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A re-transformation - 8/3/2007 6:41:41 AM

forHERuseonly

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Many years ago I shared a (sort of) switch relationship with my now ex-wife....Dom for basic vanilla sex but a good subbie boy for BDSM play. Over the years since the divorce I have had a couple of vanilla relationships and a couple of BDSM where I ended up Dom. The problem is I have decided that I REALLY LOVE being sub to a woman. Maybe a bit of a switch, but definitely wanting to be subbie to a woman.

I had spent my whole life in charge and it is SO exhilerating to just let go, mentally & physically. I am giving serious thought to finding a 24/7 where I can be in quasi-domestic & sexual servitude. I would like one where I have input as to HOW things are, maybe an occassional joint decision, but leave the final decision to a Mistress/Domme.

I find that I am finally redefining who I really want to be based on past experiences, working through all the crap of the divorce (and its' aftermath), and the trials & tribulations of defining myself since.

I had a Dom profile on another web site, but have since added a different one as a submissive...with NO reference to the Dom one. I feel I should do that and then close the Dom profile. I do believe honesty is the only way to truly make things work.

I have met a woman who claims she wants to be a sub...but in reality she is just a very passive personality that always does as she sees fit. I see her as maybe a switch but more likely a Domme with the very passive reserved personality. She also has some trust issues.

I'm trying to figure out how to break it to her about my decision on lifestyle. I will probably just be straight forward and let the chips fall where they may...????

I'm not really sure if there is a question here....but I know I seem to have a few as I change gears.

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RE: A re-transformation - 8/3/2007 7:56:19 AM

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You have to be true to yourself, first. Without that you are lying to everyone around you whether you know it or not. So, it appears you are finding your personal truth and with that must tell your friend the truth as well. If she cares she will understand and support you; even if you are not a couple.

Good Luck!

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RE: A re-transformation - 8/3/2007 9:17:32 AM

Politesub53

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I agree with earthycouple ( waves ) If you are not honest with yourself then sooner or later you will resent your situation. If you are not honest with your friend, when she finds out then how will that help her trust issues. Its an old cliche but hinesty is always the best policy.

Good luck and welcome to the Forums.