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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 8:17:26 AM

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I read a lot of profiles and yes men and woman are equally bad about defining what they seek...Most women want the bad boy lovers in the bedroom and the perfect gentleman in public,Some of us men seek a different thing,A beautiful bitch out in public,One that makes others say"DAMM I wish I had her or hell shes a hottie"... and then we want in another breath the home loving slut, the perfect cook, mother of our children. the other side to our coin...So a mix of both suites me well...Give it to me Lady's I deserve it smiles..bounty

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 8:46:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

Again people can be unsure of their wants or desires.....Or what I like to call "Their Gift"....lol....Anywhooo, Sometimes people have a hard time stating exactly what it is that the seek or maybe don't even truly know.....It would be similar to A Dom stating in his profile...."Cultured, perhaps elitist, but also understanding as well as strict. Online to start I think and see where we go."

What does that mean? It actually seems rather evident...As do the subs profiles that you are reading...Just takes an ability to read between the lines....I guess not everyone has that talent.

If you are curious and have developed a dialogue with that person...I would be the first to question any areas that I thought were ambiguous and were of importance.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 8:59:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

I read a lot of profiles and yes men and woman are equally bad about defining what they seek...Most women want the bad boy lovers in the bedroom and the perfect gentleman in public,Some of us men seek a different thing,A beautiful bitch out in public,One that makes others say"DAMM I wish I had her or hell shes a hottie"... and then we want in another breath the home loving slut, the perfect cook, mother of our children. the other side to our coin...So a mix of both suites me well...Give it to me Lady's I deserve it smiles..bounty

I cant say it any better,,

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 9:15:54 AM

Aine

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I think Ludacris put it pretty damned well as to what men seem to want.

Most at least.

"A lady in the street but a freak in da bed"

Yeah - Usher

How is that any different as to what you (The OP) seem to be so confused about?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 9:44:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

I am NOT contrary-- I am well developed Southern Eccentric!

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 10:31:52 AM

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I try not to define 'what I want' especially not in a profile, most things seem appealing in the right context. So I just let people take a wild stab in the dark instead! If they guess wrong I make the loser-sound from the price is right, sometimes I even hum jepordy music while they try to pretend to be what I want (which is pretty funny when they can't answer any questions before I give a description of 'what I'm looking for').

The syndrome you describe though, the 'I don't like nice men' is perhaps a bad attempt at trying to repell indecisive or less than dominant men, though the person saying it may not understand that. Before I was truely D/s aware, I had a bad pattern of looking for 'aggressive' instead of 'dominant' (no wonder i was always unhappy!) I find that to be a not uncommon trend among women who are actually subconsciously seeking strong, dominant styled men. My association was stupid, it involved the 'nice guys aren't aggressive and therefor not what I'm looking for'. Nothing could be further from the truth.
While I don't normally advocate 'reading between the lines' sometimes it helps to see through a bit of the mixed signals people will throw up, sometimes unwittingly.

Or maybe she hates nice guys, or the word nice!

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 11:47:13 AM

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LMAO! Dang it, there went my coffee!
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Based upon this statement I could say that all males are stupid semi-illiterate oafs that have problems communicating........but I know that would be a false statement based upon a very narrow sampling of the said specimen type. I won't even go into the impression I get from the odd baby blue text colour.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 11:50:22 AM

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Don't we ALL want an oxymoron in our life? I kinda dig it in my partners.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 11:55:44 AM

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quote:

I am NOT contrary-- I am well developed Southern Eccentric!

well developed...does this mean you have big boobies?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 12:28:01 PM

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Hell why are most men looking for a "ladylike slut", meaning: Someone they can bring home to Mama but will let them do all sorts of nasty things, and maybe whore her out.

Things that seem contradictory aren't always.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/26/2007 1:03:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimcontroller

Now I know females will be - well female; but do they have to be so contrary in their profiles.

"I want a nice sort of nasty man" , "I warn you if you use the word nice I'll snub you without warning" to name but two.

It is all very charming and no doubt fair warning; BUT

What is the concensus ?

men will be men.
Mothers will be Mothers
UM's will be UM's

Its the way of the world,the natural order of things that W/we are A/all just what W/we are,plain and simple.
Like Nirvana says..."All in all is all we are..." I think that is how that goes.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/27/2007 6:02:51 AM

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Greetings
Cookie cutter definitions of people...this that, the other damn thing. We are, all of us, individuals, some exhibit characteristics similar or the same as others. Accepting that individual differences make the world a very interesting place in which to live...
Is everyone the exact same way everyday? No. As circumstances and experiences change, so do we. "Bad boys, Bad boys,...whatcha gonna do, when they come for you".....heh heh.

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/27/2007 8:56:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

LMAO! Dang it, there went my coffee!
Kyst

when will you people learn to look away from the monitor when you drink something while reading these boards? so it goes read read read, look away, take drink, swallow, look back, read read read...rinse and repeat...

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/27/2007 9:03:44 AM

Rockwell

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Wait
If men can have a Madonna Whore complex

What do women have?

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/27/2007 6:31:41 PM

catize

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ORIGINAL: Rockwell

Wait
If men can have a Madonna Whore complex

What do women have?

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde??

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RE: on the contrary Mary - 7/27/2007 7:05:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

LMAO! Dang it, there went my coffee!
Kyst

when will you people learn to look away from the monitor when you drink something while reading these boards? so it goes read read read, look away, take drink, swallow, look back, read read read...rinse and repeat...

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