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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/11/2007 11:08:49 PM

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Domiguy, poetry. pure fuckin' poetry.

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/12/2007 12:02:13 AM

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Didn't your parents ever teach you that you must be carefull when roll your eyes or do other silly facial contortions. your face could get stuck that way. But yes there are some Dominants (male and female) that know from an early age who and what they are and no amount of mocking changes the truth.
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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/12/2007 12:03:31 AM

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But the important factor is - the rush I feel is wholly dependent on the sub going into sub space. If I can feel her gasp, see her eyes roll back and her muscles go limp - I get the rush.
MasterSteve57

Just wondering, if you are unsure if you are a dominant why did you choose an id with the word Master in it? (I know the question was asked before, sorry if I missed the reply).
If the sub you are with does not go into subspace would you still be a dominant?
Do you feel that you would only be a dominant (if you are in fact one given that you mentioned reading that there are very few 'real' dominants) if you have a submissive?
Are you able to go to munches and/or start meeting others in the local community who may be able to answer some of your interesting questions?
If someone says that you are not a dominant will this change what you do and feel?

Just some questions from me on a lazy sunday afternoon.

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/12/2007 9:43:00 PM

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Steve, I suggest you think before you type, you have only been on here (with this current profile) for 6 days and you have already made numerous hng errors.

-for those who have not had the pleasure Stevie boy here started yet another fat subbie thread.

As others have mentioned you have self identified as a Master, yet from your posts you have done no reading or self discovery as to what it is you think you are or enjoy.

Before one can own another they must know themselves inside and out. You need to educate yourself, do not rely on forums to learn. There are valuable resources either in book form, local groups or on-line (though the jury is out on how effective on-line education is).

You need to read read and read some more, there are many issues you need to understand and learn. Not the least of which are safety issues, both physical and psychological.

Perhaps rather than posting questions you should take a moment (or month) to read some of the threads on here, there are some very insightful and knowledgeable people on here who will offer true answers, however when questions such as your two are posted you are going to get slammed.

Good Luck have fun but be safe.

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/12/2007 10:17:49 PM

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We feed off the reactions of our partners. Some of us feed off their pleasure. Some of us feed off their fear. Whatever works for you works for you.

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/13/2007 3:04:20 AM

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I've read that genuine DOM males are very rare. I've only had three scenes with two subs but in each case when I take control (usually by grabbing their hair) I get a sexual rush that is truly intoxicating. It's far beyond anything I've ever experienced during vanilla sex. The orgasm that follows later is incredibly intense.

wowzer! yawwwn. Explains why those two are long gone.

But the important factor is - the rush I feel is wholly dependent on the sub going into sub space. If I can feel her gasp, see her eyes roll back and her muscles go limp - I get the rush.

Maybe she was asleep?

Lacking the response I'd get little or no pleasure. I'm not by nature a violent person quite the contrary so I'm no rapist. I'm also not a control freak nor am I an egoistic person so I don't think this is an ego thing.

A Master without an ego? ouch

It seems to me that my dom fantasy feeds off her sub fantasy. The more pleasure she displays the more excited I become.

it was all fantasy? again, yawwn.

What is this rush? Is it an indication that I'm the real thing - a REAL DOM? Still trying to figure all this out...

if you have to ask..........

(btw, girl: honey do these pants make me look fat??? boy: baby, it ain't the pants!! WHAAAAAAAAAK!)

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/13/2007 10:17:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSteve57

I've read that genuine DOM males are very rare. I've only had three scenes with two subs but in each case when I take control (usually by grabbing their hair) I get a sexual rush that is truly intoxicating. It's far beyond anything I've ever experienced during vanilla sex. The orgasm that follows later is incredibly intense.

Sounds to me like you've discovered that slightly rough sex is something that trips your light fantastic.

But the important factor is - the rush I feel is wholly dependent on the sub going into sub space. If I can feel her gasp, see her eyes roll back and her muscles go limp - I get the rush.
What makes you think that this is subspace?
Lacking the response I'd get little or no pleasure. I'm not by nature a violent person quite the contrary so I'm no rapist. I'm also not a control freak nor am I an egoistic person so I don't think this is an ego thing.

It seems to me that my dom fantasy feeds off her sub fantasy. The more pleasure she displays the more excited I become.

Vanilla people feed off of each other's pleasure, not just kinky people. I have to wonder if your vanilla sex life was just boring?

What is this rush? Is it an indication that I'm the real thing - a REAL DOM? Still trying to figure all this out...

If you're still trying to figure all this out, then you don't deserve the honorific you've attached to your name. Also, dispense with the caps thing immediately. Capitalization does not a genuine dominant make.

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/17/2007 7:30:27 PM

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yeah, I'm kinda thinking he wrote this to have hits on his profile by willing subs who think he's cute since he's so "emotionally open" and "unsure of himself"

Ouch. (wipes a tear from being such a sensitive man in touch with his inner soul)

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/17/2007 7:32:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

yeah, I'm kinda thinking he wrote this to have hits on his profile by willing subs who think he's cute since he's so "emotionally open" and "unsure of himself"

If so it'll back fire when they tell him they just want to be friends and he's like a big brother to them.

Double OUCH!

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/17/2007 7:40:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterSteve57

My post was entirely in earnest with no other motives whatsoever.

If real doms are really so rare, how is someone relatively new to the game to know if they belong to such an elite group? Most submissive women seem to be looking for the genuine item not paper tiger pretenders. Are my dom traits solid enough to make a ltr work?

Pardon me if I pushed some buttons here, but I'm just trying to find my way in a fascinating but bewildering maze.

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What is the worry about "REAL" Doms? You ask if they are so rare. Well some Doms are rare, some medium and some well-done.

Seriously, get off the real, true, fake criteria and worry about you, yourself. And lose the "elite" group idea. A Dom is a Dom is a Dom. There are some good, some bad, and some pretty ugly ones, just read some of the posts from submissives. Read a lot. Chat with other Doms and other subs. Be a better person yourself and you will become a better Dom. Why worry about what you think you NEED to be, just worry about being the best for making things work between yourself and your sub.

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RE: Am I a REAL DOM? - 8/17/2007 9:43:46 PM

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Do what you do, enjoy it, and forget the labels.

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