men say to me that they know all about girls like me and what I need afterall they have 20 years experience in the lifestyle. Usually my reply runs along the lines of: "You may have 20 years experience in the lifestyle but you have about 20 minutes experience with me...don't embarrass yourself."

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 3:39:38 PM

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I would say that I have about 2 years worth of experience over the last 20 years.

I joined an organization when I was in college. Almost immediately I let my membership lapse and became inactive. The nature of this organization is such that once a member, always a member. A couple years ago, I brought myself active once again.

Technically, I've been a member for over 25 years. (They just sent me a pin for it). In practice, I've only been active for a few years total.

So one might say bdsm identified for 20 years of which only 2 years were active.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 3:41:55 PM

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Doing things makes you experienced.
Doing them more and more makes you very experienced.

I may only have been in the Lifestyle for 5 or so years now,but I am experienced in many things.I'm an Expert in others and still a novice or no experience with other things.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 4:11:45 PM

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PS - One of Gloria's "truths" - "A man can't pee with an erection - It is physically impossible!" Stop by sometime and I'll give you an up close an personal look at an impossibility.

actually... that's not exactly true.... I have on many occassions peed with an erection.. however... it rarely maintians it's perky nature on those occassions. But, it does on the rare moments. So physically impossible.. mmmmmm I think not. But, I don't think peeing and ejaculating could be accomplished simultaneously... if it can.. the person that can do that has to be a freak

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 4:38:26 PM

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Fast reply to no one in particular....

I knew a guy in high school that was taking the tenth grade for the fourth time. He never bragged about his "experience" with the tenth grade.

I'm always leery about those who seem overly anxious to share their "experience". Generally speaking, the claimed passage of time does not seem to correlate well with their demonstrated expertise. And those with the expertise tend to let it speak for itself.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 4:48:26 PM

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Fast reply to no one in particular....

I knew a guy in high school that was taking the tenth grade for the fourth time. He never bragged about his "experience" with the tenth grade.

I'm always leery about those who seem overly anxious to share their "experience". Generally speaking, the claimed passage of time does not seem to correlate well with their demonstrated expertise. And those with the expertise tend to let it speak for itself.

John

Usually Practice makes perfect so in that sense the more you do something the better you get hence more experienced. Obvisously not so for the 10th grade repeater...but most people
would get better.

Of course there are people who cant learn or more likely dont want to learn.
I like sharing experiences with people maybe they or Myself can learn something
from it.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 4:58:08 PM

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Usually Practice makes perfect so in that sense the more you do something the better you get hence more experienced. Obvisously not so for the 10th grade repeater...but most people
would get better.

Of course there are people who cant learn or more likely dont want to learn.
I like sharing experiences with people maybe they or Myself can learn something
from it.

mmmmmmm I keep repeating... I fuck .. and I do it again and again and again. I practice alot ... dang it.. I keep having to do it again and again... When does all the practice stop and I can say I have enough experience that I don't have to repeat it?\

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:04:27 PM

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Heres a guy with something like 8 years of experience (cant remember how much he exactly claimed)...

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1130963/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm

I'm sure we can all find many words of wisdom written within his posts on how to have a successful M/S relationship

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:06:38 PM

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I think the ultimate experience is a Coca-Cola enema...

Oops.. did I misunderstand the question?

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:11:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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Usually Practice makes perfect so in that sense the more you do something the better you get hence more experienced. Obvisously not so for the 10th grade repeater...but most people
would get better.

Of course there are people who cant learn or more likely dont want to learn.
I like sharing experiences with people maybe they or Myself can learn something
from it.

mmmmmmm I keep repeating... I fuck .. and I do it again and again and again. I practice alot ... dang it.. I keep having to do it again and again... When does all the practice stop and I can say I have enough experience that I don't have to repeat it?\

Can You ever have enough Sex...thats an activity that can always be fun learning more to do...
I personally like to 'pratice' sex often...lol

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:31:02 PM

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Can You ever have enough Sex...thats an activity that can always be fun learning more to do...
I personally like to 'pratice' sex often...lol

yeah.. but... how much experience do you need to beable to say your good at it....

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:43:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

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Can You ever have enough Sex...thats an activity that can always be fun learning more to do...
I personally like to 'pratice' sex often...lol

yeah.. but... how much experience do you need to beable to say your good at it....

If You dont know when Your good at Sex...ummm
Maybe You are really doing it all wrong...lol

Another thought...that could be "judged"(if You will) by the reaction of the other party...If they are squirming and moaning and giving off those tell tale signs... You have had enough practice to say Your good at it.
Of course thats just how I see it.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:45:31 PM

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In such a situation, my answer would be, 'I had a long term relationship a long time ago. I am interested in forming more relationships like my previous one.'

'I have 20 years of experience.' Experience at what? Wearing leather? Cracking whips? Loving another person? Fire play? Twenty years of experience just tells me that you are way older than me. :P To have 'experience' do I have to get that experience by sitting in on lectures of those who are famous within the BDSM circle? Do I need to have an extensive and expensive collection of toys? I would be willing to at least take the extra five or so seconds to clarify exactly what 'x years of experience' has really entailed.

When the majority of people start talking about their 'experience' it's like my eyes go glassy and my ears turn off. It just sends this vibe of, 'You may worship me now.' and I'm not interested in worshipping anyone except my Dom. :) It's like when men talk about how big their penis is--not interested.

You may have 20 years of experience in flogging and D/s, but what about violet wands or fire play? So, it seems like it would be more informative to at least add, 'Yeah, my favorite things to focus on are D/s and neddles so I have a decent amount of experience with them.' I love hearing people talk about the things they are passionate about and their experiences with them. What bores me are people who puffing up their chest and showing off, because their passion in life is apparently looking very silly.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 5:51:02 PM

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Another thought...that could be "judged"(if You will) by the reaction of the other party...If they are squirming and moaning and giving off those tell tale signs... You have had enough practice to say Your good at it.
Of course thats just how I see it.

mmmmmmm if they are running and screaming... does that count? *eg*

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 6:00:36 PM

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yeah.. but... how much experience do you need to beable to say your good at it....

Sex and golf are two things you don't have to be good at in order to enjoy.

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 6:04:46 PM

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mmmmmmm if they are running and screaming... does that count? *eg*

are they running to you or from you?

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 6:12:40 PM

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Another thought...that could be "judged"(if You will) by the reaction of the other party...If they are squirming and moaning and giving off those tell tale signs... You have had enough practice to say Your good at it.
Of course thats just how I see it.

mmmmmmm if they are running and screaming... does that count? *eg*

Do they run as You approach...or is that *after* as in happy gleeful running and screaming? If its the latter You Sir are Experienced.
But again thats just My own standard...lol

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 6:18:17 PM

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Do they run as You approach...or is that *after* as in happy gleeful running and screaming? If its the latter You Sir are Experienced.
But again thats just My own standard...lol

well.. it's not when I approach.... I sneak up on them.

and hey.. I suppose they are pretty happy when they are running away afterwards.

*puts knife away**

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 6:18:39 PM

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I had a guy's face down at my shoes a decade ago and threw myself into the pool full throttle. Choked with an illness for about 2 years, but managed a marriage with D/s overtones and an M/s relationship through it. I'm really good at some things, really not as good at others as I'd like to be. I've been pro, after waiting a long time to do it, and I'm non-pro again - because for me, liking SM as much as I do does not make me a good businesswoman when it comes to SM. I think I've crammed a lot into a decade, but I've met people who have more knowledge in specific areas than I am who are younger and with less time in the scene - they're simply more experienced in their thing, a faster study, or what have you. I'm comfortable articulating my experience and my findings based on them. I am very good at sizing up a person quickly and getting into their head quickly in particular - I had to for a while. What a luxury it is now to have lots of time to do that!

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RE: What is experienced? - 7/12/2007 6:26:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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Do they run as You approach...or is that *after* as in happy gleeful running and screaming? If its the latter You Sir are Experienced.
But again thats just My own standard...lol

well.. it's not when I approach.... I sneak up on them.

and hey.. I suppose they are pretty happy when they are running away afterwards.

*puts knife away**

I love a blindfold for sneaking around...lol

Well if they are happy when running away ( is that good,do they come back when You call them,lmao) then like I said Your a Master

Thank You for putting the knife away

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