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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/4/2007 6:43:47 AM   
evilgoodsub23


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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/4/2007 6:45:20 AM   
evilgoodsub23


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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/4/2007 6:48:28 AM   
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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/4/2007 7:49:45 PM   
YesMistressIrish


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ORIGINAL: favesclava

good luck.


yes, good luck to the OP.

and faceclava, that is really a great pic of your ass!

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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/4/2007 8:49:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: evilgoodsub23

A first i new i was both sub and dom cuz im switch and wen i met my Mistress i did not tell her and now i dont no if i should keep hide'ing it from her or just tell her cuz the longer i keep it from her makes it harder on me in do time and i dont want to keeep things for her but i dont no how to tell her  watt i was keeping from her ....so what should i do...........



Just be honest with your Mistress. We prefer honesty over lies and being hurt any day. Perpetual lies will only start to degrade your life because of the guilt. Get it off your shoulders and ask for forgivenss and learn from it and carrry on!!!

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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/4/2007 11:14:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		The easiest way, would be to print this out and show it to her, I think.

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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/5/2007 1:20:58 AM   
KiandPhoenix


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Status: offline 		The difference in MY relationships between a sub confessing she lied, and me finding out on my own, is that if I find out on my own it will be the last time she is my sub. We may be friends with little trust, but she will not be my sub, my lover, or anything else. Come clean, say your sorry, and if she is anything like me you will probably live through worse than hell in her disappointment in you for lying to her for so long. Lying however is one of the few things you will see an extreme side of me from.

If I were you I would call for a safe talking time, assuming you can do that. Tell her how you feel about what you did first then come clean. Otherwise she may never hear how sorry you are for what you have done.
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RE: how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch - 8/5/2007 1:40:11 AM   
FullfigRIMaam


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ORIGINAL: evilgoodsub23
cause MY Lady ...thinks im all submissive
I'm wondering what exactly is the issue...  Do you want to top her, or want to have alternating times you're exerting control/authority over her?  
Have a talk with her sooner than later, and let her know exactly what is perturbing you.   I don't think the issue is so much that you are a switch, as much as you are not content with the relationship/authority dynamic you two are in currently, and you seem to want things working differently.    I may be wrong, and in which case, correct me.   I don't see being a switch who is submitting as a problem, unless you see it as one.   M

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RE: how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch - 8/5/2007 2:52:50 AM   
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My first insights into the BDSM world were as a submissive male.  I learned that submission was at most kinky to me, but dominance was simply a part of me.  Honestly, I'd second think being with a dominant person who was against me trying to learn what it was all about.  Ignorance is ignorance.  Bliss is bliss.

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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/5/2007 10:48:43 AM   
seeksfemslave


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Status: offline 		If your first post is true then you haven't lied to her by omitting to mention a minor point like that. My advice is enjoy what you've got and be careful what you may say when "playing". Its not as though you are planning to ride into the sunset together is it ?

Yes that the thing to do I'm sure of it lol
Dont tell her I mean, not ride into the sunset.

< Message edited by seeksfemslave -- 8/5/2007 10:50:29 AM >

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RE: how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch - 8/5/2007 11:51:39 AM   
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My first insights into the BDSM world were as a submissive male.  I learned that submission was at most kinky to me, but dominance was simply a part of me.  Honestly, I'd second think being with a dominant person who was against me trying to learn what it was all about. 
I wasn't suggesting the man should give up a part of himself.   What I wanted to be clear on was whether he wished to be in a relationship with this dominant, or give it up and find someone who is more switch so that he could get to dominate sometimes.
Again, the issue isn't omitting switch desires or tendencies as far as I understand.  If however he wishes to dominate as well, than they may have a problem.  If his wish is to top her in certain ways/during certain types of play, they may not have a problem in this case.   A lot of figuring out who he is and what he wants needs to be take place.   I'm not able to identify with switches, because my kink is dominance, but dominance means means little when it comes to playtime in terms of who's going to be on top necessarily.    M

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RE: how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch - 8/5/2007 5:39:45 PM   
jamesthehumanrug


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Status: offline 		you cant take the option of breaking a trust and never being that trusted slave or sub again.....once a trust is broken ;its science theres no fixing it -they will never trust you again,not really and will feel for the one they can trust best....my guess is you are dreading the tops reaction ,or value judgement, but, it's a smaller price to pay for the moment of unpleasantness, than to get rid of a top,forever...you lose the heart you won,however ,there is one golden rule;NEVER BE STUPID AND CONFESS ANOTHER LOVER,OR MENTION ANOTHER WOMAN OR MAN TO THE MAN OR WOMAN YOUR W/
done is what you are
theres no reason to bring up any other lover to a lover, nor to confess an affair;while a top can do what ever they like ;you cant.....and to confess the truth about affairs is to be the big  loser.
stupid is what that would be everytime!,when ''honest'' hurts (in the case of having and confessing to an  affair )-don't freakin'do it ,unless you want predictable consequenses;and the irreversable results are:
they wont trust you and thats finished ,and ...., if they stay- they stray;'get a priest and shut up ,because : that's the only thing ,to hide,from a good mistress.
SCIENCE !!!!!

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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/5/2007 6:49:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: evilgoodsub23

A first i new i was both sub and dom cuz im switch and wen i met my Mistress i did not tell her and now i dont no if i should keep hide'ing it from her or just tell her cuz the longer i keep it from her makes it harder on me in do time and i dont want to keeep things for her but i dont no how to tell her  watt i was keeping from her ....so what should i do...........


um you just do not hide anything

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RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something ... - 8/7/2007 12:27:51 AM   
MsSophie


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Status: offline 		Well.... you're 22 - just a pup, really. Though, no doubt, you feel as ancient as the rocks right now. Chances are your girlfriend is about the same age, and the same chances are that her own desires might not be set in stone either. Just tell her! Maybe she wants to play around a bit with the dynamics too and you'll end up the happiest switch-couple on earth! The very worst that could happen is that she is immature enough to end the relationship over this, and - face it - that wouldn't be the end of the world. We've all ended relationships and survived to enter a new one.

Good luck!


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