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RE: I Don't Understand - 7/22/2007 7:08:16 AM   
Grlwithboy


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I have no desire to change them or deal with them, and I am not into AB.

BUT I certainly love the humiliation and fear aspect of making someone forgo the normal elimination routine for something a little different.

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RE: I Don't Understand - 7/22/2007 9:57:34 AM   
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A fetish can start as simply as something AROUND and noticed during ones formative sexual experiences and gets innately associated.  Or it can be an object which arouses a particular good feeling and so that is repeated and intensified with conditioning.

And they are very personal and unique.  While I still don't understand it, I LOVE my partner's fetish for blue jeans and bare feet :)

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RE: I Don't Understand - 7/22/2007 10:56:47 AM   
Guilty1974


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHeart

BTW - diaper wearing is a fetish...



Not necessarily. For quite a few, being an adult baby goes well beyond a diaper fetish, and and extends to a foster-parent/adult-baby relationship with D/s, discipline and/or bondage dynamics. Not much different from BDSM I'd say, and certainly not just a fetish.

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RE: I Don't Understand - 7/25/2007 11:16:12 AM   
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As someone said, diaper fetish is (for most people who find it interesting) mainly a control thing.  To force someone to use a diaper instead of being able to go to the toilet when they choose, takes away one of the most intimate of personal freedoms.  Certainly it may have its place in extended bondage sessions too, but that's often more to do with necessity and avoidance of interruption.  In  either case, changing someone's diaper isn't necessarily involved in it, and in fact the humiliation can be enhanced by making them change their own and clean themselves up while being watched.

There is another aspect other than straight control (although I suspect that psychologically the two are very closely related), and that's the Oedipus complex - which unfortunately today covers a wide range of sexual psychology and goes far beyond its original concept of sexual love for your mother.  The desire to return to an infantile state, almost to the womb (which itself is a well-known psychological state and without a doubt many aspects of bondage have their roots in this) is present somewhere at the back of most people's minds, although I suspect more in men than in women.  It's a feeling of total safety where everything is taken care of, and not only do you have nothing to do but you cannot do anything even if you wanted to.  In this case, having someone else change the diaper is not only important but downright essential.

No, before anyone asks:  it doesn't do anything for me to wear or to make someone wear one.  It's something I've looked at in some depth and rejected (so far) as a topic for any of my stories (I'm primarily a writer of femdom stories and novels - much more so than being an active player in any of the varieties I write about - although, to be honest, I do have a rather nice relationship with a wonderful submissive man who is more than happy to let me indulge some of my particular preferences when I so desire .)  

The diaper fetsh is just one more aspect to that wonderfully diverse spectrum of sexual/sensual preference and variety, which never ceases to surprise me when I find something new I hadn't previously thought of.

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RE: I Don't Understand - 7/25/2007 11:35:15 AM   
ShadowMster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanStrict

As someone said, diaper fetish is (for most people who find it interesting) mainly a control thing. 

...

The diaper fetsh is just one more aspect to that wonderfully diverse spectrum of sexual/sensual preference and variety, which never ceases to surprise me when I find something new I hadn't previously thought of.



You brought up an interesting point here that I'd like to expose.  One of life's first major lessons is toilet training.  This disregard for that life's lesson only aids the experience.

I guess I'm agreeing with you, and complimenting your insight.

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