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goodgirl85 -> help... (7/26/2007 9:28:33 AM)
So I don't do well with not hearing from my Dom. Its been almost four days and I have not heard anything from him. He hasn't answered my texts or phone calls or emails. He gave me an assignment of sorts in his last email to me, but hasn't answered back with the questions I asked to clarify somethings. I asked him if I did something to piss him off, but he still hasn't contacted me. Should I assume that he is done with me and move on? Or sit around and wait, something I told him I wouldn't do. girl

Aine -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 9:31:02 AM)
For all you know, he could have had an accident. Don't assume anything.

MHOO314 -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 9:40:54 AM)
gees, I always hate these posts because there are zillions of scenarios out there from an accident to the worst that one is playing games--and since you have advanced to phone calls, the scenario could be an accident--(I always hate that thought which is why My boys have to check in twice a day)---or an unexpected death or the unthinkable---that well maybe he wasn't real after all----however, time will tell and that's about all you can do---I send huge hugs and gentle prayers.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 9:42:03 AM)
How long have you been together and how regularly have you been in touch? I'm guessing this is long distance and you don't have a work number to call and see if something's happened? Or a family contact? Four days is enough to say "We have a communication problem" and/or "Something might have happened" but not quite enough yet to say it's over.

goodgirl85 -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 9:46:57 AM)
I meant to mention this in my initial post but didn't because I was distracted.... I know he hasn't been in an accident, because he was online this morning, and signed off shortly after I signed on, and our relationship or whatever you want to call it has gone beyond phone calls. We have met, we have played, I have been to his house. I know he is real. For more than one reason, I can't simply just drop by his house. Our meeting times are usually up to him for these same reasons. But never have I gone so long without hearing from him. Am nervous that he has found another, or that he is just done with me.

goodgirl85 -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 9:48:31 AM)
In response to LA, only a couple of months, and its not long distance, just not that committed. But I believe he would have someone get in touch with me, or have told someone about me in case anything did happen. I know I have about him.

SubinMaine -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 9:54:11 AM)
Hun, look at it this way, do you really want a Dom who would treat you so callously? Now, this is only my opinion, but to me he's being a bit of an ass. No matter the reason, you are a person and have a right to know...is it an "exercise" He's putting you through? Has He found someone else? Is it just not working? Leaving you to "guess" at what is going on, knowing (from your email you sent asking if you'd pissed Him off) that you're worried...and He's showing little to no concern over that? i'd take that as a HUGE red flag. you deserve much better. Luck and hugs edited for typos and horrid grammar

SexyRed -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:03:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirl85 So I don't do well with not hearing from my Dom. Its been almost four days and I have not heard anything from him. He hasn't answered my texts or phone calls or emails. He gave me an assignment of sorts in his last email to me, but hasn't answered back with the questions I asked to clarify somethings. I asked him if I did something to piss him off, but he still hasn't contacted me. Should I assume that he is done with me and move on? Or sit around and wait, something I told him I wouldn't do. girl If you lived in NY or NJ, I would think we had just met the same guy. There is NO, I repeat NO excuse for not getting in touch short of accident, severe illness or death. If you saw him online (like I did my "poofer") then he is being a complete asshole who I assume, would rather slit his wrists than face you. I hope you feel better; I really do. I am getting over my thing that just happened like yours.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:07:06 AM)
Those are key details. The fact is that he's actively avoiding you and you can't just come over- definitely says it's over to me.

domiguy -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:14:33 AM)
Or it could be aliens....Possibly the anal probing type...But more likely the ones that take over your identity...Maybe since you are relatively new to his life,those most recent memories are not yet privy to your Dom's new host. I can assume that this is the only logical reason for his recent lack of interacting with you.....I mean, what else could it possibly be...Spending time with his wife and kids? Who would let such inconsequential things stop them from gettin' some pussy?

Estring -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:14:48 AM)
I hear the fat lady singing. Move on.

MasterMataeo -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:19:06 AM)
do you really want a Dom who keeps you at bay for his time and play only? have you thought about the reasons that you cant jsut stop by,, or is it a sort of punishment for something you did or didn't do ,, were the instructions that he gave you not clear enough ,, you did hve to call to clairify something,, hy,, only you at this point can decide what is going to be best for you in the long run,, you say he is for real ,, in my Exp a Real Dom would at least answer questions that were posed if he/she wants thiere sub/slave to complete the task that they have been given MasterMataeo

bliss1 -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:19:20 AM)
I would have to say the same - move on. He is not showing any compassion or consern, if that is missing I would put him in the book of players.

MasterMataeo -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:20:30 AM)
well put SexyRed

ProlificNeeds -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:23:38 AM)
Pretend he died in a horrible accident, you saw it in a dream. If he ever comes poking around again you can yell at him for being an imposter and tell him how rude he is for pretending to be a dead man.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:25:46 AM)
yeah...it sounds like he is done with you...if he's cheating, perhaps his wife found out and hobbled him.....he could have at least given you the courtesy of a txt or a e-mail or something...i'm sorry you were treated so badly

MasterMataeo -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:26:39 AM)
<applaudes>,, yeah the more i'm thinking the more i'm thinking ;he is a fly by night

caught4u -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:33:05 AM)
i would be GONE...there are so many more out there who would give you the attention you deserve.

BreatheinToMe -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:35:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirl85 "...just not that committed. " See, you already knew, deep down. ~~~~~~~~ SexyRed is right, but the reason he doesn't want to face you, is that his mentality tells him, if he doesn't break it off with you, when this new fling he is flinging doesn't work out, he will have you to fall back on. ' Got that T-shirt! Some soothing words ... "Not a good match, move on."

Donnalee -> RE: help... (7/26/2007 10:41:55 AM)
If he was on the computer this am, I'm going to imagine he had the choice to send you a quick note....if he wanted to. Cast my vote in the "Its Over" box. I wish he had more courtesy, and that you didn't have to suffer through it this way.

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