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OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 3:38:07 AM   
BIllCT


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What do you look for in a Dominant and what attracts you most to one?
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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 4:01:14 AM   
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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 4:23:58 AM   
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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 4:51:05 AM   
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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 5:20:09 AM   
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no, really, ..a secure man, simple. well-rounded, mature, and his skeletons are what he says they are, not growing longer bones by the minute. It is not too much to ask. Oh ya, and lots of money. Can't forget that. lol   

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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 5:49:23 AM   
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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 6:02:57 AM   
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Why do I always feel that if I answer this type of question,  I am going to see what I wrote, verbatim, on someone's profile?

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RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 6:03:51 AM   
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  • I'm intelligent, and someone who I felt was dumber than a brick could never take me to the place in my head I need to be. So much of submission and the feelings associated with it happen inside my head, it takes a smart dominant to establish the mindset she wants me to have.

  • You can't scene all the time, and in between having a witty, engaging partner is a must for me.  I want to be as excited to curl up on the couch together and talk about ANYTHING with this brilliant conversationalist as I am to be tied up and spanked later.

  • A sense of humor is, I think, really necessary for good sex, vanilla or kink.  Because funny things happen!  And you need to be able to laugh and not let it destroy the mood then go on.  After clearing away the mess where the bedslats broke and the bed collapsed atop you in a spectacular implosion of bedposts and silk drapes, you have to laugh, and start again!

  • Next, I want absolute truthfulness and trustworthiness.  These are the foundations upon which trust is established.  Experience has taught me that my Lady doesn't lie, ever.  She is utterly trustworthy and I can literally put my life, health and safety into her hands with no worries.

  • I don't worry about looks or other nonconsequentials. Like anyone, I appreciate eye candy when I see it. But I am also an artist and I see beauty everywhere. It's all about perception.

  • Money/employment are a must. I work and make very good money on my own. So does my Lady. If one of us somehow could no longer work, we can keep our household going. Someone who won't work or doesn't seem able to keep a job means you end up supporting them and almost never receive full value in terms of helping around the house in return.  That kind of inequality ina relationship is a deathknell.  I may consensually exchange power, but I get full value back in care and joy. And money issues have to have the same balance. 

  • Life stability is another must. Life stability is knowing who you are, being on a social and mental even keel.  A hormone-driven teenager doesn't have that stability usually.  Not all adults do, either. I want a person who knows who she is, who knows what she wants out of life, and one who, when she meets a obstacle to her desires, uses her brain to find a way around the problem instead of simply raging.

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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 6:05:09 AM   
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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: reticence


    Why do I always feel that if I answer this type of question,  I am going to see what I wrote, verbatim, on someone's profile?



    I want a girl who can look good on old bleachers. And if she can look lonely and forlorn, that's a plus, but not a requirement.


    < Message edited by mnottertail -- 8/5/2007 6:06:17 AM >

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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 6:09:07 AM   
    reticence


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    edited cause it is too early in the morning


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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 6:47:46 AM   
    eyesopened


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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 8:34:38 AM   
    Laure


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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 8:53:59 AM   
    givemyall


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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 8:56:00 AM   
    Tannie


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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 8:59:33 AM   
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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: BIllCT

    Big Question of the day for all the female submissives in CM:
     
    What do you look for in a Dominant and what attracts you most to one?



    Power.

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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 9:04:48 AM   
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    < Message edited by angelic -- 8/5/2007 9:07:28 AM >

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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 9:33:56 AM   
    shyinini


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     How many Submissive women in CollarMe, have actually had real life experience?
     
    And at what age did you start and how?
     
    or this .....
    Ladies ,when spanked ,if your into spanking, what is your favorite impliment, or do you prefer barehanded? 
     

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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 9:49:48 AM   
    Cyntilating


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    first attraction is generally :
    self-confidence, without being conceited or condescending.
    healthy self-esteem and he knows who he is and what he wants.
    A genuine smile that I can see in his eyes as well as on his lips, and an easiness to laugh and make comfortable conversation. 
     
    then I check out the hands...I can tell alot about a person by their hands...  ....grinz....
    ...ok and then the thighs...
     


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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 9:53:07 AM   
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    RE: OK Ladies? - 8/5/2007 9:57:03 AM   
    LuckyAlbatross


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    http://www.collarchat.com/m_926661/mpage_1/key_characteristics/tm.htm#927025
    most important virtues

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_158262/mpage_1/key_dominant%252Ccharacteristics/tm.htm#158262
    what is dominance?

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_81695/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#81695
    What are the signs/traits of a good dom?

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_176730/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#176730
    "real doms"

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_223089/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#223089
    a submissives perspective

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_257771/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#257771
    what I look for in a good owner

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_284665/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#284665
    top ten characteristics I want in a dom?

    http://www.collarchat.com/m_339652/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#339652
    nature of dominance


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