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RE: Are you making do until you find what you are reall... - 8/8/2007 6:26:48 AM

MzMia

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One aspect that is not mentioned enough around here is this,
we all are into different aspects of this lifestyle.

We may all be here--- but we surely do NOT ALL seek the same types of relationships.

Some are focused more on the M/s dynamics and some are focused more on the D/s dynamic.
The Main reason I have Female Supremacist on my profile is to let people know that I am very
heavily into the Mental Dominantion/ and the D/s aspect and that is my PRIMARY interest and focus.
**I even state, I AM a control freak, I WANT A PARTNER, LOVER, CONFIDANT, BFF, submissive/slave, all in one. I seek that relationship.** I love to make friends, and I have made male and female friends on this board.
Friends are lovely, I don't share well, and I don't do "casual relationships" well.
I also do not seek a pain puppy and I do seek male wife material, this has been on my profile for 3
years, and folks it ain't ever going to change.

Being that my PRIMARY interest in this lifestyle involves obedience, SERVICE, and usually intimate
activities, having a "play partner" would not scratch MY ITCH.
IF however I was interested in someone to {flog, whip, spank,tie up, practice various acts and techniques on }

etc. with no intimate contact I would certainly
have play partners.

Again, we all seek different things, and a play partner would only scratch about 5% of my itch, so it is not worth
my time, which is the most precious thing that I have.

Bottom line? Do whatever floats YOUR boat.
I love my LIFE and I am "Making Do" very, very well.
It is okay to be poly, seek play partners, play, do whatever, and it is ALSO okay to not play.
I have never in my life been bored, now let me go do some of the 1 million activities I am enjoying while I "make do".
Have a wonderful day and stay cool.
Who wants to join me for drag queen bingo at the club tonight/ I may not be into casual play but I do have a pulse.
See ya there.
I am the only one that gets to flirt with that cute Hispanic bartender.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 8/8/2007 7:06:15 AM >

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RE: Are you making do until you find what you are reall... - 8/8/2007 8:56:04 AM

LadyPact

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quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

I think the term "making due" might be making some people think its settling on less than you deserve in life.While easily it can mean that, the essences of my question involved have you had to make changes to your needs to keep you in this lifestyle or to experience something as long as you know in the long run that this not really what satisfys you ..
It rminds me of Sopranos episode when their dealing with a gay mobster member. Basically when your in prison , and you need sex' you do what you gotta do". lol

I didn't touch on this part of the question in My previous answer, though I did hit the mark in mentioning the difference between making do and settling. To Me, there is a difference in the terms, and I stand by that.

To be more clear on the other parts of your inquiry, I'll make the attempt to come closer to what you are looking for.

One thing you mentioned was changing who a person is just to be in the lifestyle. No, that I wouldn't do. I am a Dominant, and would not become a submissive or a switch just to continue being in the lifestyle in some form. I understand the some have done this, but it just isn't Me.

Another thing you mentioned was same gender play. Up until a couple of months ago, I would have said no to that as well. Only recently has that changed for Me. I've found that Topping a female bottom can be just as rewarding as a male bottom. It's not something I do often, and to date has only occurred in connection with some kind of special occassion. One was for a birthday present (it was what she wanted for her birthday) and the other was something I did after the other did something out of selflessness. Both of these were incredible experiences, and like Tammyjo said, they were beneficial to Me.

Would I take a female submissive for My own? Probably not. That, I would also see as settling.

I was very careful to use the phrase same gender play so as not to confuse the issue with sex. I don't use My casual BDSM play partners for sexual gratification in the traditional sense. While I do consider wiitid very sensual and sexually charged, it does not necessarily mean that sex is a natural conclusion.

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RE: Are you making do until you find what you are reall... - 8/8/2007 10:39:31 AM

lonlyrossInNeed

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I have a few Dommes who play with me
so yes i am but i just wish it wasnt so hard to sort out all the fakes and game players out there

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