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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

What do I bring to the table?  Good question, twice.  Let's see if I can answer it in a way that makes sense.

First, I try extremely hard to bring the three rules of mine...courtesy/civility, patience, and communication to the table.  I really believe in these three for dealing with anyone, not just fellow kinksters but patients, friends, ums, my ex (though she does her level best to decrease all three). 

I bring the ability to recognize when I have been wrong...whether it was in abiding by my own rules above or others or in other areas...to recognize it and apologize for it.  I will attempt to do this even when the person I am apologizing to does not want to initially accept it.  When they will not even give me an attempt to apologize and explain myself, I will try again.  Of course, it is their choice to not listen to me at all or not give me the chance to explain myself but I also carry the ability to recognize that it is their choice...and their freedom...to do so but, depending on my wrongdoing, it also tells me a lot about their level of acceptance and understanding and patience and openness, no matter what they may say.   I've had those experiences...and I regret that the relationships never progressed any further...but I also am honest with myself and, once I have admitted my mistakes and have attempted to follow through and convey my apologies and proffer a dialogue, I also recognize that I made the attempt and it was on the other person to accept...or deny...it.

I also bring a sense of humor to the table.  I have learned through the many trials of my life that if you cannot laugh, even just a bit, that things tend to look that much gloomier.  I am no Sammy Sunshine but there really is benefit to being able to find something that can make you smile just a bit, let alone give out with a deep laugh.

I bring a sense of responsibility, both for myself and whoever the person is...friend, lover, play partner, um... to the table.  I have no desire to be in a relationship wherein one partner carries all the emotional load, all the workload, all the caring-for, etc..  I work hard at my job and would love to share what I have with someone, especially as things continue to improve.  But I realize that is not my only obligation and, in my world with a partner, I also recognize it as not only my obligation.  I have emotions and, unlike a lot of folks, I choose to share those with people.  I believe deeply in sharing the good ones as well as the bad.

I love to converse.  Because of this, I try to read about things that not only interest me but, when suggested by other people, I read about other areas as well.  It never hurts to keep updating what you know about the old and attempting to learn something new and then be able to bring that to the table in conversations with others.  I've had conversations with some on here that have gone on for 2 - 3 hours and I've had conversations lasting from 30 minutes to an hour and they all have been good because the people I have spoken with enjoy reading also.

I bring a sense of structure and ideas on implementing that into whatever relationship I am in. 

I bring an ongoing sense of amazement at D/s BDSM...and other things.  I love the mental and spiritual ins and outs of w.i.i.t.w.d.  It touches something deep within myself and deep within my brain. 

I love the physical...I not only enjoy the mental and spiritual aspects of what we do.  I love the physical and I admit it. 

That is some of what I bring to the table...I hope I bring more.  But for now, tis time to head to work.