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darchChylde -> RE: Strap-ons and (male) virgins (7/20/2007 7:57:00 PM)
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i must lead off with the statement that i've not experienced recieving anal sex and at this point it is a hard limit for me. i'm not sure if it has to do with latent homosexuality or homophobia or just the fact that i don't care for stuff in my butt. i can't say that i will never want to try a strap-on in the future, but so far i don't even like giving anal sex; though i'm more willing to do that than the other.
With all the stigma attached to recieving anal for men, and social conditioning against sodomy; i think it would be foolish to consider male anal virginity any less of a tramatic or emotional experience than female vaginal virginity. We're talking about submissive males here, who are generally far more in tune with their emotions than the average; and this is one of the most taboo acts for a straight male to participate in, there are some serious boundaries to cross there. i doubt any male goes into this activity the first time lightly. Also, one must consider the pain involved; no matter the lubrication, build up over time, i cannot imagine this activity being without intense physical pain for the first time even though there may be pleasure involved too.
Now for your question. The submissive in question has, in you, a Dominant woman who he trusts and likes; and who obviously cares for him and is attracted to him. Who better to bring him into the "joys of anal sex"? Whatever his reasons, he wants to share this special moment in his life with you. Why not accept the gift of pleasure that this is? You may not see him as a potential submissive, but it's possible that you may grow to. If not, so long as it is understood that this is not a long-term monogamous relationship, where's the harm?
You worry about his gift of virginity to a hypothetical future Dominant, and this says a great deal about the consideration you show this submissive. But, i believe that a Dominant woman will already be hard-pressed to find a straight male interested in and willing to recieve anal that has not already tried it. If this is such a major issue with the invisible woman, then perhaps this is a woman who does not deserve him. Your friend does not have a Dominant, so his virginity is his and nobody else's; it is up to him to decide who he wishes to share it with.
Go ahead and fuck your friend, have a good time and show him a good time. There are only two people here who can decide
this or has a say in it at all, and none of them are the Invisible Dominant.
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