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grlneedstolearn -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/25/2007 6:40:14 PM)

i am soo sorry to hear that. i know that when my Dom told me that we need to back off a bit, i was also confused. But we have worked things out in both of our favor. i wish you and your Master the best of luck



MagiksSlave -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/25/2007 7:14:26 PM)

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i am soo sorry to hear that. i know that when my Dom told me that we need to back off a bit, i was also confused. But we have worked things out in both of our favor. i wish you and your Master the best of luck


Thank you this give me hope that things will indeed be ok!!

ms



Sinergy -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/25/2007 8:00:54 PM)

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I agree with LotusSong, I would suggest you focus on your needs and let him go.

Do not hesitate to ask if there is anything I can do.

Sinergy


I understand people telling me to let go of him, but how do I let go of someone I dont want to let go of!!

ms


I wish I had an answer for you, but in my experience, the journey to closure is walked alone, and nobody else knows the trail markers you need to find.

As I stated, you have my support, MagiksSlave.

Sinergy



MagiksSlave -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/25/2007 8:21:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy


I agree with LotusSong, I would suggest you focus on your needs and let him go.

Do not hesitate to ask if there is anything I can do.

Sinergy


I understand people telling me to let go of him, but how do I let go of someone I dont want to let go of!!

ms


I wish I had an answer for you, but in my experience, the journey to closure is walked alone, and nobody else knows the trail markers you need to find.

As I stated, you have my support, MagiksSlave.

Sinergy


((nods)) thank you Sir.... im just completley and totaly lost and confused!!!

ms



velvetears -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/25/2007 9:43:01 PM)

Sorry for the pain you are going through magic, i can only imagine the shock of hearing those words and realizing things were going to change for the both of you so dramatically - at least temporarily. 

The first dom i was ever involved with told me he was a switch but said that he was predominantely dominant and only slightly submissive. i was quite naieve at the time about D/s dynamics and i took him at his word.  i told  him i had no dominant tendencies.  We got together a few times, we were online for a long while before actually meeting rt.  It was very painful for him when he finally realized he was more submissive then he had actually admitted to.  He confessed to me that when he was domming me, he was wishing he was the one on the other end of the flogger, so to speak.  It was very hard to accept, i felt betrayed and confused, but came to understand he didn't decieve me purposefully, he just didn't realize how deep his submissive feelings ran.  We still keep in touch, maybe an email or two a year, and he is pretty much 50/50 now - although he's not very active because of time and location. 

It is good you and your Master have a strong and solid relationship/friendship, this will help you both work this through more smoothly.  Best of luck to the both of you.



taintedgypsy -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/25/2007 10:28:27 PM)

I am so sorry to read this post. I hope this all works out for you, as one who lost the rug she walked on in a different way, know you are not alone with your feet on the cold floor. Use the cold to clear and focus your thoughts and know that their are many who wish you all the best. 



MagiksSlave -> RE: Needing a shoulder (7/26/2007 12:29:45 PM)

Thank you all so very much... Right now my head is rather cloudy and it isnt all do to this little problem

medication changes take a lot of blame at this point as well as lack of sleep and the fact that upper management where I work is comeing down on managment and so on and the entire place is stressed out and we are looking at eather entire overhoul of the staff meaning everyone fired or maybe even haveing our location closed.

Life has wonderfull timeing and everything seems to fall apart at the same time, it has been a great comfert to be able to come here and talk about this with like minded people.

Now that I know where Masters mind is and what is going on Im able to deal with this better, im just haveing trouble getting how poorly he handled this out of my head, despite what I know to be true now, I cant get that out of my head and how very hurtfull it was, even though I know he ment to make it the least hurtfull he could what he did and how he handled it made it the most hurtfull I can emagine it beeing, and Im haveing trouble not thinking about that and getting over it and it is depressing me very much.

ms



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