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on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 5:40:40 AM

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Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:21:19 AM

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*shrugs*
They have an idea or they dont know what they want.
If they cant be clear in their own heads about that, how can you expect to have a clear comprehension of them?
rhetorical question btw ;)

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:25:12 AM

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And I know males will be males. We're all contrary, mate.

PS: ever considered calling us 'women'?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:25:56 AM

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From what I gather, it is women who want a basically "nice" guy, that can be a hard ass at certain times. Not my thing personally

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:27:23 AM

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Not everyone wants to be treated the same....Some subs want to be treated a certain way in the bedroom and different in public....Ya know, they like their ass to be fisted in private but for some reason they don't think that is appropriate behavior when visiting their folks for dinner or when at church....These types baffle me as well.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:44:03 AM

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I want to know why so many people think that because they've seen several people who seem to fall in the same vein that they generalize all into that very same category.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:45:25 AM

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I cannot explain ALL females; I can however explain THIS female.

Currently I do not have a complete profile here but that will likely change soon.
Other, ‘nilla, places I have profiles and I do say contradictory things. Why?

Well first I/we are using an extremely limited means of meet, greet and general communication.

Oft times someone uses the LOL to indicate something they said that THEY find amusing and aren’t sure if others will ‘get it’; IF I got the joke I find it a bit offensive that they had to tell me ‘laugh’ here. My opinion is; if you feel you must use LOL to indicate humor in your words, you may want to consider explaining, rewriting or simply omit the humor. *Steps off soapbox*

But I digress, why do we females or anyone for that matter use contradictory statements in a forum such as this, to describe themselves?

Simply put, we are not and cannot be, the sum total of the words we use.

I am, as I see it, a fairly intelligent woman (in general), however there are some things that I am ignorant of or naïve about and I do have more than my share of ‘blonde moments’. I don’t believe it is fair, honest or helpful to someone getting to know/understand me, on a forum such as this, to simply describe myself as ‘fairly intelligent’.

We attempt on these forums and others like them, to describe ourselves in a manner that may be attractive to someone; and many of us do so as honestly as we can, often using contradictory words hoping to describe in short order ‘who we are and have taken a life time of experiences to become’.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:47:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Not everyone wants to be treated the same....Some subs want to be treated a certain way in the bedroom and different in public....Ya know, they like their ass to be fisted in private but for some reason they don't think that is appropriate behavior when visiting their folks for dinner or when at church....These types baffle me as well.

I know...I somehow do not think that would be easy to pull off during my next national sales meeting....or it might score points with the big bosses?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 6:50:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

What is so contrary about being multifaceted? I describe myself as a delicious dichotomy and those who get it, get it. If you categorize women in only one way, submissive or not, you are limiting yourself.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:05:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

The concensus is that people are multi faceted, plain and simple. Events, situations and circumstances determine which aspect(s) will be prominant at one given time. How one person portrays themselves is dictated by too many variables dependant upon where they are, who they are with, etc. It is a fact of life that we have to take the good with the not so good in everyone.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:13:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

I think you need to read more profiles.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:19:42 AM

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Could it possibly be an inability to properly relate into words their (the women in question, not all women) complex desires? Navigating the potential pitfalls of trying to put into words what you want can be difficult at best, even for someone who has a good command over the language. Add in the fact that in general, many people speak the language far better than they write the language. And then add in that many people don't want to read a 40 page dissertation on someone's wants and desires, they would rather have the advertisement (what a profile really is) given to them in 30 second blocks of flashy video (perhaps with cute puppies, cute babies, and/or large breasted women) like they get on TV. Its no wonder there are profiles that say "I want a nice guy who will treat me like crap..."

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:21:54 AM

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Most want both. And they want a guy who will act sweet and gentlemanly AND like an asshole- when it suits her mood.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:24:21 AM

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quote:

I want to know why so many people think that because they've seen several people who seem to fall in the same vein that they generalize all into that very same category.

Well I think that the concensus is that is way human brains are programmed and function. Have you never seen a face you thought you knew, looked again and wondered why you had thought so in the first place ?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:36:09 AM

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Are you trying to control the content of the profiles of others? Are they interested in you? Are you even interested in them, but would prefer they modify their profile to suit your standards?

Do they owe you anything? Even if you convince someone that they do, do you treat them in such a way that 10 minutes from now they'll even remember who you are?

Inquiring minds, and all.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:36:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female;

nice opening (and elitist) statement you have there ...are we suppose to be something else other than ...oh yeah women?

quote:

but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

what can i say - "nice" is merely a general term to describe what they're truly looking for in a man - a gent in public and something else in the bedroom. personally i wouldn't want a "nice" man in the bedroom ...i want someone who's a raging bull to romantic depending on the mood.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:40:05 AM

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It does seem that the consensus is that most people are multi-faceted. I know I have many angles...a very nice guy for the most part who is also a firm...but fair, evil...but sympathetic, sadistic, twisted..but loveable...asshole/ caring dominant.

I will grant you that many times, it takes a great deal of time to know just when the nice guy is wanted and when the "asshole" is wanted by the women but the nice thing about dealing with submissive women...for the most part...is that they learn early on that if it gets too confusing, the dominant will insist on clearer communication regarding those times.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:41:57 AM

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Maybe you should read some male profiles as well. I mean, I know you males wil be ..oh...males, but some of you are quite contrary.
For instance, those who want a Lady who is a slut for a sub. Those who want a sweet loving cruel mistress... Tis not just my gender dear. Read a bit more.
When you are looking for a partner, you want them to be more than just one role all the time. It isnt contrary at all.

DV

PS what exactly does thinking someone looks familiar have to do with anything at all? Thats a trick of your eyes, having seen a feature or two and filling in the rest of the information from memory rather than from you'd actually seen.. no wondering there.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 7:59:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

Based upon this statement I could say that all males are stupid semi-illiterate oafs that have problems communicating........but I know that would be a false statement based upon a very narrow sampling of the said specimen type. I won't even go into the impression I get from the odd baby blue text colour.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 8:07:12 AM

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I like that my Master can be the most gentle of men, yet he can also be a quite the sadistic sonofabitch when he wants to be. I want different things in a person, maybe that makes what I want complex, but I think being with someone that only had one facet to their personality would be boring as hell.

Most people are complicated in their own ways. I have had men tell me that I fascinate them because I have so many different parts to my personality. That is one thing that fascinates me about others (men and women), it's fun to get to know them and learn what makes them tick, what makes them want what they do.

These are the ones I prefer to know, not the ones that don't have an imagination and live their lives with no contradictions.

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