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RE: Does a BDSM relationship flourish due to no love in - 7/21/2007 12:44:44 PM

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the relationship?

Depends on the people involved. People like Valyraen and I require love in our relationships or it's not worth the time.

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Are there different kinds of subs/slaves?

Of course.

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Are there subs that only serve with no sex involved?

Yup. There are also subs who only serve with sex. It just depends on what they and their owner want.

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RE: Does a BDSM relationship flourish due to no love in - 7/21/2007 12:47:27 PM

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I think a Master loving his slave makes for a very difficult relationship, it adds alot of pressure on the Master to not care so much about the girl that he loses control over her. That having been said, I have the love of my Sir and could never imagine losing it.

I really don't think it makes it any more complicated then a vanilla relationship where the couples love each other. But then again, all relationships take effort from both sides to make them work. Honestly I can't imagine any relationship worth having being easy. The only relationships I had that were easy I was pretty uncaring about.

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RE: Does a BDSM relationship flourish due to no love in - 7/21/2007 1:11:59 PM

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Some BDSM relationships flourish without the kind of romantic love one sees in ideal marriages or relationships, yes. Sometimes that's why the relationship works.

Yes, there absolutely are different kinds of submissives and slaves. There are different kinds of bottoms, tops, dominants, mistresses, masters, etc.

Yes, there are certainly submissives and dominants who engage in relationships without any intercourse or other genital stimulation.

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RE: Does a BDSM relationship flourish due to no love in - 7/21/2007 2:23:22 PM

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Ours flourishes with plenty of love or our marriage wouldn't have lasted 39 yrs. There are others with no love, just a mutual need.

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RE: Does a BDSM relationship flourish due to no love in - 7/21/2007 2:51:59 PM

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ty A/all for the replies from this newbie :)

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RE: Does a BDSM relationship flourish due to no love in - 7/21/2007 6:58:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: winterlight
the relationship?

Some do, some don't.

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Are there different kinds of subs/slaves?

Yes, many.

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Are there subs that only serve with no sex involved?

tyvm

Yes.

Winter- if you can imagine it, people out there are doing it, and very happy about it.

Almost word for word what I was gonna write... thank you LA

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