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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 5:34:39 PM

ChainedExistence

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I You can't trade that for an orgasm that can just as easily be obtained with chocolate.

Dang, what kind of chocolate do you have...and can you send me some?

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 5:43:19 PM

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I think there are a lot fewer male subs than you think if you just look at the numbers online. If you take a look at many of the male sub profiles, you'll see that most of them reveal a lot less information than the male dom profiles.

It would not surprise me if many of the guys with a male dom profile keep another sub profile or two, which would throw the count off.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 5:44:37 PM

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Send a nice face shot. DON'T send a cock shot. That will not make her happy. Let me repeat. THAT WILL NOT MAKE HER HAPPY.

6. If by some chance you do get to meet her, be polite and friendly. She's a dominant, not your next girlfriend. Well, that may not always be the case, but if you're interested in her as a dominant, treat her politely as one, and keep your mind focused on how she wants you to respond.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 5:55:36 PM

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Out here there are definately more male subs tha there are fem doms. I see it, and I am certainly approached more than I have been anywhere else. Is this bad, no. However, I do know that the boys that approach me politely and act appropraitely have a better chance of making it thorough a conversation that thse that are blessing me with their presence.
Heres the thing... WE know there are more of us than there are of you. What that means is, we are going to be picky because we can be. If you cant make yourself stand out in a crowd, then you wont. Even the fakes have done something to catch someones attention.
Be outstanding, and you will be noticed. Be plain and you'll be overlooked for someon who has mae themselves outstanding.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 6:10:59 PM

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Same thing in Southern New Jersey, unless you want to "PAY TRIBUTE" or pay for a Professional. And then if you try for aomething CYBER, you open the floodgates. Why can't people just do things for fun anymore, without trying to get money out of it. When I had live sessions with MADAM, or Cyber Sessins with Mistress Haley, they had just as much fun as I did, and not talk about any "TRIBUTE" !

Sincerly and for fun, Sub BalletBob

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 7:12:54 PM

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I know this is a stretch BUT there a re a couple chapters of The Next Generation in florida...the other in orlando, these are support/social groups for people under the age of 18-35/40 ish, you might I have an easier way of getting to know poeple that arn't your parents age.

Orlando TNG has helped me a lot with finding friends into this lifestyle closer to my age. It's good if you want to get socially involved. I even found my domme through TNG. If you want more info, go to the website or contact Afmvdp.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 7:18:10 PM

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Most male submissives are complete fucking idiots. Please note I said MOST implying quite clearly to those who can read that that means there ARE exceptions. Socially competent male submissives who enjoy actually improving the lot and life of a Domme are few and far between, most are just looking for a fetish delivery device, not a full fledged woman who is also a Domme.

As LA said, figure out why THEY are getting chosen and not you. Hint, don't send cock pics, don't tell them you will do anything, tell them you would do something even if they are filthy dirty and wearing sweats, and find some concrete non sexual tasks you are willing to do and learn to do them well.

I agree 200% with what Michael said about MOST, now Michael you should have highlighted that part!
I love the part about the fetish delivery device, wonderful I am gonna steal that line.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 7:19:35 PM

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When Gloria Brame's book Different Loving came out back in the 90's her research had the number nation wide at about 20 male submissives to every Domme. I would bet the ratio hasn't shifted all that much since then.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 7:20:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Most male submissives are complete fucking idiots. Please note I said MOST implying quite clearly to those who can read that that means there ARE exceptions. Socially competent male submissives who enjoy actually improving the lot and life of a Domme are few and far between, most are just looking for a fetish delivery device, not a full fledged woman who is also a Domme.

I agree. Too many bottoms, not enough top servicers.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 9:36:24 PM

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Greetings
From a purely selfish view (after all being a Dom means you can be right? or is it that that is a prerequisite?) I have the one I searched for and waited for, for around 30 years....and I am keeping her, period.
I guess that just leaves a whole bunch more for the rest of you! happy hunting!
(firmly with tongue in cheek)

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 9:43:13 PM

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 9:44:10 PM

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aint that the truth, Marie!

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 10:02:00 PM

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I appreciate all the comments, positive and negative. I think some of you clearly either misinterpreted what I said or just made simple assumptions. I have been a sub for 16 years, so if you got the impression that I am a newbie then I am sorry, but I am not. I am WELL AWARE of what it means to be a sub, and I dont mean to sound arrogant at all but there really isn't anyone who can tell me about what it means to live the lifestyle.

I am here to serve, my feelings and satisfaction is irrelavent, but there are a number of FAKE FEM DOMS who are trying to hijack this culture and that is the truth.

Some of you assumed that I haven't been getting the responses I expect because of how I phrased my profile. On the contrary, I get a fair bit of responses, my question IS people if people are haven't the same experiences in their city as I am in mine... where their are clearly alot more subs than doms.

Lastly, the comments about me wanting sexual domination were.... well lets just say they didn't make much sense. The lifestyle IS ABOUT SEXUAL DOMINATION!!!! Now, how one(a Dom) performs such sexual domination will vary and is strickly up to her(that could entail just spankings, humiliation, or whatever), but FAKE FEM DOMS are the ones who have tried to redefine the culture and make it about someone merely doing your household chores, or paying her bills, or trying to get a slave/sub to boost her own ego and justify her existance in the world.

I realize that is what many TRY to make the lifestyle out to be, but that isn't it at all. I do appreciate ALL the comments though, even the ones that I feel are quite misguided. I want to thank those who truely answered my question and I look forward to reading the responses that will come after I post this response.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 11:00:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: smoothcoco

I am here to serve, my feelings and satisfaction is irrelavent...., .

Glad you're here to serve. ...Serve your own sexual needs, I see.

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Now, how one(a Dom) performs such sexual domination will vary and is strickly up to her(that could entail just spankings, humiliation, or whatever),....

Now how exactly should that DOMME be required to sexually perform on you and for you?

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The lifestyle IS ABOUT SEXUAL DOMINATION!!!!

No, it is not just about sexual domination. Don't redefine submission to suit your own sexual ideals.

It is no wonder you can not find a Dom to sexually dominate you. If you want to serve, clean her house for her, afterall, your feelings are "irrelavent", correct?

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but FAKE FEM DOMS are the ones who have tried to redefine the culture and make it about someone merely doing your household chores, or paying her bills, or trying to get a slave/sub to boost her own ego and justify her existance in the world.

Fake DOMME? Hardly. That's a smart DOMME.

(In case you didn't know, that is, for many a subs, what moves them-Making the life of the DOM easier).

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/6/2007 11:51:33 PM

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Yep, pretty much ditto.

Sexual domination is *a* domination style, but not the only one, and certainly the easiest.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/7/2007 2:17:01 AM

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I think this may be a time in your life when you need to sit down and redefine your needs and wants. Make a list, for yourself, of what you are looking for and try to determine if anyone could possibly match those wants. Have you taken into consideration that this person has needs and wants of their own? You may not be able to find all that you want in one person, so define which is the most important!

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ORIGINAL: smoothcoco
I appreciate all the comments, positive and negative. I think some of you clearly either misinterpreted what I said or just made simple assumptions. I have been a sub for 16 years, so if you got the impression that I am a newbie then I am sorry, but I am not. I am WELL AWARE of what it means to be a sub, and I dont mean to sound arrogant at all but there really isn't anyone who can tell me about what it means to live the lifestyle.

Fair enough! I won't tell You what it means to live Your lifestyle, but kindly don't tell Me that Mine is not for real. You certainly dish it out, but you don't seem to be willing to read, and really take in, what people respond with. And, frankly, you do sound increadibly arrogant - in My humble point of view, of course.

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ORIGINAL: smoothcoco
I am here to serve, my feelings and satisfaction is irrelavent, but there are a number of FAKE FEM DOMS who are trying to hijack this culture and that is the truth.

Well, that's a bloody stupid thing to say! Obviously your own feelings are very relevant to You, just as they should be. But, along the same lines, please accept that other people have different views on things.

If you're here to serve, and your own feelings and satisfaction is irrelevant, why have you got such a bee in your bonnet about what other people want in terms of service? If they don't fit your mold, then just move on to the next one and stop whining about it!

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ORIGINAL: smoothcoco
Some of you assumed that I haven't been getting the responses I expect because of how I phrased my profile. On the contrary, I get a fair bit of responses, my question IS people if people are haven't the same experiences in their city as I am in mine... where their are clearly alot more subs than doms.

Oh, yes! I have heard people from almost every other corner of the world whine about the same thing. Problem is, it still doesn't change the fact that there are 50 preditory male subs on every to every dominant female.

I have had the same ad here for over a year now. In this ad I am very explicit about what I'm looking for. Do you know how many responses I have had? Thousands... Do you know how many of those actually seem to have read the ad and profile, and respond to what it is I search? Less than ten...
It's all "I want to lick your feet and then you may sit on my face and force me to lick you out for as long as I want"

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ORIGINAL: smoothcoco
Lastly, the comments about me wanting sexual domination were.... well lets just say they didn't make much sense. The lifestyle IS ABOUT SEXUAL DOMINATION!!!! Now, how one(a Dom) performs such sexual domination will vary and is strickly up to her(that could entail just spankings, humiliation, or whatever), but FAKE FEM DOMS are the ones who have tried to redefine the culture and make it about someone merely doing your household chores, or paying her bills, or trying to get a slave/sub to boost her own ego and justify her existance in the world.

This, of course, should read "MY lifestyle IS ABOUT SEXUAL DOMINATION!!!!", not THE lifestyle.

And once again you are the one hi-jacking, and redefining. This isn't all about sexual domination. That is just one aspect of it all. All forms of domination may give you a "kick" sexually, but it's not all about face-sitting and strap-on play... Some people actually do get a kick out of paying their dommes bills, ironing and laundry. Are you claiming these people are fake too?

Frankly, your post smells of "I want all the experience, toys, looks, services and charisma of a fetish-model/pro-domme but I don't want to pay for it".

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/7/2007 2:25:35 AM

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I You can't trade that for an orgasm that can just as easily be obtained with chocolate.

Dang, what kind of chocolate do you have...and can you send me some?

(Throws Chained a Hershey Bar)

This is one of My favorite little tidbits of trivia that I have never forgotten since I read about it over a decade ago. It has been scientifically proven that chocolate releases the same pleasure endorphins in the brain as orgasms in women. I wish I could provide the link to give you the reference for the study that was done, but unfortunately, I do not have it at My disposal.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/7/2007 7:15:32 AM

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fake ? depends how one defines just what is fake is
fake sex is still sex *smiles*

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/7/2007 9:29:03 AM

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your a joke "oscar" wont waist my time. Get to the back of the line bozo.

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RE: To many Subs, not enough Doms - 8/7/2007 9:33:02 AM

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hmmm, I know a number of people in the lifestyle up in German, Netherlands, UK, AND Sweden. You see, I am in the adult business. I will ask around see if anyone knows you, on paper you sound like a joke, but this should be fun.

Thanks for the laugh.

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