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octavia -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 9:51:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: shyinini

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ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

I see this thread slippng into treating all drinking and drug use, as no different from the worst alcohol and drug abuse, which is not a useful way of dealing with real life.



Back about 7 yrs ago, I was speaking with a top, planning a trip to bottom.  He told me he smoked, which I had no problem with.  But when I got there, his house was filled with marijuana smoke.

It was a long drive. Out of State even.
I told him I was out of there cause he lied, and yes, I would have never agreed to come if I knew it was weed he smoke not tobacco.
 
He told me he would refrain.  I told him it wasnt good enough, his house had second hand smoke everywhere.  We went out to dinner while his sistercame to clean up and turn on the A/C and fan out the "fumes."
 
It was a long drive back home and I really didnt want to drive all the way back so I hesitantly agreed to stay.
 
But I did refuse to swallow his cum for which he spanked me.  But I liked my safe word.
 
During the night, he left, about 2am.  I got up and packed my bag.
Waiting for his return, I verbally let him have it, as he smelt of weed and his eyes were totalled red.  As I left, with only 2 hrs sleep, he made comment about the fact he'd had a great time doing coke when he was gone.
 
I didnt hear from him again.
 
About one month ago, I was visible on YIM when a very familiar screen name popped up and greeted me.  I struggled with it and FINALLY it dawned on me who it was.
 
I gave him some tongue lashing to which he admitted he didnt appreciate but deserved it.
 
He told me a story of having been in a terrible, near fatal accident about one week after I left his place. He'd been comatose for 18 months and in rehab facilities ever since and only recently had he been able to live on his own.
He was high when he had the accident.
 
I blocked him.
 
 
Sir's girl, who has occasionally acted like a fool when even slightly anebriated.     


Is this a test to see if we are reading?  Or am I missing something big here?  I don't get how this line relates.  And.. just to clarify, this guy opened up to you, accepted your rebuke, then told you of the HUGE price he paid to learn this dear valueable life lesson, and your response was to block him? 









brightspot -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 10:05:01 PM)

Even though I enjoy a beer or a cocktail here and there,
it is something I always try to avoid when it comes to my
sex life, sex for me is just so uch more enjoyable and exciting
cold ass sober[8D].
 
I do, though, on occasion smoke a bit and I find
it can enhance the experience.
 
Anything other than a bit of smoke never happens, I just don't
partake or enjoy any soul binding drugs and don't allow them in my life or relationships.
 
Hard drugs and heavy alcohol use are never a part of my "scene", I have never even gotten behind a wheel of a car after consuming any amount of alcohol so I am pretty hard core with this issue.
 
Missy.




ChainsandFreedom -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 10:17:29 PM)

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  i'm sorry, am i the only person who is confused by this last post by nohigherpurpose? who and what are you responding to?


Nohigherpurpose, which is to say me idiotically posting under the wrong screen-name much to my Madame's dismay, was responding to the discussion topic in general. Which is to say those who condemn the use of mind-altering substances yet sanction 'scene' actions which are even more marginalized by society and have the perception by the outside world of sharing a similarly high potential for physical and psychological harm. Of course most bdsm participants do so in a safe manner, yet so do most drug (alchohol included) users. It's one thing to say you prefer to play sober, and quite another to second guess the choices of others you are personally uninvolved with.

Seeing as our intended message was basically in agreement with your posts on this topic, I apoligize for not being more clear. Though I assume by 'liberal cry babies' you meant 'liberal cry babies and conservative-libritarian personal freedom zealots'.

Niether of us uses drugs or even drinks more than occasionally (not getting very drunk even then), so its not even a personal issue with us.




EvilGeoff -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 10:18:36 PM)

On a personal note I will occassionally play after having had a beer or two.  I don't use other recreational pharmaceuticals.  I always play under the influence of aspirin, I'm on a daily dose of it it after my heart attack last year.  I'm also on three blood pressure medications and glucophage for my diabetes... I don't mind playing with someone who is mildly under the influence, I won't play with anyone who is trashed.  And if either of us has been imbibing, the play stays on the sensual side, I won't kick it to the edge.

What someone else does in their own home is none of my concern or business.

As a group leader, however, from a liability standpoint, we have to take a hard nosed approach - no alcohol will be provided by the group at group events.  Anyone known to be consuming alcohol before play will be subject to the DM's determining if they are sober enough to consent or to play, DM's can re-evaluate after an hour.  Absolutely no illegal drugs or controlled substances without their accompanying prescription containers are allowed on the premises of our group events.  While an individual who decides to use those illegal drugs or prescription drugs without having a prescription may have consented to the risk of arrest for possessing said substances, none of the rest of us have.

And again, what an individual group member decides to do in their own home is none of the groups concern or business.

Like LA I'm a huge advocate of personal freedom and personal responsibility.  Adults are allowed to make their own decisions about their own lifestyle choices.  My house, my rules.  Your house?  Your rules! 

Works for me!

YIK,
- Geoff




chellekitty -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 10:30:21 PM)

ahh ok...yes it was the liberal reference that got me...seeing as how we were in agreement for the most part...
and by "liberal cry babies" i was refering to those people who say that i must take into consideration the health/feelings/whatever of every single person i come into contact with...like i am some how responsible for someone driving drunk or breathing in my second hand smoke...
but thats another issue...
take care
chelle




Mercnbeth -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 10:36:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: witchywoman313
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
There are 3 fraternity brothers sitting in state prison because of their excessive drinking hazing ritual. The drink they made their pledge drink? Water. 

Ignorance kills - somtimes I wonder why dead bodies aren't strewn all over the streets.


Id like to here more about the pledge drink water story.  Drinking too much water too fast can be extreamly dangerous, it can even kill you.  Ive heard its even come into popularity as a way to commit suicide.


Turns out four went to jail, not three.
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They were forced pushups and trivia quizzes. Through it all, the Carrington and Quintana were ordered to drink from a five-gallon jug of water, which was filled over and over. Fans blasted icy air on their wet bodies. They urinated and vomited on themselves. Then, according to DA Ramsey, something went terribly wrong.
Carrington collapsed and started a seizure. Fraternity members didn't initially call an ambulance. By the time they did, it was too late. Carrington was taken to Enloe Medical Center, where his heart stopped. At about 5 a.m. he was pronounced dead from water intoxication, which caused the swelling of his brain and lungs. Not a single fraternity brother was there, a fact that still haunts his mother.

The Butte County courtroom of Judge Stephen Benson was awash in red, the color worn by family and friends of Matthew Carrington to honor him. Gabriel Maestretti, deeply religious as a boy, had never been in trouble before. Yet, according to the district attorney, he was the most culpable in Carrington's death. He stood before the judge, baby-faced, with the physique of a linebacker, choking back tears.
"I did what I did out of a misguided sense of building brotherhood, and instead I lost a brother. I will live with the consequences of hazing for the rest of my life," Maestretti told the court. "My actions killed a good person, and I will be a felon for the rest of my life, and I'll have to live with that disability, but I'm alive and Matt's not. "
Moments later, Maestretti and three of his fraternity brothers -- John Fickes, 20, Carlos Abrille, 22, and Jerry Lim, 25 -- were handcuffed and led off to jail.

Source: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=5012154




chellekitty -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/23/2007 10:44:42 PM)

and this is why i signed the petion to ban dihydrogen monoxide.....




MissOchistic -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 1:42:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

when what others do effects what i do then yes... for example we are at a party someone drinking or on drugs does something stupid and someone dies from it guess what you now have cause and effect..no more play party not to mention dealing with empathy for that persons death. and police comming to your work among other places doing a investigation on accedental manslaughter because you were to stupid  to use drugs or drink... it does effect everyone... one way or the other  yep yep


By this logic, you are out of line being ivolved in BDSM at all.

Everything you do affects other people, often negatively. If we were to make choices based on whether or not they were best for "that guy in the corner at this party", we would not drink, do drugs, smoke, drive, have children, sex or any sort of fun at all.

Of course everything affects everything, but rather than use this as an argument for why NOT to do things, I see it as a reason why it really doesn't matter.

As for the drugs....I would see it on a case by case basis. Alcohol? Nope. Crack? Too many behavioral changes. Welbutrin? Why not?

Weed's fine after getting to know the person high and how it effects them (assuming it doesn't make them crazy, of course). Like most things with me, it all depends.




boytoy4female -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 4:22:16 AM)

As with everything, to much of anything is not good. But, I believe there is a time, place and a benefit from the use of "drugs" in moderation. I have personally found, that a couple of drinks or some mild drug use allows my limits to be pushed further and sometimes blurs the lines of reality. This results in some very intense experiences. The world is not black and white. I believe the fear of even an intelligent use of drugs in the lifestyle comes from your own fears. I understand there are many in the lifestyle, and in the world, who have no common sense; and these people would need the rule of thumb of "no drugs". but for the intelligent people out there, there are benefits.




SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 4:35:16 AM)

imho a little herb aint gonna hurt anyone.........but i have found many find it to be unacceptable........i even added 420 friendly to my journal to get it on the table immediately......

to each their own........




LeatherBentOne -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 5:08:31 AM)

Those who indulge will always find ways to justify, rationlize or minimize their usage.  Those who dont, will forever take their stand. 

For me, what one does is their own business, provided they are educated and disclose useage to those they play with.  My choice is no alcohol, no illegal drugs, and full disclosure of medications so I can be aware of side effects, contraindictions and any necessary precautions.

That's how I prefer to live my life and that doesnt stop me from wishing others would do the same.  However, I resent someone trying to push illegal drugs/alcohol on me as much as those who try to cram their self-righteous viewpoints of what others should do down the throats of said others.

We make choices.  We take or run away from the responsibilty of those choices.  Some choices are good ones, and some are disasterous.  But, there's always one thing we can never control ~ the actions of others, no matter how much we like or dislike them for whatever reasons that be.




ELUSIVE1 -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 6:51:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne

Those who indulge will always find ways to justify, rationlize or minimize their usage.  Those who dont, will forever take their stand. 

For me, what one does is their own business, provided they are educated and disclose useage to those they play with.  My choice is no alcohol, no illegal drugs, and full disclosure of medications so I can be aware of side effects, contraindictions and any necessary precautions.

That's how I prefer to live my life and that doesnt stop me from wishing others would do the same.  However, I resent someone trying to push illegal drugs/alcohol on me as much as those who try to cram their self-righteous viewpoints of what others should do down the throats of said others.

We make choices.  We take or run away from the responsibilty of those choices.  Some choices are good ones, and some are disasterous.  But, there's always one thing we can never control ~ the actions of others, no matter how much we like or dislike them for whatever reasons that be.
I can honestly say I have never been to any function where drugs or alcohol were'pushed'on anyone...again- personal choices




Satyr6406 -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 7:10:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

I see this thread slippng into treating all drinking and drug use, as no different from the worst alcohol and drug abuse, which is not a useful way of dealing with real life.



As far as I know, drinking and drug use are usually for EFFECT. People use these things to alter themselves in some way. True enough, there are people who can't "get normal" until they've "used" in the morning but, that is someone who has slipped WAY down the scale.
 
 
 
 
 
Peace and comfort,
 
 
 
 
 
Michael




shyinini -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 8:37:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: octavia

quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

I see this thread slippng into treating all drinking and drug use, as no different from the worst alcohol and drug abuse, which is not a useful way of dealing with real life.



Back about 7 yrs ago, I was speaking with a top, planning a trip to bottom.  He told me he smoked, which I had no problem with.  But when I got there, his house was filled with marijuana smoke.

It was a long drive. Out of State even.
I told him I was out of there cause he lied, and yes, I would have never agreed to come if I knew it was weed he smoke not tobacco.
 
He told me he would refrain.  I told him it wasnt good enough, his house had second hand smoke everywhere.  We went out to dinner while his sistercame to clean up and turn on the A/C and fan out the "fumes."
 
It was a long drive back home and I really didnt want to drive all the way back so I hesitantly agreed to stay.
 
But I did refuse to swallow his cum for which he spanked me.  But I liked my safe word.
 
During the night, he left, about 2am.  I got up and packed my bag.
Waiting for his return, I verbally let him have it, as he smelt of weed and his eyes were totalled red.  As I left, with only 2 hrs sleep, he made comment about the fact he'd had a great time doing coke when he was gone.
 
I didnt hear from him again.
 
About one month ago, I was visible on YIM when a very familiar screen name popped up and greeted me.  I struggled with it and FINALLY it dawned on me who it was.
 
I gave him some tongue lashing to which he admitted he didnt appreciate but deserved it.
 
He told me a story of having been in a terrible, near fatal accident about one week after I left his place. He'd been comatose for 18 months and in rehab facilities ever since and only recently had he been able to live on his own.
He was high when he had the accident.
 
I blocked him.
 
 
Sir's girl, who has occasionally acted like a fool when even slightly anebriated.     


Is this a test to see if we are reading?  Or am I missing something big here?  I don't get how this line relates.  And.. just to clarify, this guy opened up to you, accepted your rebuke, then told you of the HUGE price he paid to learn this dear valueable life lesson, and your response was to block him? 



Yes Octavia, I did block him.  Did you think me morally apprehensible because you assumed I blocked him before I communicated with him? 
 
That particular sentence was put there cause I guess I just assumed everyone understood that what goes into the body IS synthesized and excreted.
 
If seminole fluid can contain crack and heroine, I am sure it contains marijuana ........ 
 
 
Sir's girl




octavia -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 8:55:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini

quote:

ORIGINAL: octavia

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ORIGINAL: shyinini




...
 
But I did refuse to swallow his cum for which he spanked me.  But I liked my safe word.
 
...
 
I gave him some tongue lashing to which he admitted he didnt appreciate but deserved it.
 
He told me a story of having been in a terrible, near fatal accident about one week after I left his place. He'd been comatose for 18 months and in rehab facilities ever since and only recently had he been able to live on his own.
He was high when he had the accident.
 
I blocked him.
 
 
Sir's girl, who has occasionally acted like a fool when even slightly anebriated.     


Is this a test to see if we are reading?  Or am I missing something big here?  I don't get how this line relates.  And.. just to clarify, this guy opened up to you, accepted your rebuke, then told you of the HUGE price he paid to learn this dear valueable life lesson, and your response was to block him? 



Yes Octavia, I did block him.  Did you think me morally apprehensible because you assumed I blocked him before I communicated with him? 
 No, I was clarifying.  Personally I would have responded differently to someone who was A, admitting their fault, and B, admitting it to me. 
That particular sentence was put there cause I guess I just assumed everyone understood that what goes into the body IS synthesized and excreted. 
 
If seminole fluid can contain crack and heroine, I am sure it contains marijuana ........ 
 
 
Sir's girl




imthatacheyouhav -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 9:01:57 AM)

I love this topic, i have not read all the replies(4 pages LOL)  i will say this after reading the OPs post, i still smoke pot from time to time...i was practically weened on the stuff...LOL i'm an old hippie girl for sure. My Master isnt thrilled about it, however i get the impression its not a huge big deal if i do... it has NEVER rendered me unable to "play" an while i wouldnt drive under the influence i would not have a problem playing while being high from pot. I cant speak to other drugs to include drinking because i havent done that and played. nor do i think i would...i have zero desire for any other drug...and drinking has never really "done" it for me.




MHOO314 -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 9:07:08 AM)

IMHO those 4 words should never be used together in the same sentence or in the same frame of mind---




Alumbrado -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 9:07:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Satyr6406

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

I see this thread slippng into treating all drinking and drug use, as no different from the worst alcohol and drug abuse, which is not a useful way of dealing with real life.



As far as I know, drinking and drug use are usually for EFFECT. People use these things to alter themselves in some way. True enough, there are people who can't "get normal" until they've "used" in the morning but, that is someone who has slipped WAY down the scale.
 
 
 
 
 
Peace and comfort,
 
 
 
 
 
Michael


OK.

So put people who have never taken a drug or psychotropic substance of any kind, in one group, and everyone else, from those on prescription medicine, aspirin, the occasional sip of alcohol, etc. in another group, along with the junkies and alcoholics.

Then look at how dangerous the worst examples of drug and alcohol abuse are as parents and BDSM players.

How useful is that overgeneralization?







Alumbrado -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 9:09:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

IMHO those 4 words should never be used together in the same sentence or in the same frame of mind---


Huh?




LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Drugs in the lifestyle (7/24/2007 9:12:12 AM)

Ok i have been wanting to say this for sometime. I hate cushy people big pet peve they never get anything done and just cause more chaos and never get anything done that is productive it is like its ok to be this way or that way we did the same thing during ww2 sometimes taking a stand to prevent something that might effect you later is a good thing. that is why we have groups like Mad and other orgs to help keep people that make choices that effects us away. cushy people go but its their right to do as they please. lets all be free and live in the sixities and like duh ~~~~ that did not work. its time we take a stand for the right of things. sure some rights are not your rights but if it harms someone or could harm 
you ..... you do have chance to stop it.... you better get off your butt and say to that dom or domme or sub your too drunk to play. be a leader not a fallower ... remeber alot of times it  is not all about you our comunity is a we thing




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