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falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/14/2007 3:46:08 PM

BossyLadyPamela

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I am sure this has tickled many of your womanly fancies as mine as well.. Not often does this happen........this is the 2nd version of this in almost 13 years... the first was 10 years ago..

Here I am again... this submissive gentleman..whoolala.. -----usually I see them as the sweet offerings they are..as they surrender and give me that special place inside them... I enjoy owning that part of my submissive puppies.....I get in their heads.. I enjoy all the playing and there is touching when I want it-- not in a man /woman lover way.....usually just for me to feel pleasure using them...I care about them as the people they are..laugh with them want them to feel joy.. want to see their spirits soar..they get much from me as their domme..much....all that.. it is 99% the way it always is........has been for many years...

They are my submissive friends who I do what I do with..everyone is happy..

There is this one..though several weeks ago.. he was playing as I was....flirting..I noticed his adnonis body and his smirky tone.. I noticed many things about him..it soon spilled to emotional... sappy.. I wanted to do things to that penis and body that you do when you start to love that man or woman..eeeek... he was falling too..

I take a deep breath ..enjoy the hell out of it...and just laugh and think how the fu_k did this happen......... there is no answer... all touching is better..all orders are better.... there are the times of softness and cooing.. giving him a morning and afternoon and several night time golden showers are better.. all the taboo is now sensual.... oh god, ........... it will pass as I cant stay in this sap--ville... it is not productive.. and it will change as long distance relationships dont appeal to me....Thank god, I know there is an ending at the end of the tunnel.. laugh here I know...

The heel on these pair of kick ass boots broke and I dont care.. girls... sistas.... oh women of the dark side... sweet dark side... ..share with me your stories about this..and ... give me some stories to enjoy while I laugh at myself and pretend I am not thinking about his fine little ass and his incredible mind....

I am approaching the hell out of 40.. it makes me think.. if I choose to partner up.....that partner has to be so many things......... submissive is the first one-- I dont see myself partnering up....... he has made me visit the possibilities though.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/14/2007 3:53:21 PM

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Been there, done it, have a ring on my finger and a pretty little catch. It's never especially productive or neat, but I'm glad he came along to mess up my illusions that I'm that much of a hardass all the time.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/14/2007 6:38:28 PM

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Thanks for that post. I'm hoping for a submissive and a partner in one package, and it's *great* to know that people find it, and that the partner is comfortable with all of you.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/14/2007 9:12:29 PM

MzMia

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Hello Lady Pamela, I am surprised most of your submissives don't fall in love with you.

Seriously, what you are feeling is okay for a strong, Dominant woman.
You should want your mate to be submissive, maybe even your male wife.

Many of us here are seeking lifetime mates that can also be our play partners.
You are hardly alone on this one.

I myself want my submissive male wife, partner, best friend and lover all in one package.
Good luck on your relationship, and keep us posted.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/14/2007 9:47:51 PM

PsyVamp

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Hello Lady Pamela, I am surprised most of your submissives don't fall in love with you.

Seriously, what you are feeling is okay for a strong, Dominant woman.
You should want your mate to be submissive, maybe even your male wife.

Many of us here are seeking lifetime mates that can also be our play partners.
You are hardly alone on this one.

I myself want my submissive male wife, partner, best friend and lover all in one package.
Good luck on your relationship, and keep us posted.

What she said. But only when I'm ready to settle down. And the guy won't be a sub, he'll probably be a switch (I think they are much more fun to play with, being the sado/maso Domme that I am).

Not sure I can actually fall in love, but I am in like, does that count?

~Psy, currently biting blackwolfswitch

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/14/2007 10:00:09 PM

MzMia

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Hello Psy!

Long time no see.
Of course being in "like" counts, I like that term.
I am in "like" myself!
Good luck you sexy Vampress.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 5:32:09 AM

DiannaVesta

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Isn’t it up to you anyhow? As Goddess Diva’s we are complex and have many needs. Should the need strike me I would expect my slave to comply. I’m not all that interested in vanilla sex but if I was horny and wanted to jump on my slaves cock (or face) and ride him like a bull then I’m doing it.

This has never happened to me but it has to women I know where the moment its turns vanilla, romantic, the sub gets scared and flees. There are also the guys (this was also a thread) that find it a violation to enter a woman. In some cases its hardcore males into that or maybe they are just really not all that into women. Who knows?

You are very happy. This comes through and I wish the very best to both of you.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 6:20:53 AM

KaramelGoddess

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Hi Pamela,

I wish you and your man all the best. I think it's best to follow your Woman's intuition about this. Mine has never led Me astray. Feel the feel honey!

With Kind Regard,
~Kara

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 7:01:58 AM

Elorin

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My boy dahar hit me that way. 6'4" innocent and naive. Our first meeting I gave him his first kiss, his first touch from a girl, many many firsts. I was reeling. I thought of him constantly, and couldn't get him out of my mind.

Unfortunately for us, he fell in love with me and I discovered what I felt for him was just the addiction of taking someone's innocence. Our D/s dynamic didn't work out, but those first few months were glorious.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 9:35:43 AM

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Thanks Ladies.. it is a complex feeling.... as we all are complex being women in the first place....then add on the extra uuumph that we love our domina energy..and go deep in to it...... I am a wicked mood changer.. somedays I may be a street dancer in silk..teasing all who look at my intentional presented scantily clothed body....flirting with other womens husbands other mens wives........ somedays I feel like a hippie looking at this mean world we live in..and want to spend the days saving dogs...   some days I just want to ride a mans face that doesnt know what hit him.....somedays I want to go so deep into my domme energy that I have to visit my grandmother,  to come out....again complex..

I remember lots of firsts.. the first time I stood in that hallway in 9th grade and waited for my first sexual partner to show up..acting like I just happened to be there.. we stole a forbidden kiss with fondling and pelvis rubs.. I can still remember that kiss as I was knocked off my stance with arousal... I thought "no one told me about this"..they all told me about sex.. but this ??.. this buzz of not being able to stand from the arousal.. .. my youthful girlfriend pack never explained that..    until you feel it I am not sure you can explain it.. since then I have, like all of you spent more time in that arousal zone, no matter what the situation is..the play ...the prelude..the planning....for me that is the cherry... that part.

This new man-- this man taking me to sappy--ville.. I know this will pass as I know me.. I go only so far with this lovely dovey stuff and then I go back to total in control of everything for me...his life is firmly planted in another part of the country... I have already decided relocation for him is too much for me to want to be responsible for.. and for me not even a consideration ... he is not weatlhy enough to do it the only way it would work.-- creating a third place for us to start a beginning...    I like the ephoric feeling that goes with this... .. I can manage it with effort......but it is just there--its powerful and full of emotion and arousal like back in that high school hallway.. similiar.......

The first time he walked to the limo at the airport curb...I was enjoying the visual of him in real time... dear god.. I wanted to lick him beyond every point of arousal he had ever been too.. I smelled him for the first time..saw his twinkle in his eye and his beautiful sculpted body that makes most womens mouth water.. behind his jeans and chest clinging shirt... as he walked up to me..feeling just as I wanted him to feel.. we smiled and were both overwhelmed with emotion and lust...domme and sub energy.. and a man and woman thing not familair to either of us for some time...

Since then I have licked mustard off his face at sporting events.. sat on his face for what seems like hours.. loved him up in drag..and done very unspeakable (out here) things that we all know of and probably love as I do.....the taboo becomes sensual when this happens... lost myself for a moment as he held me while I was sniffling about something... shared in meeting my family and friends briefly..... got lost in sex dates with my mouth ,my tongue and his penis only...-- never have been effected by a submissive like this before..NEVER..

I suspect it will subside, after it does this time.. me being older and wiser and just more further along in my journey... I feel more desire to get closer to this fantasy partner.......... the partner in my head that is the man who shares this ephoric dance with me .. can relocate with little complication....and will wake everyday after meeting me a happy man because I own that piece of him.. and want to give him that very special place in me...    this man is such a fantasy at this point....

the one that is not a fantasy and making me wonderful crazy... is coming to visit very soon for 10 days....   I cant wait and am fast forwarding to being sane again in some other level in my brain......

for those of you who mentioned that my subs probably fall in love with me.. this always happens and I have to make their adjustments.. lots of them are married men and I push very hard for them to revamp their own relationships..   % of success there is well, limited.....   been down this road so often.. when and if they adjust properly I enjoy playing with them years to come.. .. I love who they are..not in love with them.... those special submissive friends enjoy our relationship as a supliment to thier lives outside of this...

My vanilla friends dont understand this part of me.. its nice to feel the kinship with other domme women who like what I like... even though we all are different..the general foundation of all this is there as a reference.... I loved reading your posts..thanks

I have read so many of your profiles and there are so many beautiful women here... often many of you.... at a glance or devouring your words... you make my mouth water..... thanks.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 10:51:05 AM

asubmissiveheart

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This is an interesting post LadyPamela.
Thank you for sharing your desires and your thoughts.
I hear the joy and can feel the love that you find in this lifestyle.
I would think it would be hard not to fall in love, with your enthusiasm.
When you meet the right submissive that is local to you, maybe you will change your
mind about partnering up.
Thank you for brightening up this board with your presence, ma'am.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 11:35:55 AM

pollux

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Good. Lord.

Do you have any, like, um, *gulp*, sisters, or anything like that?

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 11:38:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: pollux

Good. Lord.

Do you have any, like, um, *gulp*, sisters, or anything like that?

If I were single, I um, like, gulp, um, gulp again would say the same thing? ma'am!
: )

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 12:04:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: BossyLadyPamela

for those of you who mentioned that my subs probably fall in love with me.. this always happens and I have to make their adjustments.. lots of them are married men and I push very hard for them to revamp their own relationships.. % of success there is well, limited..... been down this road so often.. when and if they adjust properly I enjoy playing with them years to come.. .. I love who they are..not in love with them.... those special submissive friends enjoy our relationship as a supliment to thier lives outside of this...

How do you deal with the situation when men fall in love with you but it is not mutual? Is it ever salvageable, or is it always the sign that things must end? Have any femdoms ever had a successful, harmonious relationship with a submissive who says he is falling in love with you, but you know you will never have the same feelings for him?

Akasha

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 1:31:37 PM

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I was hoping you would get more responses from the experienced Domme's with their similar stories. I say go with it. I think this shows that you are a whole rounded person. And no that initial pheremonal chemical crush cannot be sustained but it should not be underestimated either. I don;t know I think there is something incredibly powerful about a women who has a well developed Domme side who also has a well developed caring, trusting and compassionate side - a side that also wants to please at times. The lines in my opinion are very gray anyhow but then I am in a major exploration and learning phase on all this so things may become less fluid for me with experience etc. You are clearly aglow - revel in it....

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 4:17:00 PM

DiannaVesta

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyLadyPamela

for those of you who mentioned that my subs probably fall in love with me.. this always happens and I have to make their adjustments.. lots of them are married men and I push very hard for them to revamp their own relationships.. % of success there is well, limited..... been down this road so often.. when and if they adjust properly I enjoy playing with them years to come.. .. I love who they are..not in love with them.... those special submissive friends enjoy our relationship as a supliment to thier lives outside of this...

How do you deal with the situation when men fall in love with you but it is not mutual? Is it ever salvageable, or is it always the sign that things must end? Have any femdoms ever had a successful, harmonious relationship with a submissive who says he is falling in love with you, but you know you will never have the same feelings for him?

Akasha

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 9:16:07 PM

SaintAllie

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I met my bloke ( sub) at 17 .. married him at 19 and still have him 23 years later..

keep him...that sort of chemistry is heaven..

wishes you everything :)

regards Allie

edited to add that .. just because you have had relationships that you were not in love with...doesn't mean you can't find a person that embodies it.. whether it's what you were looking for .. or not..

< Message edited by SaintAllie -- 7/15/2007 9:19:30 PM >

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/15/2007 9:53:34 PM

BossyShoeBitch

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Dear BossyLadyPamela,

The chemistry you describe doesn't happen every day.
Don't overthink it. Just enjoy it and see where it takes you. Unless of course he's married. (He isn't, is he?)

By the way, thank you for the lovely and kind words you sent to Michael about our picture. The woman he is looking down at is me.

Warm Regards,
-BSB

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/16/2007 10:13:27 PM

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Pamela,

If I understand you correctly, you like this boy and he likes you. In fact, based on the feelings you've described, this boy makes your heart utterly swoon and you have the same effect on him. You're dreaming of having a long-term relationship with this boy and of living happily ever after, and for the first time in your life, you see this as an actual possibility.

So there is something I'm just not getting here. What is the problem? I don't see a problem. Oddly, the only issue I see is that you're over-thinking the situation and thus not allowing yourself to fully enjoy the feelings of lust and romance you both have for one another.

--- I am approaching the hell out of 40... it makes me
--- think... if I choose to partner up... that partner has
--- to be so many things... submissive is the first one
--- I don't see myself partnering up... he has made me
--- visit the possibilities though.

Again, why put yourself through all of this? Do you really need to think about this new boy needing to "be so many things"? It's not likely that you would be able to evaluate this right now anyway because you've not spent enough time together. My suggestion is if you like playing with this boy, then play with him. If you want to fuck this boy, then fuck him. And by all means, if this man makes your heart sing and your mind and body go all ooey gooey, send the damn boy flowers or whatever else you think will catch his heart! Romance him. Court him. And enjoy falling in love. Really, I see no problem here.

Congratulations to you both. :-)

ElanSubdued.

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RE: falling in that "womanly" way for a subbie - 7/16/2007 10:29:42 PM

BossyLadyPamela

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ElanSubdued.... and others..lovely comments thanks.

I am in a wonderful whirlwind.. the sensibility of where I usually am is a bit off... so yes I am enjoying this and that is it.. The reality of it is there is some difficulities with our two current realities geographically.just is... (BossyShoeBitch asked if married ?-no) . I am not one for sacrifice...... not wanting to be responsible for anothers in this way either..

So to suspect that this will subside is a good planting on the ground.. to enjoy it to the fullest now is also good for the soul.. so we shall see. My main point is he started as a paying submissive to me with my intentions to play with him as I saw fit.. never did I think this would happen..

was just reaching out to see how many others felt this and felt crazy for a few days.. strange place to be that is not often visited for me..yet absolutely wonderful...

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