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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/24/2007 7:53:25 PM   
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On the whole, I don't really desire to be shared because I wouldn't want to have sex with men and women I don't like. However, there are certain people that I would really, really, really, really like to be shared with so if that counts I'm in

You don't want to have sex with people you don't like?  How odd....lol....Yeah, it sure does "count" that you'd like to be shared with those whom you'd really, really, really, really like to have sex with.  For the sake of my question, we're assuming we're thinking of being shared with people we'd LIKE to be shared with


Yay I count!

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 3:24:26 AM   
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So, if the tool He chooses to use is His cock, a dildo, or someone else's hand, it's still HIS decision, His perogative.
 
It has nothing to do with love and devotion, it has to do with control.

Yeah...now if I can just convince Master of this.  Seriously, I do see exactly what you're saying.  He just won't let any other male's body parts be one of those many tools....lol....luci


Totally! 
Also, I was in a stage similar to yours- post an 18 year sexless marriage. I was doing many things and exploring everything. Part of me doesn't like to think that I've finished the exploration, but this voice is very small against the joyous singing of being His.

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 1:17:41 PM   
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So, if the tool He chooses to use is His cock, a dildo, or someone else's hand, it's still HIS decision, His perogative.
 
It has nothing to do with love and devotion, it has to do with control.

Yeah...now if I can just convince Master of this.  Seriously, I do see exactly what you're saying.  He just won't let any other male's body parts be one of those many tools....lol....luci


Totally! 
Also, I was in a stage similar to yours- post an 18 year sexless marriage. I was doing many things and exploring everything. Part of me doesn't like to think that I've finished the exploration, but this voice is very small against the joyous singing of being His.


What a very interesting thread, and I very much agree with what both of you are saying,

Master shares me in a limited way.  He has allowed other men to touch, toy with, feel, and insert objects.  His current position is that no other cock goes inside me other than his.

I, on the other hand, do not desire anyone else's cock, however, I have had fantasies of him putting me in a gang-bang scenario.  Whether or not it makes me feel MORE owned is rather moot.  I am owned and I feel owned constantly, no matter what he does or does not do.  But since I do respond quite favorably to being totally objectified by him, a gang-bang scenario would probably feed that hunger for objectification most intensely.

However, going without it is not the end-all for me.  In fact, it makes me feel protected in an odd sort of way that he keeps such limits on me.  Like Luci, belonging to him feeds me in so many ways, and submitting to him is my way of being true to myself.  He has expanded other limitations as he enjoyed my reaction to things he never thought he'd want to do.  But this is one that likely won't change, and it's not a huge deal.  Trust me, having to give a total stranger a facial tittie massage was quite objectifying on its own, lol.

But like hejira said, whatever he puts in me, whether his own body part, another's body part, or an object at his hand or someone else's...is HIS doing, and comes from him.  When he allowed someone else to fuck me with objects, it was not the someone else who I was responding to, but my Master. 

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 3:38:28 PM   
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Part of me doesn't like to think that I've finished the exploration, but this voice is very small against the joyous singing of being His.

Beautifully stated, hejira.  I couldn't agree more.........luci

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 3:44:57 PM   
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What a very interesting thread, and I very much agree with what both of you are saying

Thank you, ownedgirlie.  That means alot to me coming from you.
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Whether or not it makes me feel MORE owned is rather moot.  I am owned and I feel owned constantly, no matter what he does or does not do

Totally agreed.
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But since I do respond quite favorably to being totally objectified by him, a gang-bang scenario would probably feed that hunger for objectification most intensely

I could see that, yes
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However, going without it is not the end-all for me.  In fact, it makes me feel protected in an odd sort of way that he keeps such limits on me

Exactly.  I didn't use the word "protected" but I feel exactly that way.  I've said many times before that Master protects and takes better care of me than I ever did myself.  I've been reckless and careless with myself over the years and He won't tolerate that anymore.  It is very reassuring.
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Like Luci, belonging to him feeds me in so many ways, and submitting to him is my way of being true to myself

Exactly once again!
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He has expanded other limitations as he enjoyed my reaction to things he never thought he'd want to do.  But this is one that likely won't change, and it's not a huge deal

Same here.  This one won't change for us and that's fine.  As you said, so many other things have become a part of what we do and we have both found our "likes" well expanded.  Thanks for your wonderful answer, ownedgirlie.  As always, I totally agree with you..............luci


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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 5:59:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi luci,

As a dominant perspective, I've always loved the concept of 'sharing.'  What I really mean, is I love making a woman a slut, and making her my slut, where here sexual desires are given a much stronger presence, so to speak.  Allowing other men or women to use her, at my discretion, is a control thing; but it's also much the same thrill of seeing her enjoying anything else in her life.  Seeing her with someone else, and her being miserable about it, on the other hand, would make the setting...well, miserable.  I've been in relationships where strict monogamy was her expectation.  It's like any component of a relationship; everyone (dominants included) has to make compromises to keep a relationship healthy and stable.

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 7:30:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slaveluci
Same here.  This one won't change for us and that's fine.  As you said, so many other things have become a part of what we do and we have both found our "likes" well expanded.  Thanks for your wonderful answer, ownedgirlie.  As always, I totally agree with you..............luci



Hi luci,

Thank you for your kind words.  The only possible change I see in the future is his suggestion of taking on a male submissive, or having me partner with a male submissive under his direction.  Because of our distance, he would like me to have the kind of companionship he can not provide.  We had a male submissive for a short time, and it worked out well as far as the concept went. 

But the rules would not change - the male would only be allowed to touch me under Master's direction, and would likely be limited.  This does not negate the plan of bringing another female in, as well.

But that's a whole other topic

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 11:16:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Stephann
Hi luci,
As a dominant perspective, I've always loved the concept of 'sharing.'  What I really mean, is I love making a woman a slut, and making her my slut, where here sexual desires are given a much stronger presence, so to speak.  Allowing other men or women to use her, at my discretion, is a control thing; but it's also much the same thrill of seeing her enjoying anything else in her life

Hello Stephann,
Master loves me being "His" slut as well and loves the idea of controlling interactions between me and other sub/slave/vanilla women.  He finds that thrilling.  Just not with other men or dom women.
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 It's like any component of a relationship; everyone (dominants included) has to make compromises to keep a relationship healthy and stable.
Stephan

I agree with that concept over all and I know Master does as well.  He's great about taking my needs into account but I just can't see Him ever compromising on that issue.  And that's really ok.  It would be nice, I suppose, but it's not that important that He does.  Thanks for your answer.  Hope you're enjoying being in the good ole US of A..........luci

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/25/2007 11:19:36 PM   
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Hi luci,
Thank you for your kind words.  The only possible change I see in the future is his suggestion of taking on a male submissive, or having me partner with a male submissive under his direction.  Because of our distance, he would like me to have the kind of companionship he can not provide.  We had a male submissive for a short time, and it worked out well as far as the concept went. 

But the rules would not change - the male would only be allowed to touch me under Master's direction, and would likely be limited.  This does not negate the plan of bringing another female in, as well.

But that's a whole other topic

Yup, I'm sure it is.  The idea of adding a male submissive is an interesting one indeed.  That wouldn't be an option for us but, when we were separated by so much distance ourselves, He was very permissive in allowing me to be with other non-dominant females without Him.  So, I appreciated that......luci

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/26/2007 12:34:55 PM   
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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/27/2007 3:02:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi luci. I don't post much, but your thread really caught my eye. I've a bit of a long story in answer to your question, so here goes....
 
I've moved through several stages in my life, and have changed so much in the past few years. When I first got into the lifestyle, there was so much that I wanted to experience, and so many fantasies I had. One of those that I still have (though it's muted by now) is the gangbang fantasy. I always thought it was going to be a fantasy - came from a very religious home and all, and it truly took a lot of guts just for me to 'be true to myself' (I totally agree with all you said in this thread, LA) and get my butt in the lifestyle. Anyway, I had all these fantasies, fueled especially by the Kushiel Legacy books, that I figured would just remain fantasies, since I didn't really have the guts to go through with them.
 
Then, I started going to the local dungeon, and had the best night of my life there being played by 5 (I think, lol, details are lost in the haze of subspace) guys. No sex of course, but lots of floggings. I couldn't wait to do it again. However, I met my present Dom there, that night, as one of the men that was participating in the scene. He and I hit it off, there was an immediate spark that wasn't just an erotic thing. So, we started a relationship - he already had one slave, but he likes to have 2 girls. He did not say upfront that it would be monogamous on my part, but I couldn't dream of a relationship that wasn't monogamous - at that time, for me monogamous was just How It Was Done In Real Relationships. I had no inkling of poly and such, or even sharing or swinging.
 
Then my Dom started opening up the world of BDSM to me, along with a couple of friends I'd met along the way. I realized that my fantasies *could* be real. So they turned into true desires. Then my Dom (who had accepted me as a slave at that time) said, as many have said in this post "Mine. I don't share." He plays perfectly well with others, but my sex was His, and His alone. No other man was to have his cock inside me.
 
Well, I was OK with that for a little while, because I had consented to being his slave, and I wanted to be a "good girl". Anyway, long story short...in time we realized I was truly not slave material. There is, eventually, a definite line where pleasing my Dom, as madly and deeply as I am in love with him, is not as important to me as some of my own desires. So, we became Dom and subbie again, quite recently actually, and he went to look for a 24/7 slave (his first one having ended her relationship with him), and we decided to have an open relationship.

To (finally) get to your question, while I was his slave, I really didn't feel more "owned" because he wouldn't share me, it wasn't a turn on that he was that possessive...but neither did I chafe under the collar as LA did. I still had my ideas of monagomy behind me. The sharing was just a fantasy, and I could get over it, because I loved him. To be truthful, the idea of him acquiring a second girl *did not* sit well with me, no matter how much I wanted to have sex with a group of guys. But, I think those are two different matters altogether.

So, once we went to an open relationship, I realized I had the freedom to be with any man I wanted to. Wow! I was amazed. So, I set up some dates (and I'm omitting tons here, our breakup from Master/slave to D/s was extremely rocky, and we almost lost our relationship), and thought I was going to get all my "wild partying" out before I settled down. Then, on my first night with a new Dom, I hated it. Physically, I was completely turned on, but emotionally I was going crazy. Now, that I finally am allowed to be with other men, I don't want to. I can't stand any other man's hand on me except for the man I love. Why? Because Love is just as good at being a cruelly ironic Bitch as she is at  playing Cupid. But mostly because I've changed. To me, sex is now very very special. When I was younger, I never thought that I wouldn't be able to detach my emotions from sex. Of course, it might be that my Dom is, to this day, the only man I've ever had sex with. His cock *has* been the only cock I've ever experienced. Someday I hope that will change, and I will be able to go and have fun again. But now....*Bangs head against wall* sex with other men is a moot point.

And this is why I never post...I always have to write a novel. *sigh* 

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RE: Do you desire to be shared but aren't permitted to? - 7/27/2007 7:21:57 AM   
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