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Subtle public humiliation - 7/22/2007 8:33:00 AM   
herpet1313


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For whatever reason, (i have long since given up trying to figure out why) this submissive husband enjoys public humiliation. However, i agree with most that it is not proper to act out in ways that are "in your face" to the general public, and especially children. Being collared and on a leash while strolling through a mall, as suggested on a recent post, is, i think, too much. Besides, such behavior draws a lot of  attention to the Domme as well and i don't believe there are many dominant women whho would welcome, not to mention handle that.                                        There are ways my wife, and Mistress, can push my buttons, publicly, that are more subtle. Let me add that these are not all original ideas. i recall reading, years ago, an entire list from either this or another website that had lots of ideas. This is what works for my Mistress.
First of all, i do, always, walk two steps behind her. Often times i will carry her purse, especially if she is clothes shopping. If she wishes to try on some shoes, i kneel and "assist" her. If she has come out of a changing room, again, i kneel and tie her shoes. Of course, along with her purse, as the shopping progresses, i am laden with whatever she intends, or has already, purchased. This can be quite a struggle when Christmas shopping. Having her walking ahead of me, unburdened, while i am loaded down with her purse, her coat and all the packages might bring a few stares, but it is not "in your face" behavior.
If we are out at a pub for a bite to eat, and scening as well, i am not allowed to speak unless spoken to.Since she enjoys feminizing me, i am wearing "a bit" of eyeliner and mascara. i always wear panties and must keep them pulled up high. When a shorter than normal T-shirt is added to the mix i have to be very careful how i sit and try to avoid  bending over, lest someone catch a peek. Mistress often "accidently" drops things. Since my Mistress enjoys sitting at the bar she will do so even if there is only one stool, leaving me to stand next to her until someone leaves. When told there is a table for both of us, she just smiles, and says "thank you, but i prefer to sit here."   If i am able to sit, i am not allowed to slouch like a guy but must sit up straight, with my legs crossed in a feminine manner. When the server asks what we want to drink Mistress will place her order. Now the server looks at me, but first i have to ask my Mistress if i may have a beer. This is about as "in your face" as it gets. But this is a pub, and i have to think most workers and patrons of  such establishments have seen it all. Our little scene usually results in a smile and by the end of the evening the server is adressing all questions to my Mistress and ignoring me.
Mistress loves to shoot pool. She is quite good at it and enjoys challenging men to a game. If she does, i am left to sit alone. She has me "watch her purse" by placing it in my lap. i must pay attention to her and she enjoys signalling me to bring her a cigarette, which she keeps in her purse. It is quite humiliating to stroll across the bar, purse in hand. i arrive next to her and open the purse, get the smoke out, and light it for her. i am told to go sit back down. Sometimes, only seconds later, she will call me over again, and request a beer. (She could have done so while i was there before.)  There have been nights when she was playing well and this went on for hours. i've had women compliment me on my purse and also dealt with the awkward situation of taking it with me to the bathroom, when, try as i might, i just couldn't hold it any longer. One can imagine the looks i get in there.
There is more to add but i think i've gone on a bit too long already.
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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/22/2007 12:58:15 PM   
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Your post reminds me of some of the slight humiliations my wife put me through when we were married and after the divorce.  Like you, shopping was a place where she could demonstrate her power over me.  She took a great deal of pleasure of trying on some particularly sexy and revealing outfits and coming out of the dressing room to show me.  Making sure there was at least one saleswoman within earshot, she would ask me how I thought "he" might like it, implying that she was making me buy the outfit for her lover and not me.  In time, she followed through with the threat and the comment became true rather than the game it began with.

One of her favorite tricks was to get me to kiss her foot in public arenas.  In a booth at a Dairy Queen, in a parking lot, and once in a department store.  I was too smitten to disobey and made a fool out of myself whenever she wanted.  We weren't always seen, but the humiliation was the same. 

Once we got to the point of her having lovers, going to bars, like you, became an easy place to demonstrate our relationship.  There is nothing more humiliating, and more of a turn-on than watchig the woman of your dreams flirt, and then go home with someone else.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/23/2007 12:01:01 AM   
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I love subtle public humilitation. I do not believe Yyou have to be in pther people's faces about My lifestyle - kinda like when people try and push their religious or political views on Me.

At a dinner meeting once with a new sub - the waiter came over and took Oour order - addressing the boy first then Me. Once the boy had given his order and the waiter turned to Me, I said he will not have that he will have .....  and then also added My order.  I completely changed his order. The waiter looked shocked and looked to the boy for some kind of agreement - the boy at this stage was bright red embarassed he ordered first more than anything (so he revealed later).  When the waiter came out with the meals and then asked if Wwe wanted cracked pepper, I refused on the boys behalf and accepted for Mine. By the end of the evening the waiter totally ignored the boy and only asked Me. 

Whilst this was not an obvious show of control it was very subtle and amused Me now end and cause the boy considerable embarassment.

Fun fun times which I look forward to doing again.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/23/2007 3:25:29 AM   
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Is it 'subtle public humiliation' to feel that a servants place is walking a step behind the Mistress, and quite possibly Her Friends??  Is it also 'subtle public humiliation' to be handed packages and told to carry them in front of a salesperson?? Is it also 'subtle public humiliation' not to be allowed to sit in the company of the Mistress and Her friends at the food court in the mall but be assigned to a table nearby attentive to Her needs but listening to Her conversation??  Duties like these make me realize that is part of my submission and proud to serve.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/23/2007 6:50:31 AM   
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Sounds like fun. I sometimes put a remote control vibrating cockring on my slut and take him out. I turn it off/on whenever I feel like, it usually keeps him squirming! In public he calls me by my name but there has been occasion that I have been displeased with him and made him call me "Ma'am". "Ma'am, may I get a drink?" "Ma'am may I go into this store?" etc etc. Its gotten a few looks but its all good fun.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/23/2007 7:14:03 AM   
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I can't say that any of that which is visible by others is any part of "subtle".  Subtle, in my eyes, would be that which cannot be detected by an untrained eye.  Shifting in the seat because he's got a buttplug in, ouching because he's got nipple clamps on under his clothes, or being in protocol while out to dinner with the mistress in a vanilla setting is more "subtle" to me.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/24/2007 8:17:29 AM   
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nick:
While i agree that carrying packages is a "duty," the other examples you cite are not. They are behavior modifications, intended to put or remind a submissive male, like me, of his place, and yes, they are subtly humiliating. i love it.  

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/27/2007 4:48:20 AM   
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i thnik many sub males would love toobe placed in this postion in public . bpanty and bra shopping as well as haveing your panty waist  band showing are things sub male should have too go thur

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/27/2007 5:38:17 AM   
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i agree would love to find a Mistress that is realy into that

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/27/2007 6:52:25 AM   
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having him go to the rest room, filling, well depositing, a shot class with cum...then bringing it back to the table.....Her then having me drink from the shot glass is always one that spins around in my mind 

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/27/2007 9:29:33 AM   
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I like having a male sub wear a dark bra under a light shirt.
It doesnt have to be a black one with a white shirt that would really stand out.

Another idea is to bind the c&b (not too tight) and have the string hanging out of the top of his pants,of course no one will know its tied up but they will look at the string especially if you use a really bright color like pink.

Another thing patrice isnt allowed to sit until given permission by Ms H.
I love it when patrice tells Me how she had to just stand there waiting...at
the resteraunt...LOL

The carrying the nighties and panties when shopping is fun too and not too outragous.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/27/2007 2:44:13 PM   
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Temporary chastity devices are good for subtle public humiliation - My Mistress puts a Houdini Cock Lock on me when we got to nights where there will be alot of PVC on display and attractive women, knowing it will be painful to get aroused, and knowing I will talk to attractive women with a level of discomfort that the women may detect but find hard to fathom out...

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/28/2007 12:59:20 AM   
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Ms Sassy ive bene there with the dark color bra and evena white that can be sene thur a white or lite colored shrit

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/28/2007 9:48:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: nick2020

Is it 'subtle public humiliation' to feel that a servants place is walking a step behind the Mistress, and quite possibly Her Friends??  Is it also 'subtle public humiliation' to be handed packages and told to carry them in front of a salesperson?? Is it also 'subtle public humiliation' not to be allowed to sit in the company of the Mistress and Her friends at the food court in the mall but be assigned to a table nearby attentive to Her needs but listening to Her conversation??  Duties like these make me realize that is part of my submission and proud to serve.


Doesn't seem very "subtle" to me.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/28/2007 11:41:07 AM   
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Heh, being out to dinner and telling the waiter--the "boy" will have this or that, he never sees or gets the menu---ohh and that secret ring he was told to put in in the men's room when we walked in----heh heh heh.

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/28/2007 2:38:53 PM   
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Mistress has countless ways of causing me to feel all sorts of embarrassment and/or humilation when we're out in public.  Usually no one ever knows or is aware, as all it takes is her whispering something devious into my ear that no one will likely ever overhear (or if they did they wouldn't understand), that usually causes my face to turn beet red, which both of us enjoy immensely.  For myself, I definitely enjoy the rush it brings, just as she greatly enjoys knowing she has the power and control over me to push those buttons at any moment in time she pleases which can trigger that kind of response from me.
 
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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/29/2007 4:55:09 AM   
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i was kinda wondering how many Mistress or Goddess realy enjoy public play. and too what lenghts will you go too ???

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/29/2007 6:51:43 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

i was kinda wondering how many Mistress or Goddess realy enjoy public play. and too what lenghts will you go too ???


heh to whatever "lengths"  I desire

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RE: Subtle public humiliation - 7/29/2007 7:41:14 AM   
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understood

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