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RE: HUGE Dillema- need advise - 8/1/2007 6:41:05 PM

SexyRed

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GraceKlutz- I also thank you for your input however as much as I would like to take charge and give my husband exactly what he wants that is absolutely not in my nature or am I comfortable acting that way. I have tried and feel like a complete idiot and I supposed a huge turn off when I am so insecure. Maybe next time it would be in your best interest to read the entire post so you can get a complete understanding on whats going on.

-Akgirl

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RE: HUGE Dillema- need advise - 8/4/2007 2:32:31 PM

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Who is actually in charge of the relationship?
I would suggest that you might be.
Being a Dom/me isn't about being a top.
If he suggested the 'play' maybe he is trying to tell you that he wants you to be more in charge of him.
So you could chose areas of your life that you would like to be more in charge of.
If he is allowed to relinquish control in some areas he might be more satisfied and take more control in the areas you want him to.
I don't think bringing in a third or visiting a club will help you at this stage.
It's the D/s dynamic that you need to work on. Power exchange is alive and well in all vanilla relationships. A lot of men respect women who can take power and use it wisely for the good of the relationship and or their own pleasure. Or maybe he's selfish and just likes kinky sex lol. The only way you are really going to know is to talk to him about it. Negotiate negotiate negotiate

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