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OUnishments - 8/5/2007 11:15:53 AM

BIllCT

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Some Doms punish a submissive by spanking, them, ignoring them or hurting them and i think that is all wrong to do!

I punish a submissive who is with me and in my life by taking away what she likes best and making her earn it back!!

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 11:16:44 AM

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I've never been ounished before.

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 11:17:56 AM

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What's the question? That's what you like ok fine - other's feel differently. Why is their way wrong? i hope not just because it's not YOUR way.

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RE: Punishments - 8/5/2007 11:31:34 AM

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Sorry mistyped the title lets start over!
LOl, When punishing a submissive, I find many doms like to spank em, or mentally put them down and i believe that is wrong to do.

I basically take away what they like best for instance, if she has an oral fetish no oral, if her favorite thing is anal no anal etc, until, she earns it back is all.
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RE: Punishments - 8/5/2007 11:58:36 AM

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I get spanked as a reward, is that wrong too?

I believe that discipline has no effect unless the "why" is addressed. So, that means I believe that your method is wrong.

Big whoop! We all do what works for us within the dynamics of our own relationships.

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 12:04:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Some Doms punish a submissive by spanking, them, ignoring them or hurting them and i think that is all wrong to do!

I punish a submissive who is with me and in my life by taking away what she likes best and making her earn it back!!

Good for you. Would you like a cookie?

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RE: Punishments - 8/5/2007 12:05:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Sorry mistyped the title lets start over!
LOl, When punishing a submissive, I find many doms like to spank em, or mentally put them down and i believe that is wrong to do.

I basically take away what they like best for instance, if she has an oral fetish no oral, if her favorite thing is anal no anal etc, until, she earns it back is all.
Thanks

If a person doesn't like being spanked, it's an effective punishment.

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 12:10:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Some Doms punish a submissive by spanking, them, ignoring them or hurting them and i think that is all wrong to do!

I punish a submissive who is with me and in my life by taking away what she likes best and making her earn it back!!

Good for you. Would you like a cookie?

Perhaps, a gold star right in the middle of the forehead.

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 12:11:51 PM

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Good for you. Would you like a cookie?

Perhaps, a gold star right in the middle of the forehead.

I asked Valyraen if I could start getting gold stars to put on my forehead. He's considering it.

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RE: Punishments - 8/5/2007 12:12:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: BIllCT

When punishing a submissive, I find many doms like to spank em, or mentally put them down and i believe that is wrong to do.

just because you don't like the way Daddy punishes me doesn't mean your way is the only and twue way of doing things.

perhaps you should start reading your CM Handbook again ...especially chapter 1 page 1 which states - not all D/s dynamics are alike

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 12:15:39 PM

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Some Doms punish a submissive by spanking, them, ignoring them or hurting them and i think that is all wrong to do!

Why do you think it's wrong?

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 12:20:09 PM

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My Dom takes away the most important thing to me as a punishment........Himself. Believe me it is very effective.

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 12:41:14 PM

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...Different strokes.....Tempting

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 1:20:51 PM

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So you teach her to associate the good things she loves to do with her bad behavior?

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 1:46:08 PM

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I don’t use a spanking or pain as a punishment in my home. The lesser reason is that it would just be rewarding bad behavior in my situation. The Major reason I would not think of it though is that to me, hitting someone for doing something I don’t like, feels like abuse to me. Is this true for everyone? No. I would venture to say MOST are comfortable with it. I don’t know how they make the distinction between a punishment and abuse, but obviously the majority of them do. Good for them. Just not an area I like to play in.

I like punishments that fit the crime. In Wal-Mart one day my sub was purchasing spices. She was blatantly ignoring me, and even got a little rude with me for talking to her when she was doing something she felt more important. I did not make a scene there in public, but waited until we were home. I called her in and told her why I felt she was wrong, and sent her back to the kitchen to think about it for a bit. She was still defensive. By the time she reached the kitchen it finally hit her that she screwed up, but she had to wait for me to call her back. I asked her if she was raising the importance of the spices to the level of importance of me, or if I was being lowered to the level of spices. She indicated the latter. So my punishment was this. Everything she ate for the next week had to have one of these spices placed on it. Every time she ate, she would be forced to think over the situation. Cereal with garlic salt on it is apparently not to tasty.
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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 2:06:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Some Doms punish a submissive by spanking, them, ignoring them or hurting them and i think that is all wrong to do!

I punish a submissive who is with me and in my life by taking away what she likes best and making her earn it back!!

Good for you. Would you like a cookie?

((falls out of her chair loughing))

Ill take his cookie if he don wan it!!!

ms

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 2:52:25 PM

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Some Doms punish a submissive by spanking, them, ignoring them or hurting them and i think that is all wrong to do!

He's so excited at his own question as he wanks that he cant even spell..... and he asked us if we were ever real life submissives??

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RE: OUnishments - 8/5/2007 3:09:49 PM

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My Dom takes away the most important thing to me as a punishment........Himself. Believe me it is very effective.

Slvr

Oh my.....that would kill me if I were someone into punishment. I'm such a snuggle bunny. It would be worse on me than my slave.

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RE: Punishments - 8/5/2007 3:16:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Sorry mistyped the title lets start over!
LOl, When punishing a submissive, I find many doms like to spank em, or mentally put them down and i believe that is wrong to do.

I basically take away what they like best for instance, if she has an oral fetish no oral, if her favorite thing is anal no anal etc, until, she earns it back is all.
Thanks

So You don't think the denial of those things which mean a great deal to Your
submissives will eventually have an effect on them mentally? Guess again
professor. Or maybe You'd simply like to start ALL over. Just my humble
opinion You understand.

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RE: Punishments - 8/5/2007 3:21:59 PM

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wouldn't a corrective measure work better? punishment huurts the Owner more then the slave most times,as i have seen it anyhow
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