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BitaTruble -> RE: Swimming upstream, again (o.O) (8/4/2007 10:32:51 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin
Not for the first time do I find my line of thinking out of step with the mainstream bdsm community.
It is always interesting, after avoiding the community for a while, to test the waters and see how people respond.
Sadly, there is very little change in the past 15-20 years.
Some of us are born to walk alone, with as little to do with community as possible.
I'm one of them.
Best wishes to all in their search. Thanks for the input.
Bob,
If you don't think what you have to say has value, then, yes, perhaps you should go and screw those of us who might actually learn something from you. In turn, if you don't believe you have anything left to learn, then tuck your tail, turn your back and be gone. I understand far too well how hard it is to find gems among the muck but as you sift through the debris, it does get easier.
My suggestions: first, utilize the block button freely and you will find in time that most of what you read has a great deal of value even if (actually, especially when) you don't agree with what's been said.
Second, be patient. You are giving up far too easily.
Third, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being an elitist and thinking you are better than anyone else. I certainly believe that most of the folks get things wrong most of the time, but as they don't live in my world, it's all good. No doubt most would think I'm wrong most of the time as well and by their criteria, they are right but I don't have to live in their world either. On the occasions, few and far between though they maybe, that we I do see eye to eye, it simple means that we have nothing to learn from one another as we already think and believe the same. I can have conversations with the voices in my own head if I want complete agreement and while I'm rather witty and fairly bright, such conversations, while entertaining, are hardly useful. ::chuckles::
See, I don't believe in "The Way" but I absolutely believe in "My Way" and in 'my' world, everything is 'my way'. I can hold that belief and still acknowledge that 'my' way is not "The" way and it allows me tolerance for the ways of others so we can converse and come to a meeting of the minds.. or, if necessary, agree to disagree. There's a bit of a trick to that in knowing when such should take place, but you get the hang of it as you practice communicating.
So, Bob, a few questions. Are you wise or do you pretend? Are you a student or have you mastered it all with nothing left to learn? Something brings you back to test these waters, to dip your toe again into the stream. I don't blame you if you get a nip from a shark as instinct says to pull your foot out before it's chewed off.. however, don't mistake a minnow for a shark and pull your foot out when it's not necessary.
Go or stay, the choice is yours, but don't put that responsibility onto the posters of these boards because there is much wisdom to be found here, and there is heat and humor, debate, understanding, compassion and crap. It is all here, Bob. Fill up your plate with the flavors and tastes you like best.. or leave the buffet hungry and saddened because you only looked at the first table and didn't see the whole other room in the back just filled with tables laden with delicious tidbits.
If you stay, then I look forward to learning from you and, perhaps, teaching you a few things as well. Who knows, we may even end up entertaining one another on occasion.
However, if it's hopeless, it's hopeless and I'm a realist if nothing else. So good luck on which ever path you choose.
Celeste
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