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I am planning a day long scene this week where we reestablish the boundaries and end the bratty behavior (she knows it's coming and is looking forward to it almost as much as I am).

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ORIGINAL: Faramir

Maybe don't have a scene--maybe just use her like she's your owned cunt-daughter.  If she does something you don't like, crack her across the face, make her get down on her face and thank you for unfucking her.  Even better, don't crack her one when she's bad--just crack her one whenever the fuck you feel like it.

Just take what you want--if a girl like that gets knocked down, brutally ass-raped and then made to suck clean the dick she get's butt-reamed with, it does a lot to give her a sense of her place and position. 

I'm 40, my little girl is 21, and while we don't have any brat or SAM dynamic, like your little girl, mine craves intense pain and humiliation.  Except she doesn't crave them as them, but rather, is grateful that I use her as I see fit.  The pain and the humiliation are the fruit of that power dynamic--each blow and returned kiss is the dynamic made manifest. Is it possible your little girl doesn't want "scenes" but rather needs you to take ownership?

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I am planning a day long scene this week where we reestablish the boundaries and end the bratty behavior (she knows it's coming and is looking forward to it almost as much as I am).

Hello justinfun. Whatever suits you, as I would not pretend to know what is going on between you two. But if you want a "real" (non play) disciplinary scene (training?), you should not say "where "we" reestablish the boundaries"...you should say "where "I" establish (not reestablish) my boundaries" of acceptable behavior.

Unless all you want is to "play" at it, and have her push your buttons anytime she wants to "play"? That can be fun too. But if it is not your "fun", and you are just stepping up to some level of discipline (or play) just to please miss Bratty here, well good luck to you.

If you really "want" some discipline from your sub, you should start by having some yourself and start intervening on the spot, in the "now" aspect of things. Don't make it "fun" by setting up a "play scene" in the future. You will never be credible in this department. Then again, maybe that's what you want?

As for answering your post, when I have that type of behavior my sub loses all privileges. Example of privileges for some doms: Looking at me, talking to me, going out when I'm not there, driving my car (take the bus), clothes (buck naked or you wear what I tell you), food (you do not set up the menu), standing (on your knees when I adress you), sleeping resting (when I tell you), TV, telephone etc. Get the Idea?

Slapping the face or whipping the ass of a pain slut will get you nowhere. Threatening to stop play scening and cutting the daily Oprah fix on TV will probably get her attention.

You can be a very nice "nurturing" daddy without being a "pussy daddy". RL.

Especially taking the bus {I never thought of that one, you could also put her on the bus and drive her car! },

I love you guys!

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you could also put her on the bus and drive her car!

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SimplyMichael

Great question and one I could create a blog on because I have over analyzed it so much. 

She's a 21 year old worth keeping but that isn't it. 

It has been three things really.  I've found parts of me that I didn't know were there, the upbringing I had put a lot of this into the do not enter zone and I'm a bit of a perfectionist and have been overly concerned with technique.

I almost wish I could meet her all over again because this has been such a learning process for me.  Before I met her "control" was a light binding and a smack or two on the ass before love making and a cuddle on the couch.  I've discovered that my old boy scout knots have uses that I would never have imagined at 17 and didn't think available to me at 41.   So as this old dog has learned new tricks or put old tricks to new uses he's worried more about the presentation instead of keeping track of the toy.

What's motivated the change?  I feel like I'm holding myself back.  It is one thing to read about things, another to play with them and another thing entirely to take the control I want.  And I feel that time has come.