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Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 5:32:01 AM   
skareamoos


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Status: offline 		In the doubtless vain hope that a new local lady who just LOVES older  (oldest?) men will someday show up, I regularly check the "new members" list for Florida (I am in Ocala if you ARE that rare lady).

I note a predominance (absolutely no pun intended) of 18-22 year-old ladies on the "new members list.   I cannot help but think that most of them do not really have a clue.  Yes, there are likely some excepations.

But am I wrong?  (I have reached an age at which I am neither insulted nor humiliated by any who disagree violently, so don't hold back.)
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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 5:38:49 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I mean no offense to any Domme of that particular age group, because there are always exceptions to every rule, but I can't say I put much faith in it.  One of the cornerstones of being a Dominant is control, and most people of that age have little control over themselves, much less someone else.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 6:32:17 AM   
subrob1967


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Status: offline 		I would hazard a guess and say most of them are just looking for "money pigs", are in it for the quick & easy $, and maybe a sugar daddy.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 6:35:22 AM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		Yes, I believe there are exceptions. Actually, I can say without any doubt that there are exceptions.

But those exceptions are hard to find, and if you're just paying attention to the new members, you're going to have a really hard time weeding the exceptions out from the ones who actually respond to you if you write them.


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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 6:35:23 AM   
Adrao


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Status: offline 		I feel your pain brother but thats called pedophilia.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 6:45:53 AM   
SunNMoon


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Status: offline 		A few things that could be the reason for this influx;
1) That more and more people are becoming aware of domination and submission at an earlier age. I learned about it off MTV when I was around 14ish maybe younger. Plus the internet has enabled more to also learn. The 18-20s something, well we grow up with the internet and kinky sex (sorry I’m assuming this is how a lot of them are getting into the scene, I might be wrong) and such is just part of conversations that pop up. So of these people maybe honest to goodness dominants, they may lack experience and I bet some of them are mostly looking for people around their own age to explore with (ie other newbies).

2) The second group, the wankers. What’s better then a hot early 20 something for a persona to get great marital to wank off to? So the pretend group.

3) The women which are choosing to do this for money. Easy enough to do, all you have to do is type and get a guy (gal) to send you money.

Now I wouldn’t discount them all, since I do believe that this is a real possibility that some of this increase is true. (Noting myself here, I’ve been interested in D/s since before I was legal. And if I’d known about collarme there’s a good chance I would have joined at 18/19 when I was at college.) And of course they don’t have all the great knowledge of how they should be presenting themselves but they're learning.

Now I also wonder about all the 18-24 year old submissives and male dominants as well, how many of them are real and know what they really want out of a D/s relationship? And everyone which has only thought about this as a game until getting into a relationship. All I can think is you have to start somewhere.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 7:28:22 AM   
alison2603


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Status: offline 		i thought i would just share my thoughts here, i do believe that there are girls out there who just want pigs, and sugar daddys, but i also believe there are a few younger dommes here ( me included lol) who want to dominate and command a slave, and it isnt all about the money xxx

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 7:40:10 AM   
BossyLadyPamela


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Status: offline 		I always laugh when I see the post..  22 years old..  19 years old..  too many reasons to list.... some that have been touched on in the posts before mine.

I was running my neighborhood at age 11...........I am not kidding and doing it quite well.. kids were directed.. things were getting done.. and when someone was waay out of line they were punished and for me punishment never went too far...  I love looking back on that , now knowing what I was doing ..but doing it....

I think the illusion of how easy it is to make boatloads of money.....by being some version of a dominant woman that one reads about or hears bout... the thought of getting 40 money slaves in one month.........  150.00 per slot..  ah yeah.... I want that too..  To really know what to do with them or have the time to direct that many.. for me not possible.. my monthly group is usually no larger than 5 or so..... it is all I have time for..

I hope the young dommes one day come into that place that is their own and start to flourish...    the exception, but the ones learning and tuning in to themselves-- that thing that only you know makes you tick with this foundation of the scene..... respecting and taking advantage of learing and discovery...  (I am still discovering..not as much)  they may be superstars as they season...

like all of us over 30 babes....smile and a wink

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 7:46:52 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		They probably don't, simply because they have no life experience. But, where are they supposed to get a clue if older people aren't interested in interacting with them? Part of the solution...part of the problem...take your pic.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 7:48:19 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Adrao

I feel your pain brother but thats called pedophilia.


Not if they're 18+, which is what collarme requires. If you have doubts as to their age, ask to see their driver's lisense when you meet.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 9:24:32 AM   
Grlwithboy


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Huh.

Well, my first experiences were at 23, and I wasn't a complete idiot out the door, I don't think. But I also know that there are plenty of solid players as well as total clueless nutcases,  well into middle age and older as well - why worry only about whether the 22 year olds are any good?


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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 9:33:13 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		In defense of the younger generation, I had this same issue when I was starting out in both BDSM and work.  The simple fact is, my father owned a business and I was working for him since I was about 12.  By the time I was 18 I was running 3 offices and had a ton of experience that most people my age did not have in that profession.  I then went to college and got the formal education to back it so at 22 I had an education AND a ton of experience.  However, it was hard to overcome the age factor.  I had similar experiences at 22 with BDSM.  I started pretty early and already had a lot in my repertoire then.  Again, hard to overcome the "age factor" though.

So, I completely agree with SunNMoon.  There are those who are genuine, have some decent control and experience. 

But then, there are also the newbies who are genuinely interested without that experience (yet how will they get it if not given a chance?)

There are also the ones who think this is the perfect opportunity to get some quick cash. 

You won't know until you talk with them and feel them out. 

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 9:33:53 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I agree with MasterFireMaam, everyone starts somewhere. I would doubt someones abilities to be necessarly a "very experienced and very talented" Dom or Domme at 18, however that doesnt make them any less Dominant. However if you dont get involved, you cannot learn.
When I was 18, when I started, I didnt have access to sites like this that I knew about.  If I did, I am sure I would have used the resource. I did, however, have the benefit of having a mentor while I was getting my feet wet, so by age 20, I was a fairly experienced Domme. Even at 18, I had more than a clue, I knew what I wanted and how to get it. Just notnecessarily that there was an entire community of others that understood and enjoyed the same things I liked.

Think of it this way, the younger doms and dommes starting now are going to be the very experienced ones once they hit 30 or so.  There are others who complain about the preponderance of 30something novices... so theres no way around it.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 10:02:37 AM   
skareamoos


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Status: offline 		Most of the feedback confirms what I suspected, but let me clear one thing up:  My own interests would not be even for the most accomplished 20-something-years old, but one at LEAST 40ish with no discernable upper limit.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 10:18:47 AM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: alison2603

i thought i would just share my thoughts here, i do believe that there are girls out there who just want pigs, and sugar daddys, but i also believe there are a few younger dommes here ( me included lol) who want to dominate and command a slave, and it isnt all about the money xxx


No disrespect but Your journal says " Well i want a new piggy to spoil me the way i deserve "  Which kind of goes against what You are looking for.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/19/2007 10:40:04 AM   
Transdance


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Status: offline 		I'm fairly young still (mid-20's) and have been told that seeking out a partner around the same age is nearly hopeless. I still hang on to hope though. Many Dom individuals have told me that I'll be looking for a long long time if all I'm willing to settle for is someone near my own age. I do agree that the majority of younger might not have the maturity or self control to handle being in control all the time. I know from my own experinces however that a younger Domme can be very effective and understanding of the role; my ex girlfriend who topped me for nearly four years was my age and she was very good at what she did :)

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/21/2007 1:58:46 PM   
aidan


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Status: offline 		As much as I have an affinity for more mature Dominants, I think in my heart of hearts I would want a partner who's closer to my age group.

It's not going to happen anytime soon though, I think. I have very little respect for or faith in my bracket. I can barely tolerate most of them in casual social meetings like school or work, let alone in a more intimate setting, and forget about submitting to most 18-24 year old girls.

This is not to say there aren't any girls out there in the early 20s bracket who are sincerly dominant. It just seems like those traits come out at that age, in both subs and Doms, men and women. A few of us, we just clicked right away, we always just seemed to know, even if it was subconcious. I just think a lot of girls still make the submissive = feminine or weak connection in their minds, and so don't seek it out.

I do know an AUP violation who I feel very strongly has Dominant tendencies, and I'm trying to encourage her to explore those ideas, mostly in an academic or reseach sense (like I did...Approach it like a sociologist or anthropologist would). I would have appreciated that encouragement at the time.

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/21/2007 6:37:53 PM   
SunNMoon


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quote:


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It's not going to happen anytime soon though, I think. I have very little respect for or faith in my bracket. I can barely tolerate most of them in casual social meetings like school or work, let alone in a more intimate setting, and forget about submitting to most 18-24 year old girls.



Hey, I resemble that remark  And I know what the 18-22 set was like in Vermont. lol

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/21/2007 7:02:45 PM   
rick19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: aidan
It's not going to happen anytime soon though, I think. I have very little respect for or faith in my bracket. I can barely tolerate most of them in casual social meetings like school or work, let alone in a more intimate setting, and forget about submitting to most 18-24 year old girls.


Quoted for truth. I can't take a girl my age seriously, in fact I am not even attracted to girls my own age anyway. I've always wanted an older woman, and would only consider a relationship with a woman who is 25 + (Ideal age bracket is mid 30s). Unfornately, there are not many women in their thirties (except for Pro-Dommes, but I'm not seeking them) who would feel comfortable dominating a 19 year old (which is understandable)

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RE: Junior "dommes" - 7/22/2007 3:32:05 AM   
DawnFire


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Status: offline 		Lol, I'm 19 and I don't feel comfortalbe with others in my age group.  A lot of "girls" my age are nieve and fairly annoying.  But maturity can come from other areas besides how long you've been alive.  Depending on the struggles you've gone through in your life you can be mature at any age.

In my search for a compatible female partner I've found that young women that are attending college tend to be more mature than otherwise.  No offense to those of you that are younger, not attending college, and are mature, I've just found that college women have their goals in mind and are working on them - something I attribute with maturity.

Also, no offense to anyone not in college.  Goals take many forms and you don't have to attend a university to reach most of them.

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